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Old 04-12-2015, 05:49 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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Those of us with interracial families can certainly relate to this mother's feelings. I know I certainly can.

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Old 04-16-2015, 07:11 AM
 
Location: Howard County, Maryland
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That Trader Joe's employee is a wonderful person with a beautiful heart. As a believer in the "what goes around comes around" school of thought, I do believe that she will be blessed for her kindness, some way or another.

And yes, I can sympathize with the blogger's desire to blend in, which is always a challenge for any trans-racial adoptive family. But let's face it: if one's desire is to fade into the woodwork, adopting developmentally disabled kids from another race, and giving them highly unusual names, is not the most effective strategy!
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Old 04-17-2015, 10:19 PM
 
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That Trader Joe's employee is a wonderful person with a beautiful heart. As a believer in the "what goes around comes around" school of thought, I do believe that she will be blessed for her kindness, some way or another.

And yes, I can sympathize with the blogger's desire to blend in, which is always a challenge for any trans-racial adoptive family. But let's face it: if one's desire is to fade into the woodwork, adopting developmentally disabled kids from another race, and giving them highly unusual names, is not the most effective strategy!
Busman, it is quite probable that the children had those names when they were adopted from Ethiopia;

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Old 04-18-2015, 09:37 PM
 
Location: Howard County, Maryland
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Busman, it is quite probable that the children had those names when they were adopted from Ethiopia;

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Somehow I hadn't thought about that, so thank you for pointing it out.

I'm not saying that the parents should have changed the names, because that's a decision for them and them alone. I'm just saying that their family situation -- names and all -- is going to make it really hard to blend in. It is the lot in life of trans-racial adoptive families to stick out, to be walking billboards for trans-racial adoption. Some may see this as a challenge, while others may see it as an opportunity. Most of us in this situation will see it as both of those things, at one point or another.
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