Father of my unborn baby unfit, looking into adoption

[Middletwin]

No one can be sure what this child's life will be with adopters - it may be better or not because they could get cancer, go through bankruptcy, divorce, etc. Also, open adoption arrangements are not legally enforceable. So, IF you have emotional support, and are stable, consider not denying baby of being nurtured by bio family. Do not visit an agency until about two weeks before the due date, because the longer you wait, the less you will be subjected to salesman language (ultimate sacrifice, birthmothers, gift of family, etc...). It's actually better if you wait till after the birth, though. There is alot of support if you decide to parent.

[Sollaces]

Would someone in your family step up to adopt? I've heard of that happening where a cousin, aunt, or other family member will come through. Then the baby isn't directly under your care but you can still keep tabs and be an aunt. I don't know if you have family to back you up whatever your decision is. Good luck to you.

[G-fused]

So it's not that you don't want the kid or that you can't afford it or that you are unable to raise it without the father in the picture...it's that you are scared of him? Wow, that's pretty friggin awful. You want the baby and can raise it but think this guy will make your life hell? That's hard to get over.

Aside from that, if he doesn't want the kid to be put up for adoption, it won't be. Get the legal stuff done now before the kid is born. It'll be much harder and much more unlikely the longer you wait.

Best of luck