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Posted 05-31-2009 at 08:01 PM by linicx
My daughter has two wishes before she dies. One is to go to Hawaii for a week and they other is to go to a friends farm in Washington state. She wants to sit under her favorite tree and play with the four new calves.
I talked to her a few days ago. She is in Hawaii and wants to die there, but it doesn't seem likely. She is coughing now. I asked uf she had a cold. "No mother, the cancer is my lungs. I found a new lump on the back of my net where the spine and neck meet."
She leaves Hawaii sometime today, and will arrive home tomorrow - if she survives. The nurse told her that if she lived to fly home she would be surprised.
What kind of nurse is that?
If she is physically able, she will leave to see the calves later this week.
My tightly wound spring is slowly coming unwound. Death is a shock whether we see it coming or not. My mother died un-expectedly. I don't know which is worse - knowing or not.
I talked to her a few days ago. She is in Hawaii and wants to die there, but it doesn't seem likely. She is coughing now. I asked uf she had a cold. "No mother, the cancer is my lungs. I found a new lump on the back of my net where the spine and neck meet."
She leaves Hawaii sometime today, and will arrive home tomorrow - if she survives. The nurse told her that if she lived to fly home she would be surprised.
What kind of nurse is that?
If she is physically able, she will leave to see the calves later this week.
My tightly wound spring is slowly coming unwound. Death is a shock whether we see it coming or not. My mother died un-expectedly. I don't know which is worse - knowing or not.
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Everyone goes through stages when dealing with their own death or the death of a loved one. They are disbelief, denial, anger, and acceptance. The person who is dying usually reaches these points sooner than those who love them. It seems that your daughter is at peace with her impending demise and you must accept that and not try to deny it. She will live as long as it takes for her to realize her wishes .....or not.
When you finally have to face her loss, I would like to offer you some comfort. I am not a particularly religious person, but this Psalm has often given me comfort with my own losses. Psalm 84:6 paraphrased says blessed men journey through the valley of Baca and having dug a well the rains came.
The meaning of valley of Baca is valley of tears. Everyone must enter and walk through this valley alone. There is no map to tell you how long or hard the journey will be, but if you commit to doing something positive everyday (dig a well) the rain will fall (your healing will begin). I often tell people to find a small container and when their burden becomes too much to bear, put it in there until they are ready to take it up again and continue on their journey. When their journey is done and healing has begun, place all of their most precious memories in this container and keep it as a beloved momento of their loved one.
Yes, this is your child, and nothing can ever replace her, but celebrate her life in your heart every day and be thankful of the time and experiences you have had with her.Posted 05-31-2009 at 10:56 PM by yukiko11
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I am very sorry to hear of your daughter's illness. I am sending well wishes and prayers for you both. Take care of yourself in the upcoming months.
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