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Why do I not want to be a cop?

Posted 04-25-2012 at 04:47 PM by txtqueen


When I became an explorer I got interested in law enforcement.
I wanted to learn how to become a cop so that I could be that power, that force that steps in when something is going on and says this isn't ok and that I help the people in need and make them feel safe again.

After issues with my mom and a recent issue with the police I have lost all faith in law enforcement. I cannot bring myself to work with people who have become so calloused and stoic from years on the job, nor do I want to become a cop and become one of those people and lose sight on what I was became one for.

I also realized that cops hands are so tied, there usually is very little they can do and the things they can do usually cause more trouble for people than is needed.

The main thing that led to me not wanting to be a cop anymore is something that happened back in February.

TG was dealing with crap at work.
I was dealing with legal issues with a friend and we both we're stressed to the max and just wanted away. So one Wednesday night after work, I got off at 11 and headed over to TG's who had been sent home from work early and then spent the rest of the day in bed miserable because of why he got sent home. (He had two customers in line with babies, two moms meeting for lunch, one mom bailed on the other mom and left to seat herself and her child, leaving the other mother to carry ALL the food and her child, TG kindly picked up their tray took it to the table and set it down for them. He in turn got yelled at for it because his GM told his it was a "bad decision")
He had been laying in bed watching tv drinking beer, he said he wanted to go up to the mountains and just get away. I wanted to as well I spent most the night crying at work because of the friend who tried to press felony charges on me. We we're both miserable. So we headed up to the mountains, didn't fill up before we left and all I had was my grandmothers gas card on me, I was suppose to get my check the next day.
Anyways, as I was driving up the mountain I started to try and find a shell gas station and couldn't find one, about georgetown I pulled off at an exit, changed in my car, found a shell station at the next exit and got back on the road and went to that station.

Then upon arriving could not find the gas card, started rapidly searching for it and couldn't find it, then finally found it and tried to pump. It didn't work, I tried 3 different pumps, none of them worked. Little did I know since I was using the card so far away from where it is typically used it flagged it as fraud, called my grandmother who is an hour ahead and she was asleep so she couldn't tell them it was ok. Proceed to me FREAKING OUT. Its below freezing, I'm half-assed dress in jeans and a hoodie and FLIP FLOPS, all I had in my car, my gas light was on, I'm looking at the mountains unrationally thinking about what might come attack and eat us and I get back in the car put the card down and then when I go to drive over to the other gas station because TG thinks he has a few dollars left on his card, I don't see the card when I put the car into gear, proceed to me stopping AGAIN, FREAKING OUT again, TG went over to the drivers side to look for me while I calmed down and stopped throwing **** looking for my card. He's sitting in the drivers seat, no intention to drive at all since he had been drinking.

Here's the kicker, a car starts to pull in behind us, TG see's said car and since we're currently blocking two pumps at once pulls the car up 3 GODDAMNED FEET and gets a DUI for it. 3 ****ING FEET at a CLOSED gas station(the pumps were on), in the MIDDLE of the night, with no one around. That's not DUI worthy. But no the law is black and white, with no compassion and discretion.

Oh and these wonderful members of law enforcement didn't even ask if we needed help, he only asked TG how much he had to drink. Lovely officer if you had nothing better to do than to watch us to harass us you would have seen that I WAS THE EFFING DRIVER, no no, lets not get the facts first.

Its total BS, we're fighting it and I lost ALL respect for law enforcement and realized something huge. I have tickets I can't afford to pay off all at once, my registration was $300, I could not ticket people for things like that because I know how hard it is to pay them off or be able to afford them. If someones tags were expired how do I know why they can't afford it, it may be because they spend their money on drugs, it may be because they have a very sick child and their house is getting foreclosed on and money is tight and food for the family trumped car registration. Then all the fines that come along with being late and such. It's all a giant way for the government to make money off the people.

Yes, there are still the cops out there who do a good job, they save lives and keep people safe but they are too few and far between for me to even want to try and work with them. I don't want to be any part of the cruel, cold callousedness that most officers become.

I rather put my knowledge and compassion to better use and do something that really matters, something that impacts the lives of others for the better, some that really lets people know that there is someone out there who cares and is there for them.

I've run through massage therapist (make the world a more relaxed and pain free place.)
Teacher (mold the minds of kids, teach them in a way they learn, make an impact on how they see education.)
Criminal defense attorney. (Some people are in the wrong place at the wrong time, they get wrongly blamed. They are being falsely accused. Whatever. They need protecting too. Someone needs to be there for them to make sure they have a fair trial, that the facts are all correct and found in a lawful manner and help get the truly innocent people out of the situations they find themselves in.

So that is why I do not want to be a cop any longer.
Yes, I am sad that I won't be but the system I once believed in has shown me it's ugly side, and I can't enforce something I don't think is just and right.
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  1. Old Comment
    Sometimes, things aren't what they appear to be or what they were expected to be. I wish you the best on whichever decision you make in life. With police, there's always the good and the bad. As you know, they have to make split-second decisions on law enforcement. It's a very dangerous profession and these folks put their lives on the line every day.

    Keep us posted on what you decide to do.

    Glad you're here!

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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 05:04 PM by case44 case44 is online now
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    This will **** you off, but all I see is more messing up by you and more blaming it on other people. If you can't afford to pay tickets and car registration, you can't afford to get away to the mountains.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:05 PM by Kibbiekat Kibbiekat is online now
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    *sighs*

    Kibbles....this was in February before registration and the ticket even happened.

    The ticket happened AFTER the incident and my registration was paid this month, I paid it but it was still a lot.

    And we just went for a drive, we didn't plan on doing anything or staying anywhere and said if we have to sleep in my car over night and drive back down the next day we would. $40 for a tank of gas to take a drive, see some pretty stars and mountains and clear our heads was all we were doing.

    The only thing I am at fault for is not keeping track of that card better and losing it twice and not filling up in town in the first place before we left.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:14 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
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    So. How has your life improved since becoming involved with TG? A great guy is not 26, living with another girl and her child, working at a fast food restaurant, getting sent home, drinking all day only to have his girlfriend drive to the mountains using her grandmother's money so they can "get away". Just food for thought.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:14 PM by maciesmom maciesmom is offline
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    I've learned life is not measured by the money you make or the things you accomplish but its about the memories you make and people who come into your life.

    He got sent home because his GM was being a *****.
    First yelling at him for putting the customer first and helping out women with babies.
    And then started yelling at him because some sour cream was on the counter and she saw it before he realized it spilled.

    Lets not even bother with that because HR is doing a huge investigation into that store and its management and he's been speaking with some really high up people over the stuff that goes on. He didn't do anything to get sent home, that GM is a cow.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:19 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
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    It's all great to say that (about what life is all about). But the reality is, the things you do cost money. And you're apparently quite happy to do them as long as someone else is paying. You don't pay rent, you don't pay for your car, or your gas apparently. You haven't gone to college (even though you had a college fund) and you don't seem to be much intersted in doing so if you have to take classes you aren't interested in. Your boyfriend is 26 and has a dead end job and, sorry to say it so bluntly, has pulled you further down to his level. If you want some good advice - the advice I would give my own daughter if she ever (God forbid) were in your place? I'd tell her to get her head out of the opposite end of her body and get her stuff together before she found herself in jail, with a record, with so much of what she wanted to do completely out of the picture forever. You still have time. Don't screw it up completely.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:32 PM by maciesmom maciesmom is offline
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    Originally Posted by maciesmom View Comment
    So. How has your life improved since becoming involved with TG? A great guy is not 26, living with another girl and her child, working at a fast food restaurant, getting sent home, drinking all day only to have his girlfriend drive to the mountains using her grandmother's money so they can "get away". Just food for thought.
    TG is a great guy, he's working hard and has to work his way up, he's most likely going to get transferred to another store and try to work his way up to GM of a store.
    He can cook really well, he knows how to clean, he's smart and frugal with money, he knows how to budget and grocery shop.
    He's a sweet guy who pushes me to do whats best for myself. School, work, everything. He wants to see me make something of myself. He is always pushing me to do the right thing.
    He's driven and smart and one day wants to own his own business again. Back home he was co-owner of a pressure cleaning business.
    He plans on working his way up with this company and eventually owning his own store. GM's where he works make like $50,000/yr, combined with my salary which would be similiar we'd bring in $100,000/yr+ which isn't bad, I mean not like you're a millionaire but he's also taught me money isn't everything.
    A small house on some land, have a few kids, have things like ATV's and dirt bikes and lots of family time is a dream we both share in common.
    He's a good guy, ok so he works at an entry-level position right now but at his last job he was made manager after a month, he has a lot of potential with this company. He wants to work his way up to a better position and he doesn't mind working hard to do so.

    And he wasn't drinking all day, he got sent home like an hour before he was supposed to get off anyways and slept for a little and had a few beers.

    He has goals, he inspires me to be a stronger more confident hard working person, he is sweet and kind and caring and has shown me that life is more than money or big nice cars and huge houses.

    He's shown me family is important, happiness matters and that as long as you are living comfortably, have a happy family and enjoy your life it doesn't matter how much you make and what not. I spend a lot of time with his family, its nice to be around people who care about each other.

    Trust me, he's really helped me learn and grow as a person and mature.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:34 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
  8. Old Comment
    So he only had "a few beers" before you came home. He got the DUI in Georgetown. That's at least an hour away. What did he blow? Sorry. It doesn't add up.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:36 PM by maciesmom maciesmom is offline
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    Originally Posted by maciesmom View Comment
    It's all great to say that (about what life is all about). But the reality is, the things you do cost money. And you're apparently quite happy to do them as long as someone else is paying. You don't pay rent, you don't pay for your car, or your gas apparently. You haven't gone to college (even though you had a college fund) and you don't seem to be much intersted in doing so if you have to take classes you aren't interested in. Your boyfriend is 26 and has a dead end job and, sorry to say it so bluntly, has pulled you further down to his level. If you want some good advice - the advice I would give my own daughter if she ever (God forbid) were in your place? I'd tell her to get her head out of the opposite end of her body and get her stuff together before she found herself in jail, with a record, with so much of what she wanted to do completely out of the picture forever. You still have time. Don't screw it up completely.
    I don't pay rent to my mom because she never asked me and I wouldn't if she did because I have such animosity towards her for freeloading off my grandmother.
    I do pay for my gas, majority of the time, tomorrow I get my check, I can fill my own tank up and plan on it. Last paycheck I paid $300 for my cars registration, my grandmother let me use the card then, before that I hadn't used the card since the mountain incident.
    I did take classes. Do you not remember when I first came here? I stated that I was in college and taking night classes and my mom was trying to give me a bedtime and I was a night person and did my homework at night?? I was in college from Dec 08' to January 11'. I quit school when I took on my first full time job at the gas station and had no time.

    He's actually not in a dead end job, thanks for the **** poor assumption.
    He was actually on track to work his way up the management rungs, he was in the process of being trained when the GM took it away. Now she and another manager are being investigated for not giving breaks, disability discrimination, harassment of employees, and breaking company policy and a lot of other things.

    Who do you think will need to take their positions when they get fired? Probably the person who was in training for one of those positions in the first place. He has someone very high up who thinks very high of him who is angry with his stores management right now and has told him she wants to transfer him to another store because he sounds like a great employee.

    Within the next year or year and a half, he hopefully will be GM of a store and they make more than cops do.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:42 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
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    So he only had "a few beers" before you came home. He got the DUI in Georgetown. That's at least an hour away. What did he blow? Sorry. It doesn't add up.
    I don't know exactly how many. Nor do I know what exactly he blew, they did the blood test.
    And it is 45 minutes away from us and he drank a beer right before we left too, I don't how much he had before I got there and it doesn't even matter because he wasn't even driving the only reason he was in my seat is because I couldn't pull it together long enough to look for the card.

    It was dark, I was cold, I was already anxious enough, we had his dog in the car who kept trying to get out as we looked for the card, it's dark, there's woods around us, animals live in those woods, I was freaked out. The pumps wouldn't work, my gas light was on, he was trying to help me out looking for that stupid card.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:47 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
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    Originally Posted by maciesmom View Comment
    It's all great to say that (about what life is all about). But the reality is, the things you do cost money. And you're apparently quite happy to do them as long as someone else is paying. You don't pay rent, you don't pay for your car, or your gas apparently. You haven't gone to college (even though you had a college fund) and you don't seem to be much intersted in doing so if you have to take classes you aren't interested in. Your boyfriend is 26 and has a dead end job and, sorry to say it so bluntly, has pulled you further down to his level. If you want some good advice - the advice I would give my own daughter if she ever (God forbid) were in your place? I'd tell her to get her head out of the opposite end of her body and get her stuff together before she found herself in jail, with a record, with so much of what she wanted to do completely out of the picture forever. You still have time. Don't screw it up completely.
    And why would I end up in jail with a record?
    In jail for what? I'm legal age to drink and I wouldn't drink and drive.
    We don't do drugs, we don't steal.

    We sit at home, watch tv, take his dog for walks, go to the dog park, we go play disc golf, we go visit his neice when she is with her grandfather(his dad), we go hang out over there, play with her, sometimes take her to the dog park with us, play outside. We go to his sisters house. We sometimes go to the hot tub, the pool at his complex is now open and I am sure we'll spend our time there now as well.

    Do we really sound like we're trouble?
    I think we sound pretty damn boring.
    Did I mention everything we do is free except the dog park?
    We don't even go out to bars. We drink at home and don't leave and if we do we walk, everything is close to his place so we walk there.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:52 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
  12. Old Comment
    So in other words, he didn't just have a few beers. You don't have any idea how much he had. You both made several bad decisions that night (at the VERY least) and all you can do, is whine that it is the cops fault. It's always someone else. Always. I do remember you taking a couple classes. YOu had several threads saying you wanted to drop them because they were stupid, you needed to get away, you were depressed etc etc. Same old same old. Its been close to 3 years. Nothing's changed.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:54 PM by maciesmom maciesmom is offline
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    Guess what we watch on tv when we do watch tv, usually stuff on H2 or discovery.

    The other night we watched about how the great lakes were formed and the ice ages. Very interesting things. There some on yellowstone, which was creepy because if that thing blows we're screwed.

    Throw in a little American Dad to round us out.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 07:57 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
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    So in other words, he didn't just have a few beers. You don't have any idea how much he had. You both made several bad decisions that night (at the VERY least) and all you can do, is whine that it is the cops fault. It's always someone else. Always. I do remember you taking a couple classes. YOu had several threads saying you wanted to drop them because they were stupid, you needed to get away, you were depressed etc etc. Same old same old. Its been close to 3 years. Nothing's changed.
    He hadn't had enough that he was incoherent. We sat there the whole way up talking about what was bothering each of us. He was talking just like he talked sober. He wasn't slurring his words and he kept more of a level head than I did.

    The bad decisions I made was not filling up before we left and then freaking out when I couldn't find the card. If I had just kept a level head and remained calm he never would have had to of looked for my card. He didn't do anything wrong, he didn't drive the goddamned car MM. There was no reason for those cops to approach us, we were trying to get gas. The stupid bastards didn't even care when they told me to follow them to the station and I told them my gas light was on and the card wasn't working, if I had run out of gas driving behind them they wouldn't have given a damn.

    We were in a situation and we needed help, not harassment from a bunch of bored mountain cops.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 08:01 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
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    Oh and guess what, he's teaching me how to budget my money as well.
    Anytime we go into a gas station, if I start grabbing a bunch of crap, he reminds me that I don't make much and its stupid to buy all of it.
    He and I go to the grocery store and he's showed me how to get the most for my dollar and comparing price to quantity, shopping cheaper and better.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 08:09 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
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    *sighs*

    Kibbles....this was in February before registration and the ticket even happened.

    The ticket happened AFTER the incident and my registration was paid this month, I paid it but it was still a lot.

    And we just went for a drive, we didn't plan on doing anything or staying anywhere and said if we have to sleep in my car over night and drive back down the next day we would. $40 for a tank of gas to take a drive, see some pretty stars and mountains and clear our heads was all we were doing.

    The only thing I am at fault for is not keeping track of that card better and losing it twice and not filling up in town in the first place before we left.
    You planned a long drive when you didn't have money for gas i.e. you couldn't afford to go. You wore flip flops and a hoodie to the mountains in the winter. I don't give a flying fig when you got the tickets or when your registration was due you STILL live pay check to pay check 3 years after you started coming here for advice. You're not in school. you're not making any progress toward changing your situation. All you do is make excuses.

    From where you are now, unable to pay bills as they come, to making $50K, owning land, etc. HOW ARE YOU GOING TO GET FROM POINT A TO POINT B??? It is not just magically going to happen. And WTF do you spend your money on??? you work full time and make a decent amt hourly. You don't pay rent. You don't have a car payment. Where is it all going??
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 09:11 PM by Kibbiekat Kibbiekat is online now
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    You planned a long drive when you didn't have money for gas i.e. you couldn't afford to go. You wore flip flops and a hoodie to the mountains in the winter. I don't give a flying fig when you got the tickets or when your registration was due you STILL live pay check to pay check 3 years after you started coming here for advice. You're not in school. you're not making any progress toward changing your situation. All you do is make excuses.

    From where you are now, unable to pay bills as they come, to making $50K, owning land, etc. HOW ARE YOU GOING TO GET FROM POINT A TO POINT B??? It is not just magically going to happen. And WTF do you spend your money on??? you work full time and make a decent amt hourly. You don't pay rent. You don't have a car payment. Where is it all going??
    Actually I wore my work uniform up into the mountains, I changed in my car when we were already in the mountains into jeans, my hoodie and the only thing besides my work boots was flip flops, I didn't plan on having to stand outside for as long as I did. My feet were nice and toasty in the car.

    Actually I got this job in December because it would make me more money. If for some reason his roommate changes her stance on me living there too, I've already talked to his sister about renting from her since she is looking for someone to.
    So hopefully by June I will be out somewhere.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 09:41 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
  18. Old Comment
    You wore flip flops and a hoodie to the mountains in the winter. Since you live here, you should know to always be prepared for any kind of weather, especially in the mountains, in the winter. you make bad decisions, and take no responsibility for them. End of story.

    You've been saying you'll be out for months and months now. Even if you have a place to live in June, you haven't said how you plan to work you way up to $50K. And, if you are living pay check to pay check now, w/o having to pay rent, I don't know how you think you'll be able to pay rent, utilities, and the bills you already have.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 09:47 PM by Kibbiekat Kibbiekat is online now
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    You wore flip flops and a hoodie to the mountains in the winter. Since you live here, you should know to always be prepared for any kind of weather, especially in the mountains, in the winter. you make bad decisions, and take no responsibility for them. End of story.

    You've been saying you'll be out for months and months now. Even if you have a place to live in June, you haven't said how you plan to work you way up to $50K. And, if you are living pay check to pay check now, w/o having to pay rent, I don't know how you think you'll be able to pay rent, utilities, and the bills you already have.
    I have enough to pay like $500 max in rent that's it. I'd change my spending habits is how, which TG is helping me do.
    station when I pulled over and changed and looked the gas station up on my phone.
    I didn't wear them TO the mountain.
    I was appropriately dressed when I was in my work uniform up until an exit before the gas
    Before I was wearing a LS white button up and itchy wool uniform pants. I didn't want them or my boots on, its not comfortable and it looks hideous.
    That's all I had in my car besides what I had on?
    Am I suppose to store my closet in my trunk?

    No, I said TG is working his way up to making $50K as a GM one day.
    I have to go to school and still decide what I want to do.
    Maybe massage therapist school, or law school or who the hell knows but one day Ill make more.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 10:07 PM by txtqueen txtqueen is offline
  20. Old Comment
    Whatever You said you'd each make about that.

    No you aren't supposed to store your clothes in your trunk. I suppose that's the only conceivable alternative to you. You couldn't possibly have changed before you left town, or worn your work boots. No, you drive up the hill with no gas, no gas money of your own, and no decent shoes, then ***** that no one helps you. Maybe you shouldn't put yourself in these situations.
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    Posted 04-25-2012 at 11:07 PM by Kibbiekat Kibbiekat is online now
 

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