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Posted 11-28-2008 at 11:07 AM by Mr. Satisfaction
I meet my girlfriend in may of 1996,when i saw her i told her that she was my last stop.Months later she was pregnant,by that time she and i was already living together.After our first child, two years later we had our second child,then we moved to massachusetts in 2001,where i cheated on her,but felt guilty and shameless 
,i told her as soon as i got home.I also find out that night ,that she was pregnant with our 3rd child.Then 4 years later we moved again.At this time i had join the service,spent lots of time away from home.Came home one morning of may 2008 to find my wife in BED with her manager.She was so far in a relationship with him,he even had keys to my house.Now its been a little over 7 month,at time i ask myself why do i stay in this relationship.She tell me so many things that really would cause me to commit a crime,
but i block out so many things and just focus on my kids.Please any give me our opinion or advice...
,i told her as soon as i got home.I also find out that night ,that she was pregnant with our 3rd child.Then 4 years later we moved again.At this time i had join the service,spent lots of time away from home.Came home one morning of may 2008 to find my wife in BED with her manager.She was so far in a relationship with him,he even had keys to my house.Now its been a little over 7 month,at time i ask myself why do i stay in this relationship.She tell me so many things that really would cause me to commit a crime, but i block out so many things and just focus on my kids.Please any give me our opinion or advice...
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Okay Wow! You guys have alot of work ahead of you. First, you need to ask yourself if you still want to try and make the relationship work, then you need to sit down and ask her if she wants to try and make it work and assuming you both say yes, then you'll need to do alot of honest talking and probably go see a counselor in order to keep doing alot of honest talking. My husband and I went through a similiar thing. We got pregnant in 1996 and then got married and now have four kids. He had an affair on me two years ago right after the baby was born and I found out about it. We have been working through it but I honestly don't believe it's anything we will ever get over. I really wanted to try and cheat on him, I even went to some websites and flirted and almost arranged to meet but I decided that that just wasn't who I wanted to be. First you need to decide what you want. You aren't doing your kids any favor by being in a terrible marriage. If you are working toward living your best life then that is the best example your kids can have, so what do you want. THe great thing about it is you don't have to stick with it. You can try and if it doesn't work then you can start working towards living your life differently. That's the only advice I can give.
Posted 11-29-2008 at 01:10 PM by stillagirl
