I would always react when my children did not comply with the school rules.
My daughter respected the school rules, in general, but she knew how to manipulate them very cleverly.
There was a rule in her high-school that stated that if a pupil had more than 8 unexcused absences it would lower the conduct grade. Every year she was absent from exactly 8 classes. Class teacher was very angry about it and called me for an interview. Apart from talking to my daughter, there was not much I could do, because this would interfere with my educational principals. For the record, I would never justify her absences when the reasons were not really justifiable, contrary to what many parents did.
I have a theory I would repeat often to my children:
Every man has as much liberty as he has worth, but the amount of liberty he uses equals the amount of consequences he is ready to bear. In life, there is nothing for free.
My daughter thought that her school success gave her the right to be absent from classes when it suited her, but she was not willing to have a lower conduct grades, so she would stopped at the limit after which the consequences would follow.
All of the rules were respected.
My daughter respected the school rules, in general, but she knew how to manipulate them very cleverly.
There was a rule in her high-school that stated that if a pupil had more than 8 unexcused absences it would lower the conduct grade. Every year she was absent from exactly 8 classes. Class teacher was very angry about it and called me for an interview. Apart from talking to my daughter, there was not much I could do, because this would interfere with my educational principals. For the record, I would never justify her absences when the reasons were not really justifiable, contrary to what many parents did.
I have a theory I would repeat often to my children:
Every man has as much liberty as he has worth, but the amount of liberty he uses equals the amount of consequences he is ready to bear. In life, there is nothing for free.
My daughter thought that her school success gave her the right to be absent from classes when it suited her, but she was not willing to have a lower conduct grades, so she would stopped at the limit after which the consequences would follow.
All of the rules were respected.
Personal teacher/Tutor
Posted 02-05-2012 at 11:30 AM by znljubica
Parents often hire personal teachers for their child. The reasons is vary: parents do not have enough time for their child or do not know how to motivate the child, child has little success because the lazy, the child has poor performance for some subjects for which no preference ....
Whatever the reason, parents must choice tutor very careful. Whether we like it or not, private teacher comes into our house and can bring more harm than good.
If you do not have enough time for your child, it is best to hire a teacher for a day learning. Don't look teachers in the advertising. Ask your friends, parents of your child’s friends, teacher at school ... He or she, primarily, must be a person who is a good pedagogue, positive and optimistic, it is desirable to have children, it is preferable that these children showed the results of proper education .
A bit of time you spend with your child, use for socializing and conversation. You need to know whether the child likes to work with the tutor, how to learn, about what they were discussing, as a teacher in the mood, is he unhappy with something in the life and this is transferred to the child.
And remember, personal teacher must not represent opposing methods and attitudes of yours. You are the parent, you are responsible for your child, you love your child!
If the tutor has objections to your methods, attitudes and behavior , he needs to talk to you, not to the child. Therefore, please be in touch with the tutor and synchronize your relationship with your child.
If you have “lost” communication with your child or the child is lazy, it is much more useful to consult a psychologist. You ,not a child. The first step towards solving the problem is that parents find their mistakes in the bringing up of their children. Remember, a child did not bring up himself, only parent is responsible for it .
When a child has problem to understand the material only for some subjects, encourage him to seek help from teachers at and friends. If the problem persists, it is reasonable to engage the personal teacher.Parent must follow this work , too, to be informed of how these classes take place and how the child progressed. The task of the personal teacher ,in this case, is that student approached the matter, to be encouraged to work harder to catch up and facilitate the monitoring of regular classes at school.
Hiring a tutor can help a lot, but can be more harmful.It is help only when needed to compensate some shortcomings in knowledge, but ,sometame, the students less follow teaching in school by relying on private teachers, do not investigate and come to conclusions by themselves , as the personal teacher works for them. It is harmful.
Believe me! I am a private teacher.
My child
Whatever the reason, parents must choice tutor very careful. Whether we like it or not, private teacher comes into our house and can bring more harm than good.
If you do not have enough time for your child, it is best to hire a teacher for a day learning. Don't look teachers in the advertising. Ask your friends, parents of your child’s friends, teacher at school ... He or she, primarily, must be a person who is a good pedagogue, positive and optimistic, it is desirable to have children, it is preferable that these children showed the results of proper education .
A bit of time you spend with your child, use for socializing and conversation. You need to know whether the child likes to work with the tutor, how to learn, about what they were discussing, as a teacher in the mood, is he unhappy with something in the life and this is transferred to the child.
And remember, personal teacher must not represent opposing methods and attitudes of yours. You are the parent, you are responsible for your child, you love your child!
If the tutor has objections to your methods, attitudes and behavior , he needs to talk to you, not to the child. Therefore, please be in touch with the tutor and synchronize your relationship with your child.
If you have “lost” communication with your child or the child is lazy, it is much more useful to consult a psychologist. You ,not a child. The first step towards solving the problem is that parents find their mistakes in the bringing up of their children. Remember, a child did not bring up himself, only parent is responsible for it .
When a child has problem to understand the material only for some subjects, encourage him to seek help from teachers at and friends. If the problem persists, it is reasonable to engage the personal teacher.Parent must follow this work , too, to be informed of how these classes take place and how the child progressed. The task of the personal teacher ,in this case, is that student approached the matter, to be encouraged to work harder to catch up and facilitate the monitoring of regular classes at school.
Hiring a tutor can help a lot, but can be more harmful.It is help only when needed to compensate some shortcomings in knowledge, but ,sometame, the students less follow teaching in school by relying on private teachers, do not investigate and come to conclusions by themselves , as the personal teacher works for them. It is harmful.
Believe me! I am a private teacher.
My child
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Good post.
Posted 02-15-2012 at 03:14 PM by malfunction
