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Old 04-12-2015, 08:17 AM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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I've seen similar lists. Do you have anything to add?

What an Adoptee Wants You to Know About Adoption*|*Madeleine Melcher
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Old 04-12-2015, 08:07 PM
 
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Unless I missed it, i skimmed, I'd add "my adoption story belongs to me"
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Old 04-12-2015, 08:46 PM
 
Location: Chapel Hill, N.C.
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good one---and "I will tell you about it if and when I'm ready so don't ask personal questions"
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Old 04-14-2015, 04:38 PM
 
Location: St. Louis, Missouri
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can't think of anything I would add at the moment.....

Just want to comment that people who say "real" mother, father, brother, sister have ALWAYS driven me crazy..... I am a VERY fair skinned, blue eyed blonde and my younger brother is as dark as I am pale.... so people would always say knowingly that he could not be my "real brother." Of course he is!! Once he came home with our parents, he was my brother.....

Of course, once I realized he was actually going to stay, I was not too happy about that....

and the other people in all bio-families who in an attempt at "insult humor" tell one or another of their siblings that they were adopted, like it was some sort of horrible curse....
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Old 04-14-2015, 10:45 PM
 
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can't think of anything I would add at the moment.....

Just want to comment that people who say "real" mother, father, brother, sister have ALWAYS driven me crazy..... I am a VERY fair skinned, blue eyed blonde and my younger brother is as dark as I am pale.... so people would always say knowingly that he could not be my "real brother." Of course he is!! Once he came home with our parents, he was my brother.....

Of course, once I realized he was actually going to stay, I was not too happy about that....

and the other people in all bio-families who in an attempt at "insult humor" tell one or another of their siblings that they were adopted, like it was some sort of horrible curse....
Totally agree. My kids look similar enough, and we are asked if they are "really" brother and sister. What the heck? Do they think they are "really" a married couple? No? Don't be stupid.

Although it doesn't bother me unless my kids hear it.

And the insult humor...so ugly.
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Old 04-15-2015, 08:10 AM
 
Location: St. Louis, Missouri
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Totally agree. My kids look similar enough, and we are asked if they are "really" brother and sister. What the heck? Do they think they are "really" a married couple? No? Don't be stupid.

Although it doesn't bother me unless my kids hear it.

And the insult humor...so ugly.

my ex was the oldest of seven kids.... all bio .... and every now and again they would say this to one or another...... I would just look very directly at whoever said it and not say a word.......
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