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Originally Posted by jsharmaine
Hey,
I'm a black female and I'm dating a white guy from Alabama. His family seems ok with the idea of him dating a black woman, but other people seem to have other ideas (as they would here in the South - not all, I'm just saying. It's changing alot). I'm going to meet his family sometime next month. I was just wondering, has anyone had to do this? What was your experience like? Any advice? I would really like honest input. Thanks for the responses in advance. God bless.

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Hi jsharmaine,
I was writing this to answer someone else, but I think it is appropriate to post it right here. Here is what I wrote to Harry:
Hello Harry,
This topic is so embarrassing to me and should be embarrassing to all Americans. My wife's relatives children would be amazed that such topic is being discussed "whether it is OK or odd for me and my wife to be husband and wife". They don't even seem to notice the difference. We are just individuals just like anybody else.
That's how both of us feel anywhere we are. We are very comfortable in Huntsville, and even in the so-called notoriously racist Arab. I should also say Harry, that perhaps people say negative things about us but I never notice or hear them. Everybody seems to be very nice to us and with us. I have noticed that Barack Obama is very embarrassed by people talking about his father being black and mother white. The good thing is that the people who are absolutely absorbed in this race thing are the media people. To me they sound stupid each time they emphasize on such things.
So Harry, I would want you to just enjoy your good life and let whoever suffer their thoughts, whichever they have, suffer in their own pain. Apparently many may be just jealous that someone has such freedom to be just human, without color differentiation.
As you might have seen in my other postings, I am a healthy 64 year old black man, happily married to a white woman for 39-42 years now, so long time I don't even remember exactly when we were married; sometime in the late 60s. I am happy and retired. My wife and I will retire bothg in Africa and in Alabama. We will spennd half of my retired life in Alabama and thge other half in Africa. We returned to America in the early 70s and fearing history in the South, we settled in California. But when our medical student daughter had a ceremony in her Birmingham University and we visited with her, he had a completely different experience. The South is a wonderful place. We are determined to enjoy the good people of the South undetered by anybody.
By the way, my wife and I will be going to Africa again in June. If you have time you can join us anytime to see some other people's culture and lifestyles. We seem to have it so good here, perhaps, so we concentrate on frivolous details in human colors.
I appreciate you writing to me. If you don't mind, I am posting this response for others' response.
Thank you.
Suliniber.