Couple forced to give grandchildren up for adoption by gay men (parents)

[noplacelikeWA]

Originally Posted by BornOKThe1stTime

I can see that. Then why even mention that the adopting couple is gay? Why is it relevant.

I simply copy and pasted the headline as it read. See for yourself

I admit the source is not the most credible news source either, but the headline caught my attention because of my own personal expierence fighting with CPS here in the states. Family first!

[noplacelikeWA]

Originally Posted by stormy night

What struck me first is that no names were given, so this story can not possibly be investigated to prove it's anything but a story.

Second, it isn't even in this country, it sounds like Scotland (Edinburgh), or England. Laws are different.

Third, it didn't seem the ages of the grandparents were as much factors as their health (The grandfather with heart problems, the grandmother with diabetes).

And as far as the grandparents accepting it, can you imagine hard difficult it would be for the kids if Grandma and Grandpa were to visit and cry over their situation and not be supportive? The kids would NEVER adjust.

1. There is always more to the story.

2. Does it really matter that this story comes from out of the USA? CD is for everyone all over the world.

3. Regardless of their health I still believe family first over non relatives.

4. If they didn't want to raise the kids, of course they should be supportive of whomever adopted them.

[BornOKThe1stTime]

Originally Posted by noplacelikeWA

There is always more to the story, regardless of their health I still believe family first over non relatives. If they didn't want to raise the kids, of course they should be supportive of whomever adopted them.

One problem with this that I've personally witnessed, a lot of times the kids end up caring for their ailing grandparents. They deserve to be kids.

[mommytotwo]

Originally Posted by noplacelikeWA

There is always more to the story, regardless of their health I still believe family first over non relatives. If they didn't want to raise the kids, of course they should be supportive of whomever adopted them.

I agree, the family should be first.

If not the grandparents, there might be a sibling or other relative that might take the kids.

That is why there might be more to the story.

[noplacelikeWA]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

Like I said, maybe there are other factors to consider. .... It's just sensationalist reporting.

Probably... however at the center of the story are 2 innocent children whose lives are being affected greatly. It is just sad period.

[noplacelikeWA]

Originally Posted by BornOKThe1stTime

One problem with this that I've personally witnessed, a lot of times the kids end up caring for their ailing grandparents. They deserve to be kids.

A lot of times???? Sometimes is more like it. Kids deserve to be kids and they deserve to be with family.

How many grandparents do you know raising their grandchildren? Unfortunately I know many. I have been raising my sisters kids for 8+ years now and have been actively participating in support groups for relatives raising relatives in 2 states. It is a risk to place children with older ailing grandparents, but 9 times out of 10 it is the best thing for them. Maybe this time it was not the best thing according to the social workers, and thats the hard part, who really knows best? Either way I can say that the kids will always struggle with feeling abandoned over not being with family.

[haggardhouseelf]

If you read the article, it says that the grandparents both have health issues. I think it was more a concern for that than their actual age.

As far as the gay couple/straight couple adopting them - it shouldn't matter at all. These kinds of prejudices need to be broken. Regardless of whether a person is a male or female, as long as they are a healthy, supportive, positive, nurturing force they will be good for the children. Better for them than a mom on crack or two grandparents who are too sick to do much with them.

Children need stability. These kids sound as if they've been tossed around enough as it is. It would make things even worse should they be with their grandparents, and then have to be resituated once again when their health conditions worsen. I think the council is looking to the future and not just thinking about the now in this situation, and I think that is wise. If the grandparents cooperate and change their outlook about the situation, they will be able to be a part of their grandchildren's lives. It's up to them really.

[tangodoodles]

Well, I was sort of interested in the article and I read it up to the point that it said that "studies prove that children are best raised by a mother and father" basically implying that being raised by a gay couple is damaging. That's the biggest load of bull**** I've ever read. This article is clearly biased and I highly doubt that the children were taken away because of the grandparent's age. I know people who were raised by gay couples, and they are perfectly fine, normal, happy people. This article is a piece of crap.

[SuSuSushi]

WTF does it matter whether the couple adopting the kids are gay or straight? Puhleeze.

[ali&ajsmom]

what isn't right is that the grandparents won't get to see their bio grandparents! I hope that there are some kind of grandparents rights over there so they can see the kids reguardless! My kids still see their bio grandparents and are better off for that! I wish the grandparents the best of luck!