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Old 12-05-2016, 05:00 PM
 
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Long story short, I gave up a son in 1989 and we recently found each other online.

We plan to meet in person next weekend in the city he was born in.

I am very excited and he is too.

I was just wondering if I should bring a gift of some sort. He's seen photos of myself when he was at the same age (as a baby, and then other ages).

My first thought is to bring nothing; just concentrate on the meeting itself and not overwhelm with a stupid trinket.

Ok as I've said this, I think that's how I will approach it.

Thanks! LOL

Anyone else care to share their reunion stories?
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Old 12-05-2016, 05:10 PM
 
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I have no story to share, but only the best wishes to send forth Convextech! The future is full of opportunities for you and your son, I hope it is wonderful.
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Old 12-05-2016, 05:21 PM
 
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Thank you Mattie!

I don't know if you remember, but last year a woman found me with my same exact birthday and could possibly be my twin. Our DNA didn't match, but we both did it at home. So there's till the lingering "maybe" out there.

This time, there is no question.

It was after I got "possibly" disappointed about the twin sister that I decided to look up the only things I knew about my son: his first name and his birthdate.

I got his address , which was still in the same city I grew up in, and the trail ran sort of cold.

I talked to my stepdaughter and she is the exact same age, and she insisted on trying to find him. So she contacted his mother on FB.

Six months later, we've all traded photos and details and dates, and this is for sure the real thing.

I am scared but excited. At least this isn't a hoax.
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Old 12-06-2016, 09:02 AM
 
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Good luck! I hope it goes wonderfully. I think unless there is a gift with a meaning you want him, skip it. I am sure you will have a lot going on and wont miss gift giving unless there is something very meaningful.
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Old 12-06-2016, 11:16 AM
 
Location: East TX
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Exciting time for you and for your son! I suggest that you not worry about a gift, but maybe bring along some photos or some notes about things that have happened along the way so you can concentrate on the relationship, offering some memories and thoughts along the way, and opportunities for gifts will happen later.
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Old 12-06-2016, 04:15 PM
 
Location: Scott County, Tennessee/by way of Detroit
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Oh my gosh! !!! How EXCITING!!! Hope all goes well!!! I've never had the experience but after watching every episode of Long Lost Family and Searching For...I just love the stories of finding one's children or parents...Happy for you!!!
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Old 12-07-2016, 06:13 PM
 
Location: Howard County, Maryland
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Very exciting! I cannot imagine how thrilling and overwhelming this must be for both of you. I agree with the others, skip the gift. If you have any pictures of his siblings or other relatives, maybe those would be appreciated. I look forward to hearing how it goes.
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Old 12-07-2016, 06:29 PM
 
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I have nothing to share except my excitement for you. What a wonderful blessing for you and your son. I wouldn't bring along a gift for your son as the reunion is the greatest gift

You might give your stepdaughter a very special and personal gift. Perhaps a hand written thank you note or something along that line, either before or after the reunion
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Old 12-07-2016, 06:32 PM
 
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Best wishes for a new chapter in both of your lives. How exciting!!!!


Pictures are wonderful. Maybe you can present them to him in a really nice photo album? Make sure you put names and dates underneath them so he can know who's in the picture without having to take them out and look at the back.
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Old 12-08-2016, 08:24 AM
 
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You might give your stepdaughter a very special and personal gift. Perhaps a hand written thank you note or something along that line, either before or after the reunion
Yes, I am planning to do something very special for her.

Thanks everyone. It's next weekend and I am getting so nervous.
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