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View Poll Results: IVF or Adoption?
IVF 19 46.34%
Adoption 22 53.66%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 41. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 09-11-2013, 09:53 AM
 
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I would probably try IVF then eventually adopt.

My cousin adopted EIGHT kids from Africa, WAY before it was made popular by Angelina too

Everyone told her she was crazy, but I admired her for doing it. She has no kids of her own but I don't think she cares. My mom made a comment like "well doesn't she want any of her own" and I told her don't say that in front of her, it's rude.

Those kids are truly blessed, my cousin had lots of money so was able to adopt so many.
Sorry I have to make a point here and I realize you mean no harm. Your cousin DOES have her own children, she has eight of them. As my 7yr old asked last week "if you're not my "real mom" than who is?" Please be careful with your language.
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Old 09-11-2013, 08:51 PM
 
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*rolls eyes* Seriously? I meant no biological children that came from her hoo-haw- is that better? I don't go around to her kids saying "well you know she's not your REAL mom...."
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Old 09-11-2013, 08:59 PM
 
Location: 60630
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*rolls eyes* Seriously? I meant no biological children that came from her hoo-haw- is that better? I don't go around to her kids saying "well you know she's not your REAL mom...."
Why are you being rude. She said she knew you meant no harm..All she was doing was pointing out that those kids are just like her biological children.

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Old 09-11-2013, 09:33 PM
 
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I am not trying to be rude but I don't appreciate being told to be careful with my language when my post was merely misconstrued. Saying "sorry" before a post doesn't mean it's okay now to insinuate that I was saying my cousin's kids were not her own children.

I know they are my cousins "own" kids; before then she had no biological children, I realize now I didn't make that distinction but didn't think it was necessary.
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Old 09-14-2013, 08:48 PM
 
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I am not trying to be rude but I don't appreciate being told to be careful with my language when my post was merely misconstrued. Saying "sorry" before a post doesn't mean it's okay now to insinuate that I was saying my cousin's kids were not her own children.

I know they are my cousins "own" kids; before then she had no biological children, I realize now I didn't make that distinction but didn't think it was necessary.
I agree, you meant no harm. I have adopted myself and know well about the sensitivity of how we phrase things, but we do not have to be so anal when we are just doing a post here. I loved the "hoo-haw" remark.
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Old 09-15-2013, 08:23 PM
 
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I hope to have an update to this thread by Christmas folks. Things are moving along after a slow crawl during the summer. I'll provide details this winter. All in all though, I'm still pleased with our decision to adopt and actually, we are now hoping to adopt an infant and a sibling group of two. (Would be nice if we were placed with an infant and a toddler.) We'll see...stay tuned!
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Old 09-18-2013, 12:19 AM
 
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I hope to have an update to this thread by Christmas folks. Things are moving along after a slow crawl during the summer. I'll provide details this winter. All in all though, I'm still pleased with our decision to adopt and actually, we are now hoping to adopt an infant and a sibling group of two. (Would be nice if we were placed with an infant and a toddler.) We'll see...stay tuned!
Congrats Jaded!!!
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Old 09-18-2013, 08:24 PM
 
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That's exciting Jaded.

We're seriously considering "embryo adoption" at this point in time. It's considered a grey area in Church teaching and one that is up to the individual to decide on. If we do it, we'll most likely still adopt in the future.
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Old 09-19-2013, 01:47 AM
 
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That's exciting Jaded.

We're seriously considering "embryo adoption" at this point in time. It's considered a grey area in Church teaching and one that is up to the individual to decide on. If we do it, we'll most likely still adopt in the future.
I've heard of this. It seems like a viable option for couples with fertility issues. We still haven't completely given up on other options either, but adoption was our first choice that we "stuck" with through the long haul. Good Luck!
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Old 09-21-2013, 08:41 AM
 
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I would choose adoption. I've already given birth - in fact, I placed my first biological child for adoption at age 19 - and we may foster at some point, too.
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