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Old 09-28-2010, 06:19 PM
Location: Canada
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Originally Posted by no kudzu View Post
Our Korean adopted daughter turns 27 years old today. Every year we look up to the stars and whisper a prayer that her birth family so many miles away will somehow know she is having a beautiful life and that they made the best choice for her.

We have 2 other adopted daughters I have started this birthday tradition with. We did not want to celebrate 2 special days, birthdays and adoption days.

I'm wondering what other adoptive families do to celebrate special days like we do.

I don't have any adopted children. I just wanted to say that I think what you do is very special. She is lucky to have you. By the way has she ever asked to find her biological parents?
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Old 09-28-2010, 06:41 PM
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Usually in Asian adoptions, it is next to impossible to find birth parents. For all 3 of our adoptions, false names and address were given to authorities. That fact hasn't seem to bother any of them.

We often talked about the beauty of the randomness of our getting together as Mother and daughter. Or was it random?

Sometimes we would kid about all the other possibilities her life could have taken . When she was young I tried to get her to help me in the garden but she was very squimish about bugs, etc so she flat out refused or groused the whole time if I forced her. Then I would say to her " Listen, you've got it easy here. You could be getting up at 4 a.m. on snowy days to milk cows in Wisconsin." She would double over in laughter.

Our youngest girls don't talk about their adoption at all. I sometimes mention it casually or sit them down to ask if they have any questions but neither one has shown any interest. I think having an older doting Asian sister might be one reason. When they are ready we will share what we know but it isn't much. They know who their real parents are.
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Old 09-28-2010, 06:47 PM
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i'm adopted from russia. i'm 20 now. my biological mother was 16 when she had me. my birth name is really long, even for russian standards.

we celebrate the birthday written on my birth certificate, which is actually a guess. we don't celebrate my adoption day, in fact i don't even know what day it is except that it was sometime in may. i do hope that my biological mother knows in her heart that she made the best choice for me.

my parents tell me a lot of stories of what i was like as a kid. lol. they told me the first time i went in a car and a plane i was just freaking out with excitement, lol. they also tell me how the only thing i would eat was not bread and butter, but just the butter off the bread. the bread was just there so i had something to lick the butter off of. to this day i still eat some bread with my butter (though i actually do eat the bread too), wink.

my wife and i plan on adopting too.
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