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Old 10-26-2013, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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I don't understand what a visitor message is.

Thanks!
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Old 10-26-2013, 07:22 AM
 
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Visitor message is published on your profile page for everyone to see, kind of like the FB wall. Direct message appears in your inbox and only you can read it - much like an email - with proper username and password.
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Old 10-26-2013, 10:31 AM
 
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Visitor message is published on your profile page for everyone to see, kind of like the FB wall. Direct message appears in your inbox and only you can read it - much like an email - with proper username and password.
Slight addition to the bolded portion - anyone who can see your profile can see visitor messages that others leave for you. If you have your profile set to "Private" so that only people on your friends list can see it, only your friends can see your visitor messages.
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Old 10-26-2013, 05:38 PM
 
Location: Dallas TX & AL Gulf Coast
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Visitor message is published on your profile page for everyone to see, kind of like the FB wall. .
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Slight addition to the bolded portion - anyone who can see your profile can see visitor messages that others leave for you. If you have your profile set to "Private" so that only people on your friends list can see it, only your friends can see your visitor messages.
Slight addition to both posts above -- then only true if you have your Public Visitor Messaging option in your profile enabled, because you can completely disable this Public Visitor Messaging altogether if you so choose by following these steps below:

- Select your My Settings (top left of any page)
- Scroll down column at left of page to Settings and Options
- Select Edit Options
- Scroll down to Messaging & Notification section
- Under this, scroll down to the Visitor Messaging section
- De-select (leave blank) the box next to Enable Public Visitor Messaging to disable

To enable this Public Visitor Messaging, click on the box next to Enable Public Visitor Messaging, which will leave a check mark in it.

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Old 10-26-2013, 05:53 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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Thank you all. I am finding City Data rather confusing, but the more effort you put into it, I suppose the clearer things get. I don't want anyone reading anything on my account, so I will follow the above (just above) suggestion.

This is off-topic, and I only have two "friends" (I'm not on Facebook, so I really don't "get" what "friends" are all about), but-- What if someone you posted to the same forum with when you first joined asked to be your friend, you agreed (because it seemed unfriendly not to do so), and then you read their posts on other forums, and they turn out to be perhaps not the kind of person you want for a friend after all?

Or should I post this on a different thread? Thank you.
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Old 10-26-2013, 07:56 PM
 
Location: Mayacama Mtns in CA
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^^ You have the ability to un-friend this person.

My settings --> Contacts & Friends:
De-select the check mark by clicking on it. Save changes at the bottom of the box.

I've had to do this once or twice.


ETA: I agree that this site is so rich in options that it is confusing at first. It just takes a while to put it all together
and you're in the exact right place for learning, here in About The Forum.
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Old 10-27-2013, 01:33 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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^^ You have the ability to un-friend this person.

My settings --> Contacts & Friends:
De-select the check mark by clicking on it. Save changes at the bottom of the box.

I've had to do this once or twice.


ETA: I agree that this site is so rich in options that it is confusing at first. It just takes a while to put it all together
and you're in the exact right place for learning, here in About The Forum.
Thanks! Now the question is how to unfriend someone without them noticing or retaliating or whatever. That's the exact reason I avoid Facebook.
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Old 10-27-2013, 01:42 PM
 
Location: New Mexico U.S.A.
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Thanks! Now the question is how to unfriend someone without them noticing or retaliating or whatever. That's the exact reason I avoid Facebook.

If you unfriend people, do they get a notification?


No.

These threads may explain more:
Rejecting a Friend Request
Friendship and Contacts
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Old 10-27-2013, 02:43 PM
 
Location: NW Indiana
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Thanks! Now the question is how to unfriend someone without them noticing or retaliating or whatever. That's the exact reason I avoid Facebook.
Not to worry. If you delete a contact or friend on City-Data, they likely will never even notice it if they're not someone you frequently correspond with.

Delete away, Hillmeister.

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Old 10-27-2013, 03:47 PM
 
Location: Yellow cottage, green doors.
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This is off-topic, and I only have two "friends" (I'm not on Facebook, so I really don't "get" what "friends" are all about), but--


To me, those on my friends list means I connect with you and care about you and that if you ever showed up at my door I would feed you and give you shelter and friendship. I really mean it when I put someone on my friends list.
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