stepparent adoption (options, name change, cost) - - Page 5 - City-Data Forum

Roselvr · 04-15-2009, 03:05 PM

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Originally Posted by biggyshawty

I'm in England , UK and for seven years I was in court with my ex fighting over my home ( which I paid for). He was only interested in the money ,not the baby. After all those years , i ran low on money and paid him £30,000 settlement. Legal costs totalled £48,000 approximately.He hasn't seen my daughter since 2002 and has never asked to either. I recently was told he was planning to kidnap my daughter so I sought advice from a solicitor who wrote a letter to his last known address.
The reply came back stating that he wants no contact with me or my daughter directly or indirectly and he believes the child is not hisin any case? I was glad with that response but believe it was written and signed by his elderly partner as she has intercepted his mail and replied on his behalf before.She has caused me a great deal of trouble and I Just don't feel easy about whats going to happen in the future.I need absolution - any thoughts? ( p.s I was never married to my childs bio father & have recenty married. My husband would like to adopt my daughter but we don't want another 7 years of court ).

You should make a new post for this so people see it.
You should be able to have him sign away his parental rights.
I guess you are not getting child support? You should you know.
I bet he'd sign his rights away quick to get out of paying.

bderk · 04-22-2009, 11:52 PM

I have been divorced for 5 years my daughter from that marriage is going to be six. I have full custody of her and he never contested or anything he never even signed the papers. The last time he ever saw her she was about 1yr old. He never paid any kind of child support. I am now remarried and my husband has been in her life since she was 2 and he has raised her. What kind of case would I have if we try to get the bio dads rights terminated so my husband can adopt her?

wanderintonc · 04-23-2009, 05:16 AM

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Originally Posted by bderk

I have been divorced for 5 years my daughter from that marriage is going to be six. I have full custody of her and he never contested or anything he never even signed the papers. The last time he ever saw her she was about 1yr old. He never paid any kind of child support. I am now remarried and my husband has been in her life since she was 2 and he has raised her. What kind of case would I have if we try to get the bio dads rights terminated so my husband can adopt her?

In my state, after a year of no contact, it can be considered abandonment. My dh adopted our oldest son at age (nearly) 3. Bio dad never saw him nor supported him in any way, so his rights were terminated on grounds of abandonment, he also did not show up for the court date or respond to the notice of it.

You should call the court in your state that handles this (in mine, it's Probate) and just ask what the procedure is. All I had to do was fill out some forms and pay a fee ($100). It wasn't court like you see on TV, Probate is in an office setting here. It was actually pretty simple, and I did not need a lawyer at all. Good luck!

KH02 · 05-05-2009, 09:19 AM

Just wanted to let you all know that our ADOPTION WENT THROUGH!!!

My son is now officially my Husbands SON!!

I would reccomend the process to anyone, contested or not. For the outcome will only enhance your family life!

RMD3819 · 05-05-2009, 02:23 PM

Congrats!

nikongirl24 · 05-06-2009, 11:39 AM

My step-dad adopted me when I was 12. My biological father (or sperm donor) hadn't made contact with me since I was 3, and owed A LOT of back owed child support to my mom. Her husband is a great man, and he is My DAD. I love him and now my biological father is trying to say that he wasn't allowed to see me. WHAT A JOKE. He moved around, married 7 TIMES and had other kids that he didn't pay support for either. The day the lawyer called and asked him if he would turn over his rights as a parent over to my step dad-- he said I HAVE NO DAUGHTER.

What a joke. I am much better and loved by the greatest dad in the world.

denise28 · 05-16-2009, 06:25 AM

TO Bderk:

I think you would have a good chance and recommend it to anyone that would like to do that. If you look through some of my other posts, I posted a state by state link of the laws so you would know how to proceed.

Good Luck! Let us know the outcome! We are so happy that we did it!

denise28 · 05-16-2009, 06:28 AM

Congratulations to kh02!!! It is a such a relief, isn't it?

Ladybug1971 · 01-27-2010, 06:24 AM

Hey Everyone! Being new to this group I wanted to see if anyone had any information that could help my situation.
I want to adopt my husband's daughter. I have been caring for her and she has been callingme Mom for 8 years now. Her "egg donor" sent us a notarized letter signing off/relinquishing her parental rights. The Courts still made her pay back child support, but that ends soon. She hasn't seen, or made any effort to maintain contact with in over 5 years. No visits, calls, emails, cards, letters, pictures....NOTHING. Do we still need to do that legal notice part when we have the notarized letter from her? Any help would be appreciated.

KH02 · 01-27-2010, 10:16 AM

You need to get a lawyer to help with the process. Call one up.
But since she has already told you she doesn't want the rights, they should be easy to revoke through the court system and then you have to go through an adoption process which includes a home study by a social worker....