so it goes...

[Arcticthaw]

Originally Posted by johnrex62

If you really feel that bad, invite them to move up with you. They will either pull their weight and help you make it, or they will decide your help isn't worth it and move back with a determination to make their own way.

If they don't putt their weight then your stuck carrying them! What if they don't like your dream? Just let them live their lives as they see fit. If your heart really is telling you to help them then be slow with the $ and fast with moral support. This may be a lesson they need to learn. Besides you can always wire them $ from Alaska... I have done that for one of my kids.

The best piece of advice I can give anyone is the best I recieved. Everything works out for the best! Believe and it wil be.

[goingnorth]

the threads and replies the last couple of weeks are very interstingly tied in to my real life experience.all of the advice im getting is really awesome.and even though im clearly mad at night when i get home and post,doesnt mean im not hearing you people.i am still looking into my trip.i want to come.heres the deal.i can afford to get there.i (think)i have a for sure job there.however the sources,of this knowledge, ive only known for 2 months.my truck needs service to get to the ferrie in seattle.oh yeah i didnt know everyone was taking it and didnt factor frieght cost for that.lol my blunder.he he.by the time i get settled in with rent or the forclosure house if there is still one there.ill be broke,unless i sell truck ship goods and take pub transit, except for a little CD i set aside in case i gone insane.and it has 2 months till mature.i really want and bieleve ill get there,but my spirit tells me to chill and be patient.ok update on charity issue.apparently my family is getting "freaking craploads of support"from thier church.ya i visit it but am not exactly completly cool with the whole organized religion thing.so ill break off a little something and let that alone.by the way if its of any value to anybody.im getting more honestly concerned messages from this forum than my entire real life social circle.you guys either care or are real bored in alaska.lol im playing. i can always temp job till the stars line up. patiently goingnorth.

[RAMFEB31]

Originally Posted by goingnorth

ok the mentioned is step, but they feel like blood, because this strain of married in relatives have been there for many years.for example my step great nephew responds better to me than my original blood nephew does.and there are others too.untill just a few months ago they all respected me like none of my blood relatives do.(stupid sqabble).so yeah thats kinda different than some charity case.however,they make more money in a week than i do in 3.so, yes,of course i should reconsider putting off moving because of thier plight.on the other hand the impulse is very powerfull and perhaps i should investigate it.im not an idiot,i wont give it all away so they can have new a dvd player.and yes im aware that this is my time.i just need some time to "tread water"lol,get it?ha ha. i still want to go up there.im just a little beside my self right now.make no mistake about it they are precious to me.

Actually, when I said close, I meant like a wife or your kids or, the very least, a sister or a brother and that is already stretching the tie.