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Old 09-30-2012, 06:45 PM
 
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Even though I was adopted within the family, I'm very much like my birth siblings in personality, sense of humor, education level, etc. -- and much LESS like my adoptive siblings. I'm also VERY much like my birth mother in many, many ways.
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Old 09-30-2012, 07:17 PM
 
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Even though I was adopted within the family, I'm very much like my birth siblings in personality, sense of humor, education level, etc. -- and much LESS like my adoptive siblings. I'm also VERY much like my birth mother in many, many ways.
I'm very much like my birth family too. I think we have a similar way of looking at things that I don't share with my afamily, as much as I love them. As for my bmother, I've never met her as she passed away young but hearing about her, I can see parallels with my own life, eg in regards to the paths we've chosen. . Before anyone says "wishful thinking", the relatives have said I'm similar in other ways and I am not so sure I am in those particular ways. I think I sound more like my grandmother. Then again, that might just be because the relatives are rather less complimentary about bgrandmother than about bmother and I'm more able to accept that I share faults rather than good points with them.

I also just feel comfortable with them in many ways and I felt that even when I first met them. I just feel that I "get" them and that they "get" me in a way that my afamily doesn't.

I do also sense a lot of the underlying feelings and currents - a bit like reading a book where there are a lot of things said unsaid which can often give the book a lot more depth than if it had all been spelt out. In my case, they aren't unpleasant because I sense that there was a lot of love for my bmother and I sense that some of that goodwill towards her makes it easier for them to accept me. Having said that, I hope they like me for myself as well.
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Old 10-01-2012, 06:39 AM
 
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Impact, yes. Emotional harm? No.

By the way, I have now refound my siblings and we have a few similarities but overall, we are nothing alike.
How can you say there has been no emotional harm? Of course there was emotional harm. Being separated from my mother after five days was traumatic despite having a stable, loving caregiver.
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