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Location: Scott County, Tennessee/by way of Detroit
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I logged on here because I was wondering how your meeting with your son went and was NOT expecting all of that. ..So glad your son understands...what a mess. Well.. for what it's worth Happy Birthday. What a tough weekend...
You need to get your head on straight, and your life on the right track before you meet your son. Maybe this delay was a blessing in disguise. You need to be whole, and feel whole. If there is negativity going on in your life right now, it's not fair to your son, who you are going to be meeting for the first time, to bring that in to your new relationship. He will feel the angst you are feeling, and it will exude from you, no matter how hard you try for it not to.
Look what it did to you already, physically and mentally. I'm sure he was bummed out, you know he had to be, as I'm sure you were too.
I don't think anyone has to comment on this, though we do. You don't need validation from others, you know what you have to do, and I say that without knowing all the background either.
I am so sorry, but agree with others here that the delay may work in your favor, eventually. Your husband's behavior was inexcusable, but your son's reaction was so encouraging - it sounds as if he is a fine young man.
I hope your eventual meeting with your son will bring both of you much joy, and that it will be the beginning of a strong and mutually rewarding connection.
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