Well this is my first attempt at a blog. I think I will start with general ramblings of daily interests for me and my life. Not that I think people should care about my life, but who knows something I say might help someone else. Sometimes it is nice to know you aren't alone.
LOVE. Is it really worth the effort?
Posted 05-28-2009 at 05:03 PM by Kerowyn
Once again a post/thread has inspired me to write in me wee little blog.
This time I shall converse upon the great illusive thoughts and mindset of LOVE. Is it really worth the effort? Should love be the end all cure to all human woes? Does love fulfill a soul and if how is that accomplished? Is the only fulfilling love that which someone gives to us in a relationship? Why do we seek love? How many more questions can this silly girl come up with regarding love? J
Many years ago I thought love was simple. I loved my dog, my friend’s horses (wasn’t allowed to have one of my own). I loved pizza, playing soccer, my cats, and of course the Monkees, Donny Osmond, Randolph Mantooth and Roddy McDowall. Love was simple and direct, not one complicated mess as it tends to be now that I am older. What is the change? Had loved changed or have I?
Let’s see I still love my dog, well dogs now. I still love horses although I don’t have any nor a friend with some to share. I still love pizza, haven’t played soccer in what seems like eons. I do love my cat and still have warm fuzzies for the Monkees, Donny Osmond, Randolph Mantooth and I cried when Roddy McDowall died. So have I really changed? Has love? Can one really love such non-intimate contributions to ones life? Gee I just keep coming up with more questions, answers I need answers.
I see this in so many people who say they give up on love. I have even utter those words after gut wrenching heartache. Did I really mean it? No not really. Do others really mean? At the time they say it yes I believe they do, just like meant it when I said it. We can all understand not wanting the heartaches and the pain involved, but without the pain you can't have the joy love brings into your life. One just can’t have one without the other. I don’t believe life was designed that way to be exclusive to one side or the other.
Let’s question how can one live life without love? Does one just muddle through day to day life without any emotion? Not having a connection to life? How does one live a life without love?
On a personal note, I was put on Prozac many many years ago, I almost killed myself because of the reaction or lack of reaction. All emotions stopped. No joys no sorrow no nothing. I felt like I was a walking flat line. Is that how it is to live life without love?
I love my pets and it tears me apart each time I have to let one pass on. My last beloved WGSD died with me screaming her name to stay with me and fight! CHF took her away from me and I was inconsolable. Even had to go away that DAY on a weekend vacation with a friend. I was so lost, in such pain, shocked but it was her time... I cry even now thinking about that day. Even though I suffered so much at her leaving, I would not change one ounce of love, joy and happiness I had with her in my life, nor would I change the aggravating hardships we shared.
The emotion of Love whether it is the love of a human, pets, other - all love is worth the pain of separation, loss and sadness. One cannot have one side of the coin without having the flipside. Love is worth the pain if it is truly love, especially unconditional love.
Is it really worth the effort? I would say yes it very much worth the effort. Think about all the joy to be experienced if even it is for a short time. never give up just change tactics, or redefine but never give up. One has not made perfect in love if one has fear. Love casts out fear.
I hope to write more on this subject as I can find the time. So many questions I didn’t answer here and so many more questions to ask. I think this is a good start. Till next posting
Blessed Be.
This time I shall converse upon the great illusive thoughts and mindset of LOVE. Is it really worth the effort? Should love be the end all cure to all human woes? Does love fulfill a soul and if how is that accomplished? Is the only fulfilling love that which someone gives to us in a relationship? Why do we seek love? How many more questions can this silly girl come up with regarding love? J
Many years ago I thought love was simple. I loved my dog, my friend’s horses (wasn’t allowed to have one of my own). I loved pizza, playing soccer, my cats, and of course the Monkees, Donny Osmond, Randolph Mantooth and Roddy McDowall. Love was simple and direct, not one complicated mess as it tends to be now that I am older. What is the change? Had loved changed or have I?
Let’s see I still love my dog, well dogs now. I still love horses although I don’t have any nor a friend with some to share. I still love pizza, haven’t played soccer in what seems like eons. I do love my cat and still have warm fuzzies for the Monkees, Donny Osmond, Randolph Mantooth and I cried when Roddy McDowall died. So have I really changed? Has love? Can one really love such non-intimate contributions to ones life? Gee I just keep coming up with more questions, answers I need answers.
I see this in so many people who say they give up on love. I have even utter those words after gut wrenching heartache. Did I really mean it? No not really. Do others really mean? At the time they say it yes I believe they do, just like meant it when I said it. We can all understand not wanting the heartaches and the pain involved, but without the pain you can't have the joy love brings into your life. One just can’t have one without the other. I don’t believe life was designed that way to be exclusive to one side or the other.
Let’s question how can one live life without love? Does one just muddle through day to day life without any emotion? Not having a connection to life? How does one live a life without love?
On a personal note, I was put on Prozac many many years ago, I almost killed myself because of the reaction or lack of reaction. All emotions stopped. No joys no sorrow no nothing. I felt like I was a walking flat line. Is that how it is to live life without love?
I love my pets and it tears me apart each time I have to let one pass on. My last beloved WGSD died with me screaming her name to stay with me and fight! CHF took her away from me and I was inconsolable. Even had to go away that DAY on a weekend vacation with a friend. I was so lost, in such pain, shocked but it was her time... I cry even now thinking about that day. Even though I suffered so much at her leaving, I would not change one ounce of love, joy and happiness I had with her in my life, nor would I change the aggravating hardships we shared.
The emotion of Love whether it is the love of a human, pets, other - all love is worth the pain of separation, loss and sadness. One cannot have one side of the coin without having the flipside. Love is worth the pain if it is truly love, especially unconditional love.
Is it really worth the effort? I would say yes it very much worth the effort. Think about all the joy to be experienced if even it is for a short time. never give up just change tactics, or redefine but never give up. One has not made perfect in love if one has fear. Love casts out fear.
I hope to write more on this subject as I can find the time. So many questions I didn’t answer here and so many more questions to ask. I think this is a good start. Till next posting
Blessed Be.
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Love at best is a spiritual recognition of another person supported by chemistry.
Is it worth the effort? Only if the effort results in a stronger relationship. In this day and age, it usually doesn't. We are so distracted by the perfect view of everything that we can no longer make up our own minds about what is real and what isn't.
You need to start with loving yourself and move on from there. A person who recognizes you as someone who loves themself can have a bigger chance of loving you.Posted 05-29-2009 at 10:25 PM by yukiko11
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I see you're an Emergency! fan, too. Johnny Gage, what a character. He always talked with his mouth full whatever he'd eat something. Classic, classic, classic.Posted 05-30-2009 at 05:43 AM by case44
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case44 what planet are you from?Posted 05-30-2009 at 10:41 AM by yukiko11
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I was wondering if someone was going figure out that Mantooth reference. LOL Good for you Case44!Posted 06-03-2009 at 06:08 PM by Kerowyn
