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Old 10-17-2017, 05:15 PM
 
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So what happens if the adoptive family doesn't agree to meet with the birth mother within 5 years? What if the meeting doesn't work with each other's schedules? What if the birth mother is now a homes heroin addict? What recourse does the agency think they have? State and federal law trumps their policies.
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Old 10-17-2017, 09:54 PM
 
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I read the excerpt...the way I understand it, there would be a requirement of allowing the birth parent(s) ONE visit between the ages of 1 and 5. That's hardly co-parenting.


The excerpt then went on to say that many families develop closer relationships with birth parents, but certainly not all.
Your right, it's glaringly obvious a visit is not co-parenting... however those who are intent on promoting the idea that natural parents should be not acknowledged in any way to the adoptee find this type of rhetoric helpful in influencing others to see it in that falsified way
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Old 10-23-2017, 02:35 PM
 
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So what happens if the adoptive family doesn't agree to meet with the birth mother within 5 years? What if the meeting doesn't work with each other's schedules? What if the birth mother is now a homes heroin addict? What recourse does the agency think they have? State and federal law trumps their policies.
I don't know what recourse the agency has, but to answer your other questions




it's been a couple of weeks since I read the article, but since the agency is requiring names and addresses, I'm assuming that will be given to the birth parent(s).


They've got 5 years to work out a schedule. That's a pretty lame excuse.


What if birth mother IS a heroin addict? It's ONE visit. Meet at McDonald's, meet at the park...


I'm not sure if or what the recourse for the agency would be. Since the adoptive family signs papers, maybe the agency would/could sue the adoptive family. I don't know.
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Old 10-23-2017, 02:51 PM
 
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So when a birth parent asks the adoptive parent to take the adoptive child to a birth family reunion without the adoptive parent across state lines, do you think that is a normal open adoption activity? And her justification for this activity is that they are both parenting the child, what would you call this?

Ummm...can't the adoptive family say 'No. Not going to do that."??


The article isn't saying anything about giving in to birth parent demands. The ONLY requirement they're making is ONE meeting, in the child's first 5 years of life, IF the birth parents want one.


IF a pleasant and rewarding relationship develops between the adoptive and birth parent(s) that's great. But it's not requiring a relationship at all.


And lastly, if that doesn't work for ya...go to another agency.
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