Real confidence is very quiet. Loud confidence is unattractive for both sexes. A person who has quiet confidence displays they are comfortable in their own skin, has a stronger sense of humor, can laugh at themselves and is extremely easy to talk to. They are way more approachable. A person with loud confidence displays an attitude that just screams in the opposite direction. It's having a false sense of self importance and is displaying what is perceived as strength and it's completly the opposite. They also tend to get angry pretty easily, are vocally loud, have a very materialistic personality and try to convince people they are confident. Loud confidence is just a masking of insecurity. It absolutely makes a difference no matter if you are a man or a woman. My own father had loud confidence and my brothers and I used to joke that 'The less he knew - the louder he talked.' I found that to be true with men I have dated and worked for as well. There's a huge difference between the two and often times people are confused by the two or what I can distinguish between the two, someone else may not. It's tricky. But you will find more people, men and women, around a quietly confident person, usually a lot of laughter, and very little attitude. They are typically the life of the party. They are extremely appealing and that type of confidence exudes from them effortlessly.
Last edited by Thursday007; 04-25-2012 at 07:13 AM..