I just need to rant

I just want to take a moment to express my state of mind about inconsiderate people. I retired back in the early ninety's and moved out to Las Vegas from the Texas area. Since being here I've purchased a four bedroom home and live by myself. Why is it that people think that they can invite themselves and others to live in my private domain when they get a desire to come out to Las Vegas? Although I live alone in this house, I use the entire house. When vacationer's (relatives) come I have to rearrange the entire upstairs to accommodate them and it's a great deal of work.

I have learned over time, that they're not coming to visit me, (many times not offering one red cent) they're coming to have a good time and return home. I have simply become the "INN KEEPER." What they fail to realize is that when they decide to vacation, I'm not in vacation mode, (mentally or financially) and I don't have the time or energy, nor do I have the extra money it takes for the increased utility bills which come long after they have left. And not to mention the extra wear and tear on my home. One year six people came at once, three adults and three small children, and my home is nowhere near child proof, there's fragile items and potential child hazards everywhere.

When I travel to their city, they do offer but I prefer to stay at a motel, because I want the privacy, and to not burden anyone. Trying to set this example hasn't helped at all. I guess the free way is the best way in their view. Over the years almost all my brother's and sister's have moved hear and now have their own places and they always invite friends to come out but they tell them they can stay at my house, and maybe use my cars. When I refuse their company, I get the guilt trip thing. "Oh you have all that space and all those cars, and you live there alone." All this because I won't let them use MY stuff.


The most recent issue to develop is a call earlier this year (maybe January) from a great nephew who recently turned 21 and has decided that he's moving out and is going to stay with me (again inviting himself) for two months until he gets his own apartment. Has a great job lined up and just needs a place to stay until he gets his feet on the ground. I get a call in August, and he is on his way. This made me nervous because I don't know of any place of employment that will wait 8 months for someone to arrive, especially a 21 year old with no experience at anything.

So I question the employment situation, and the response was, "Oh, I decided that I'm not going to work for anyone, I have my own internet business." Now grant it, this is coming from a kid who doesn't even have his own computer. My response is "well in that case you should be able to move into your own place as soon as you get here." He replies, "it's not doing well enough for that." So of course I told him not to come because I can't afford to have him here and he wouldn't be able to operate his business without his own computer (he thought that he would just use mine) and therefore would not have a source of income and subsequently not be able to support himself.

Believe it or not he flew out anyway. But this time I'm putting my foot down, he is not moving in (never invite a vampire into your house) and now, he is instead living with my sister who I think told him to come out anyway, and she keeps reminding me that he is here at her home. And by God, that is where he will stay. Now don't get me wrong, I love the kid and really hope for him to become successful, in fact I would like to see him become a millionaire with this internet business, but I've seen this movie before, and most of the time movies like this have a not so good ending.

I'm getting older and can't handle the undue stress of dealing with all these people and thought that I would sell this place a get a much, much smaller place, but then I said to myself, Self, you don't have to compromise your comfort because of freeloader's, tell the to get a motel, and rent a car when they come out and just leave me out of their vacation plans. Does anyone else have this problem with out of state relatives using your place for their motel?