I am adopted, I found my biological family when I was in my 20s. (infant, birth)

[pickles2131976]

I am so pleased to hear your story. Mine did not have such a positive ending and that is why it is important to be sure that you are truly ready to learn the information. I found the information about my mother by a fluke. Begin to do an investigation and found that my grandfather was a petifile that raped my mother, aunt and uncle. My father was a looser that was accused of rape, a theif and abused my mother and broke her back. I also have learned that I have two brothers that are in prision for violence and drug issues one serving a 15 year sentence and another a 20 year sentence and that my biological mother tried to kidnap her granddaughter. She has had multiple run ins with the law as has my biological father. I thank God that I found the information before bringing it into my home, but it was and is very hurtful. It does not reflect who I am but does say that you need to pray and prepare when you begin your search. There are a million and one happy endings and I think that you should look but just make sure that you are emotionally prepared for the outcome.

[Lewis Robinson]

Although I am only 12 years old (about to be 13) i was adopted only 1 month ago. All my life, I had lived in a small orphanage in New York. I am a very wise, but a quite inventor, and it was one day while i was having a interview with a couple that they stormed out because me invetion had exploded and ruined there outfits. That was my 124th interview i have had. After every failed interview i go up to the roof of the orphanage and cry, but Meldrid usally calms me down. (she is the head of the orphange) I was talking to her telling her and telling her how no one wanted me, and my own mother did'ent even want me. Then i thought, if i could build a device that could retrive old memories, and help me remeber how my mom looked and then I could find her. So i built, and faild, built and failed some more, until a science fair came up at my school. That was when i wanted to show off my new invention, not even knowing how it would work, and be able to find my mom. And to my surpise...It worked! (I would go into all the science stuff but that would bore you out of your minds.) I won the science fair, got a review in the paper, and a scholarship from 7 diffrent schools, but out of all the good things that happed, I still had no faimly. One morining i woke up and found one of the science fair judge, and her husband down stairs.... and they were saying that they wanted me! The moment i heard that i ran down stairs and gave them a huge hug for 5 minutes! I finally got waht i was looking for. Now living with my new mom and dad, i think back... just saying to myself "If i let go of the past and keep moving forward, the good thinks are bound to happen." So if you are a orphan reading this post, just remeber that you will get a family. Keep moving foward.

[charmeiaslept]

I need help finding my mother i am 22 and i am on my 2nd child can you help me figure out where to start. I was born in San diego Ca. Email me

[charmeiaslept]

I need help with where to start I know how my mother was when she gave birth I know her name i know how many kids she had before me. I want to meet her cause i am on my 2nd child and i am 22 and think it is just time for me to find her. Please email me at [EMAIL="charmei_sembach@yahoo.com"]charmei_sembach@yahoo.com[/EMAIL] with any information that you could share please. I am from San deigo CA.

[yourbloodismyblood]

please join my search: [url=http://www.yourbloodismyblood.blogspot.com]your blood is my blood...[/url] as i film and blog my search efforts to locating my biological family! all support is needed and appreciated!

[LML]

One of my granddaughters is adopted. To tell you the truth I always forget that until someone brings up the subject of adoption. She is grown now, married and with a new baby girl. All the time she was growing up people would tell her how much she looks like her aunt (my youngest daughter....though they have no genetic connection. When I met my new great granddaughter I was talking about how the baby had my eyes....and then it dawned on me that she must have gotten them elsewhere. When my granddaughter was 15 she met her birth father and he invited her to the town where he lives (about 20 miles away) to spend the weekend and meet his family. After checking out the safety aspect her folks let her go. At the end of the weekend she came home, went up to her dad and gave him a big hug, and said I'm SO glad you're my dad." She never mentioned her birth dad again and never had any interest in going back.

[thepinksquid]

I was adopted as well. Both of my biological parents are Irish. I've found and met my mother, but am still working on contacting my father. Been a good experience so far.

[Jane72]

I'm on the other side of it. I'm a birthmom in a semi-open adoption.
I've always known where my birthson was (another state halfway across the country), his name, the names of his adoptive parents. They sent me pictures of him at intervals.
Now that he's an adult, he's all over the internet; I can pretty much keep up with him without the "middleman", so to speak.
All I really want to know is that he's alive and well. I like seeing pictures of him.
I've never spoken to him and don't plan to, unless he contacts me.
I know a lot about him, because I read his blogs, and things he posts on forums.
If I met him in person today, I'm afraid I wouldn't have much to offer.
My younger son is in a crisis period right now, and I'm pretty much worn to an emotional frazzle trying to deal with him and his issues.
I don't have anything left over for anyone, not even my husband.

I don't know if my birthson would find it creepy that I sort of keep tabs on him via the internet. I might find it creepy, if I were in his position. I feel justified in doing it because I have no intentions whatsoever. I'm not doing it for any purpose at all, except curiosity. Except to know if he's okay.

I'd be happy to meet him someday, if he wanted to. I'd be interested to know him.
But at present, this situation with my younger son is just so all-consuming, I'm not very interested in anything else. I don't have the resources for anything else.
It is apparent from what I've read that my birthson has issues of his own, issues not terribly different from what my son is dealing with.

I don't have the strength to deal with that right now.
I can't afford to care about it.
His parents need to help him with his issues, and I need to focus on helping my son.

[thepinksquid]

Originally Posted by Jane72

I'm on the other side of it. I'm a birthmom in a semi-open adoption.
I've always known where my birthson was (another state halfway across the country), his name, the names of his adoptive parents. They sent me pictures of him at intervals.
Now that he's an adult, he's all over the internet; I can pretty much keep up with him without the "middleman", so to speak.
All I really want to know is that he's alive and well. I like seeing pictures of him.
I've never spoken to him and don't plan to, unless he contacts me.
I know a lot about him, because I read his blogs, and things he posts on forums.
If I met him in person today, I'm afraid I wouldn't have much to offer.
My younger son is in a crisis period right now, and I'm pretty much worn to an emotional frazzle trying to deal with him and his issues.
I don't have anything left over for anyone, not even my husband.

I don't know if my birthson would find it creepy that I sort of keep tabs on him via the internet. I might find it creepy, if I were in his position. I feel justified in doing it because I have no intentions whatsoever. I'm not doing it for any purpose at all, except curiosity. Except to know if he's okay.

I'd be happy to meet him someday, if he wanted to. I'd be interested to know him.
But at present, this situation with my younger son is just so all-consuming, I'm not very interested in anything else. I don't have the resources for anything else.
It is apparent from what I've read that my birthson has issues of his own, issues not terribly different from what my son is dealing with.

I don't have the strength to deal with that right now.
I can't afford to care about it.
His parents need to help him with his issues, and I need to focus on helping my son.

I can understand your desire not to contact your biological son at the moment due to your own family's attention needs. However, as someone who was adopted, let me tell you not to feel that you shouldn't contact your son if YOU want to. My birth mother and I keep contact, and although we don't have an extremely close relationship, and really only make contact 1-2 times a month, having her in my life is so much closure for me. I'm sure he would be thrilled to hear from you.

[Roselvr]

Originally Posted by Jane72

My younger son is in a crisis period right now, and I'm pretty much worn to an emotional frazzle trying to deal with him and his issues.
I don't have anything left over for anyone, not even my husband.

I'd be happy to meet him someday, if he wanted to. I'd be interested to know him.
But at present, this situation with my younger son is just so all-consuming, I'm not very interested in anything else. I don't have the resources for anything else.
It is apparent from what I've read that my birthson has issues of his own, issues not terribly different from what my son is dealing with.

I don't have the strength to deal with that right now.
I can't afford to care about it.
His parents need to help him with his issues, and I need to focus on helping my son.

If there is something genetic, please contact the birth parents.
Very hard having a child that's ill, starting from the bottom, working the way up. Which meds work, what don't. I still do not have a diagnosis. (no adoption history)