so it goes... (apartment, foreclosed, lease)

[goingnorth]

ok so im selfish,yeah i admit it ,i spent all night finding foreclosers homes i could buy,then the water comes. and now im led ,to give it all to my family(flood victims)and the first thing i thought was .there goes alaska.hmmph.oh well i guess im going to hell.that settles it.im a empty guy.guess my new name should be goingnorththenverysouth get it? i wish i could be washed like rance. maybe they will let me keep my job,i already put in my notice.lol still thinking about only me.

[mal_flisk]

Hoss, you lost me somewhere in the 2nd line. I've read your post through about 3 times and I want to understand what you mean. I got the thing about giving the foreclosed properties to your family members. Help me out here.

[goingnorth]

itype bad so bear with me.ive planning to come to alaska for about 2 years,and found a foreclosed home there i could buy.put in a notice at work.and let my lease expire on apartment.job.savings.plan.check...or not because now i feel guilty that im leaving when i should give them the money they have little kids and house flooded,they make 3 times more money than me but they are young and squander it.i was just really mad when i typed my last two post"hows this for reality"and "so it goes" so niether one makes any sense. iwas afraid the flooding had ruined everything and that mad me feel more guilty.i was trying to let off steam.you shouldnt give out of guilt and since my heart isnt in it,thats wrong too.so alaska is on back burner again. i think. thanks for repliy...

[Rance]

If they make twice as much as you....but squander it....then they are like the ant and the grasshopper. I would think of you first....them second. You owe them nothing. Next year it will be something else. Leave now.

[cobolt]

good point, Rance

Cobolt

[Marylandkitten]

I agree with Rance.. don't spend your own life and your own money, fixing other people's messes!!! ....and if you are, think you can spot me $50 bucks?

It's not your problem. It's ok to feel bad, it means you have compassion! But don't put your plans on hold because you feel sorry for them. They make more than you, with children, they need to learn to be more repsonsible with their future. And by accepting handouts from you~ they're not learning anything!

[goingnorth]

your right,i can always leave a trust behind for the kids.i hadnt thought of that.perhaps this emotional thing was to slow me down ,to get me thinking.not stop me.ill just regroup and plan for a better departure.maybe i need to think and prepare more.i wouldnt want to get in a snow drift and freak out, would i?perfect !you guys are golden!well played.great advice.i could just wait till tax season and have that much more.its only a few months away.and really i should wait and come at the end of winter not beginning,huh? that way plenty of time before hammerfall to adjust. thanks guys later

[RAMFEB31]

Originally Posted by goingnorth

your right,i can always leave a trust behind for the kids.i hadnt thought of that.perhaps this emotional thing was to slow me down ,to get me thinking.not stop me.ill just regroup and plan for a better departure.maybe i need to think and prepare more.i wouldnt want to get in a snow drift and freak out, would i?perfect !you guys are golden!well played.great advice.i could just wait till tax season and have that much more.its only a few months away.and really i should wait and come at the end of winter not beginning,huh? that way plenty of time before hammerfall to adjust. thanks guys later

Hey North, Leave the trust for me. I am sure I can put it to good use feeding that monster that get 8 mpg. And, also, take me w/you up North and subsidize me on my living expenses.
Seriously, unless you have some very close blood relations to the mentioned, it does not make sense to support a family who are more than capable of supporting themselves. Charity should be given to deserving people. Philanthropic thoughts are great when you are a Bill Gates.

[johnrex62]

If you really feel that bad, invite them to move up with you. They will either pull their weight and help you make it, or they will decide your help isn't worth it and move back with a determination to make their own way.

[goingnorth]

ok the mentioned is step, but they feel like blood, because this strain of married in relatives have been there for many years.for example my step great nephew responds better to me than my original blood nephew does.and there are others too.untill just a few months ago they all respected me like none of my blood relatives do.(stupid sqabble).so yeah thats kinda different than some charity case.however,they make more money in a week than i do in 3.so, yes,of course i should reconsider putting off moving because of thier plight.on the other hand the impulse is very powerfull and perhaps i should investigate it.im not an idiot,i wont give it all away so they can have new a dvd player.and yes im aware that this is my time.i just need some time to "tread water"lol,get it?ha ha. i still want to go up there.im just a little beside my self right now.make no mistake about it they are precious to me.