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Old 06-15-2010, 07:15 PM
 
Location: NYC
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I am a single 40+ black American female and I am considering adopting a black American child. I have heard that adoption is difficult for singles but given the number of available black children would single parenthood present the same problem? Also are there any adoption agencies that specialize in adoption of black children?

- Not looking for an infant ... prob ages 3 - 4.
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Old 06-15-2010, 07:37 PM
 
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Adoption rules vary from state to state. Some states would be more open to single parent adoption than others. Where do you live?

The following organization can help you learn your state laws: the National Adoption Center, 1500 Walnut Street, Philadelphia, PA 19102, (215) 735- 9988 or 1-800-TO-ADOPT.
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Old 06-15-2010, 07:59 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Adoption rules vary from state to state. Some states would be more open to single parent adoption than others. Where do you live?

The following organization can help you learn your state laws: the National Adoption Center, 1500 Walnut Street, Philadelphia, PA 19102, (215) 735- 9988 or 1-800-TO-ADOPT.
Thx.
I live in Queens, New York.
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Old 06-16-2010, 12:35 PM
 
Location: San Antonio
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Bravo, and good luck to you!
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Old 06-16-2010, 12:45 PM
 
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I knew of a woman a number of years ago who was in her 40s, handicapped, single and white. She wanted to adopt, made a few phone calls and went to Florida and picked up a newborn black baby. The birth mother was a drug addict. If it was that easy for her, it should be a piece of cake for you.
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Old 06-16-2010, 01:24 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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as an adoptive mama to 3 wonderful girls I applaud your efforts. I would suggest you consider fostering first and then you could have a foot in the door for adoption. That is how alot of adoptions happen.

Also the training you have to go thru for fostering would be invaluable if you are considering an older child. We did not adopt thru foster parenting but we did complete the 3 month course which dealt mostly with the issues affecting older kids (not infants) and how to best handle them.

Do alot of reading on adopting older children and be prepared for thorough home study, crimninal background check and every personal question you can think of.

But it is worth it. Good luck--call your country Dept of Children's services to get started or Kids Peace.
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Old 06-16-2010, 04:36 PM
 
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I use to work in the adoption field and there is a huge lack of African American couples or singles looking to adopt. Adoption agencies love when they can find an AA couple or single because many AA birthmothers would prefer that. You looking for a toddler makes it a little harder because mostly newborns are placed through adoption agencies. You could adopt through the state, just be aware the child may have issues because of physical abuse, sexual abuse, drug exposure or a combination of these. Good luck to you.
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Old 06-16-2010, 09:16 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Just wondering why you don't want an infant? Of course there is no guarantee with any kid, bio or adopted, but with an infant your influences and care from the get go may minimize the many issues with adopting older kids. Remember most kids the age you are requesting have been either abused or neglected and these issues can last a life time. And besides, time passes so quickly with growing children, the diapers and crying phase seems to fly by.

Please don't think you are too old for an infant. Many families aren't started till 40's these days and alot of us feel we are better equiped to be good parents than we were in our 20's.
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Old 06-18-2010, 10:22 AM
 
Location: Connecticut
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If your are willing to go a little older like 2-3 you should check through the foster care system. There are thousands of children in foster care who are eligable for adoption. And it is no harder to for someone who is single to adopt.
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Old 06-19-2010, 05:48 PM
 
Location: NYC
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as an adoptive mama to 3 wonderful girls I applaud your efforts. I would suggest you consider fostering first and then you could have a foot in the door for adoption. That is how alot of adoptions happen.

Also the training you have to go thru for fostering would be invaluable if you are considering an older child. We did not adopt thru foster parenting but we did complete the 3 month course which dealt mostly with the issues affecting older kids (not infants) and how to best handle them.

Do alot of reading on adopting older children and be prepared for thorough home study, crimninal background check and every personal question you can think of.

But it is worth it. Good luck--call your country Dept of Children's services to get started or Kids Peace.
Good idea. I'm going to check out the foster parent training, since it will probably help me to decide if I am cut out for parenthood!
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