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Old 10-15-2014, 07:27 AM
 
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Well, I used to be a skiptracer and I still love snooping around, so DM me if you want some help. I love this stuff.
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Old 10-19-2014, 06:57 PM
 
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I wonder if the couple suspected of being the birth parents actually took the baby of someone else that did not want to raise it for whatever reason to IN and relinquished the child. Is it possible that they considered adopting since they had the miscarriages but changed their minds once they received the child and thus disrupted the adoption. I can't remember if your husband was an infant at the time of adoption. I agree with another post that perhaps the child was a result of an affair, maybe dad was gone during the conception. That was the swinging 60's! It is intriguing.
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Old 10-20-2014, 06:49 PM
 
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perhaps the child was a result of an affair.
Or perhaps a rape. There are so many potential ways to consider and weigh the digging consequences against.
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Old 10-23-2014, 10:02 AM
 
Location: Illinois
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I've been thinking about doing that too. Supposedly, my bio dad is full-blooded Cherokee, which makes me 1/8th. In my line of work, that makes me a Native American woman and I would qualify to get government contracts as an 8A set-aside. But it costs like $1200 to find out, and frankly, I don't plan on going into business for myself any time soon

Good luck on your search. I like hearing about this kind of thing.
If your birth dad is full blooded, wouldn't that make you 1/2?

For everyone else, don't do 23andme - their results have been shown to be incorrect and they've been warned by the FDA. Find another more reliable company.
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Old 10-23-2014, 10:32 AM
 
Location: Georgia, USA
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For everyone else, don't do 23andme - their results have been shown to be incorrect and they've been warned by the FDA. Find another more reliable company.
The issue that the FDA has with 23AndMe has nothing to do with the accuracy of the results. The FDA had concerns about direct to consumer marketing of the medical side of the company's DNA tests.

The genealogy results are still available and no less reliable than those from other companies.
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Old 10-23-2014, 11:02 AM
 
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Can you ask the woman whose name is on the adoption papers if she or her husband had any connection with the law firm, doctor, hospital? If she can't recall, start researching it. There has to be a connection there because their names weren't pulled out of thin air.

You say they were affluent. What did her deceased husband do for a living? Was he a lawyer? A doctor? A hospital administrator? Research the family tree of both her family and her deceased

husband's family. There might be a sibling that lived in Indiana. This is how I would approach the mystery. You have two names of people you are absolutely certain could not be anyone else. If you truly believe they are not the parents, there is still a connection.

Has it ever occurred to you that your husband could be an illegitimate child of that couple? She'd be adamant he wasn't hers if he was put up for adoption because she had an affair. Or maybe her husband had an affair, and she never knew about it.

Your answer is the connection with this affluent family. Their names weren't pulled out of thin air. Either the doctor, lawyer, or hospital has an affiliation with the couple and used their name without their knowing it, or the adoptive mother is related to them and used their name. Look for any relatives that ended up in Indiana. Even cousins.

You can also research a possible friend connection. For example, if the deceased husband is a doctor, check out the background of the doctor on the adoption records. If they both attended medical school together, there's your connection. Same with law school, high school, or just town where they grew up.
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Old 10-23-2014, 11:22 AM
 
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I've been thinking about doing that too. Supposedly, my bio dad is full-blooded Cherokee, which makes me 1/8th.
Where did you come up with 1/8? If he's 100%, you're 1/2.

My mother is 100% Irish, so I'm 1/2 Irish. The other 1/2 is a mix of my father being English (1/4) Scottish (1/4) and French (1/2). So I'm 1/2 Irish, 1/4 French, 1/8 Scottish and 1/8 English.

My children are 1/4 Irish, 1/8 French, 1/16 Scottish, 1/16 English, 1/4 polish (paternal grandmother 100%) and 1/4 german (paternal grandfather 100%). My sister married someone who is half Irish and Italian. Her children are 1/2 Irish because there's 1/2 Irish in both parents, 1/8 French, 1/16 Scottish, 1/16 English, and 1/4 Italian.

A parent who is 100% gives you a 1/2 (if the other parent isn't also the same heritage). Your children will be 1/4 Cherokee based on your 1/2. If your husband has Cherokee too, your children would have a greater percentage of Cherokee. If he was half Cherokee, your children would be 1/2 Cherokee (with 1/4 from you and 1/4 from your husband). If your husband was 100% Cherokee, your children would be 3/4 Cherokee via 1/4 from you and 1/2 from your husband.

You have to have a parent who is watered down to get 1/8, and that's impossible when the parent is 100%.

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If your birth dad is full blooded, wouldn't that make you 1/2?
Yes, she'd be 1/2 Cherokee if her bio father was 100% Cherokee and her bio mother had no Cherokee.
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Old 10-23-2014, 11:35 AM
 
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My mother is 100% Irish, so I'm 1/2 Irish. The other 1/2 is a mix of my father being English (1/4) Scottish (1/4) and French (1/2). So I'm 1/2 Irish, 1/4 French, 1/8 Scottish and 1/8 English.

My children are 1/4 Irish, 1/8 French, 1/16 Scottish, 1/16 English, 1/4 polish (paternal grandmother 100%) and 1/4 german (paternal grandfather 100%). My sister married someone who is half Irish and Italian. Her children are 1/2 Irish because there's 1/2 Irish in both parents, 1/8 French, 1/16 Scottish, 1/16 English, and 1/4 Italian.
How simple genealogy would be if that were true!

However, your Scots ancestor might have a French ancestor and your English ancestor might have a German ancestor and ...

Let's just say that I expected to be English, Scots-Irish, and a little German. The French Huguenots threw me for a loop.
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Old 10-23-2014, 11:49 AM
 
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If your birth dad is full blooded, wouldn't that make you 1/2?

For everyone else, don't do 23andme - their results have been shown to be incorrect and they've been warned by the FDA. Find another more reliable company.
From what I understand, only 1/8 of Native American DNA gets passed down from a father to a daughter. Only 1/8 gets passed down from a mother to any child.
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Old 10-23-2014, 11:52 AM
 
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How simple genealogy would be if that were true!

However, your Scots ancestor might have a French ancestor and your English ancestor might have a German ancestor and ...

Let's just say that I expected to be English, Scots-Irish, and a little German. The French Huguenots threw me for a loop.
Of course. There's always a marriage way down the line nobody knows about today. However, based on exactly WHAT FAMILIES KNOW about their ancestry, it's a good enough example of how percentages are calculated to show coventech that there's no way she can be 1/8 Cherokee if her bio father is 100% Cherokee.
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