Welcome to City-Data.com forum! Make sure to The Parenting Manual
Posted 07-18-2008 at 09:49 PM by bibit612
Now why would this topic be classified under City Data? Because this is about the Parenting forum. Posters who venture into this Forum are those who enjoy walking into the lions den. I'm willing to bet that the CD posters who eat each other alive in the Politics and Other Controversies thread would tremble in their undies as they type their responses in the threads over yonder.
The Parenting forum gets my vote as the most emotionally charged, sensitive, walking-on-eggshells forum of CD...beats P&OC hands down in my book. It's because every parent has their own manual on how to raise their child, and in their book (read: they have a manual), there's only one way to do it. Of course, since there are many different books (as many as there are posters
), versions will be compared...grandma versions, overseas versions, versions just for multiples, versions on spanking versus time-outs...you name it, there's a version. Many times, I've seen the signs of escalating tension...slowly but surely...post vs post...it's written all over it, the soon and inevitable verdict of "Thread Closed!" Ta-daaa. I knew it. See, if only all parents realize that the only book that's worth following is the one that they alone have, the only one made for them and unique to EACH and every child they have, there wouldn't be all these all-too-common food fights. Each parent is unique, each child is unique. Because in my book, parenting is whatever works.
The Parenting forum gets my vote as the most emotionally charged, sensitive, walking-on-eggshells forum of CD...beats P&OC hands down in my book. It's because every parent has their own manual on how to raise their child, and in their book (read: they have a manual), there's only one way to do it. Of course, since there are many different books (as many as there are posters
), versions will be compared...grandma versions, overseas versions, versions just for multiples, versions on spanking versus time-outs...you name it, there's a version. Many times, I've seen the signs of escalating tension...slowly but surely...post vs post...it's written all over it, the soon and inevitable verdict of "Thread Closed!" Ta-daaa. I knew it. See, if only all parents realize that the only book that's worth following is the one that they alone have, the only one made for them and unique to EACH and every child they have, there wouldn't be all these all-too-common food fights. Each parent is unique, each child is unique. Because in my book, parenting is whatever works.
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I lived through parenting alright. Had my on way and it must have worked. All are healthy and not in any jail or never been in trouble. But the fun now is watching the payback as the grand kids are trying the same old tricks their ma or pa did on me.Posted 07-18-2008 at 10:29 PM by Nomadicus
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I never had a manual but I always swore I would not be my parents. I was right, I was worse. I spent 4 years in the Air Force and 12 years in the Army and had a reputation of being a very strict father. It paid off though. My kids (35 and 33) and I are now friends. They come to me with their questions and problems. The best part is now their kids are giving pay back.Posted 07-18-2008 at 11:09 PM by njmike
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I never had a manual and never needed a manual..I allowed the mother instinct of love, protection nourishing and teaching to grow each day as I raised four kids who were anywhere from 11 months apart to 18 months apart..They taught me by the tone of their cries, the frustration of their early communication and their total dependance that I would know what to do..Posted 07-19-2008 at 10:34 AM by Miss Blue
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That's exactly it! The "manual" is a hypothetical book of rules that every parent goes by. No such real book exists! Every one has a different style, a different set of life experiences that affect their parenting style. There are too many variables, that is why many times, I avoid giving advice on how to raise other people's kids, how to discipline, how to instill values. Because everyone and everyone's life events are different. Can I give advice on what to do for a fever of 106 degrees...yes I could do that. Do I have set views on discipline? For me and my kids yes, for anyone else's absolutely not. It's whatever works for everyone is the rule I go by.Posted 07-19-2008 at 11:58 AM by bibit612
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I was in dire need of that manual and so were my kids! But we all made it somehow. They are my best friends now. Nothing could possibly be more rewarding then being a parent.Posted 09-28-2008 at 07:36 PM by eastidahomom
