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Old 08-22-2014, 12:16 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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I have a friend- an internet friend I have never met or even talked to- but a friend just the same who has been through the endless ups and down of dealing with social workers, delays, expectations, dashed dreams of adoption who finally received a new born!

When she told me I was crying with excitement and happiness. It brought back all the emotions I went through with our 3 adoptions. The anticipation is almost too much to handle...the joy just can't be put into words, and the gratitude for your dreams finally coming through fills your heart to bursting.
Next comes the bone crushing exhaustion, the endless worries and questions until life finally seems to settle into a routine.

To those still waiting--don't give up hope. Sometimes it seems like it will never happen but persevere. It is so worth it. I know my friend and her husband will barely remember all their anxiety and despair in just a few short weeks.
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Old 08-22-2014, 06:36 PM
 
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Good_wishes_to_your_frie#d!
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Old 08-22-2014, 11:12 PM
 
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It's very easy to get discouraged. Adopting can take a toll on your entire life and marriage! It really helps to have solid friends in your life when seeking to adopt. It's something not everyone understands or can relate to. I'm sure your friend is thrilled!

My DH and I just got placed with a baby girl...despite our very long wait, now it seems like we started the process just yesterday! Funny how time fades away when you finally get what you've been working for.
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Old 08-23-2014, 04:47 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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I wish I could run all the way to the Left Coast to give you a big hug and lots of kisses and to hold your precious little daughter.

I send the MOST SINCERE CONGRATULATIONS TO BOTH OF YOU. NO MAKE THAT ALL THREE OF YOU.

Believe me it will be worth every single tear and moment you have waited.
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Old 08-23-2014, 07:13 AM
 
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Congratulations to your friend, No Kudzu!

Jaded, thanks for sharing your good news!

I love a happy thread!
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Old 08-23-2014, 08:16 AM
 
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It's very easy to get discouraged. Adopting can take a toll on your entire life and marriage! It really helps to have solid friends in your life when seeking to adopt. It's something not everyone understands or can relate to. I'm sure your friend is thrilled!

My DH and I just got placed with a baby girl...despite our very long wait, now it seems like we started the process just yesterday! Funny how time fades away when you finally get what you've been working for.
Great!!_So_happy_for_you.

Good_wishes_to_you_&_your_IIttIe_daughter.
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Old 08-23-2014, 08:35 AM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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Jaded, tons of blessings and love to you!

A biological pregnancy is more predictable than a paper pregnancy. Having been through both, I can say this with certainty. Once I finally became pregnant I knew that I would give birth to one child. The sonogram felt more "real" than Tae-He Woo's referral picture did....

...until I held her in my arms. Then it was more the same than it was different. We were a family and all of the angst and turmoil turned to a peace that surpassed and eclipsed any delay, or drama.


You are a mother, and you planned and worked for this amazing event with the meticulous integrity that you put into everything that you do.

You will give this child a beautiful life! Of this, I have no doubt.

I could not be happier for you or for this baby!

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Old 08-23-2014, 09:19 AM
 
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Jaded, please accept my congratulations as well. The adoption road can be long and difficult. It took us nine years to be placed with a baby son and baby daughter. Now, I have a fifteen year old daughter and a twenty-two year old son. Time marches on. Remember this time period. Take many photographs and use the computer to construct a family album that your child will have when she is older. We've done something similar, but I wish we had been more methodical than we have been.

It does take forever, but it is the most worthwhile thing you will ever do.

Nokudzu: Tell your friend congrats for me too!

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Old 08-23-2014, 09:49 AM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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Yes NK! Please send my best wishes to your friend!
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Old 08-23-2014, 09:55 AM
 
Location: The New England part of Ohio
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Jaded, please accept my congratulations as well. The adoption road can be long and difficult. It took us nine years to be placed with a baby son and baby daughter. Now, I have a fifteen year old daughter and a twenty-two year old son. Time marches on. Remember this time period. Take many photographs and use the computer to construct a family album that your child will have when she is older. We've done something similar, but I wish we had been more methodical than we have been.

It does take forever, but it is the most worthwhile thing you will ever do.

Nokudzu: Tell your friend congrats for me too!

Mark, I wish I had done that too. We took tons of pictures, but I wish that I'd been a bit more methodical.

I read a story of a many who took a picture of his daughter everyday for the first year. At the time, it struck me as a bit obsessive. Now, I wish I'd done it. Time goes so fast.

In fact, today we make the nine hour journey to Vermont to Ohio, to take our eldest to college. Our daughter will begin making application to college this month, and our nest will begin to empty.

We hope for a refill, though. ;-)

Great thing about adoption - "look ma! no biological time clock!"
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