Ok, I gotta know!!! (Sterling, Hope: work, houses, campus)

[Rance]

True with my ex wife back in 1991, and more recently ex girlfriend. Both were moved in with another guy in town, the very day I escorted each of them out the front door! And the guy my ex wife moved in with...about a year later called me complaining about her! I just told him hey...all you had to do was ask...I could have told you what she's really like and hung up. Ahahahahahaha...I still chuckle over that.

Both were a total waste of my time and effort. Like I said in another thread...what sane woman wants to live rurally in this day and age. None I have met. Even tho it's 10 miles to the hair salon, tanning beds and shopping, it still seems too far away I guess. I do have to admit, it is kind of nice having my house all to myself again.

[freeedom]

Originally Posted by Rainy

Is that really the truth, Rance? If so, that's sad.

I've heard that saying a lot in small Alaska towns. I always found it....well, insulting. Personally I don't live that lifestyle and don't have a lot of use for those who do.

Personally, I'll leave here at some point; I've known that for awhile. Socially, rural Alaska just doesn't have it. It's depressing to admit that but it's the truth.

Rainy: In your view why does rural Alaska just doesn't have it? thanks in advance for any of your thoughts on the topic.

[Alaskagrl]

Well, I can't speak to what Rainy means exactly, but from my point of view; it is definitely harder to find someone here who is an outdoors person, has a steady job, is slightly intellectual (enough to have a lively political conversation, or literary), and is nice! I'm talking boyfriends or just friends of either sex. I've found several great people who are hunting or fishing buddies, but in the end, that's about all we have to talk about. Now, I'm passionate about both hunting and fishing, but I'm also passionate about other things. I know that these people exist in rural AK, but I believe some really don't like to mingle around too much; recently I've met one or two people I didn't even know lived here, who are very interesting and intelligent people, but who rarely come in to "town" and don't socialize at all. That's their prerogative, of course. Personally, I haven't reached the point Rainy has of knowing I'll move on...on the contrary, I believe I'll probably be a life-er...but I may be kind of lonely and end up with too many damn cats! And as I get older, who knows where I'll end up? I might know a little about where R. is coming from...let me know if I'm way off base here, Rainy...I don't mean to speak for you!

[freeedom]

alaskagrl,
Thank you for your take on this, Rainy made the comment, so I addressed the question her way,,,but not limited too her. Your view point to quality of life in requards to ( socializing ) or interacting with both genders. Gives a person a sense of You will always have the gorgeous Alaska beauity. But maybe not so much the enrichment of social interaction among the people. I have not consisdered the vast potential for the effects to cause a person to leave such a place that they love.

[Rainy]

I'm not going to spend a lot of time or effort on a post that might get censored, so I'll just say that I need something different. The ratio of men to women in rural communities is conducive to some unhealthy behavior patterns in both sexes. Personally, I would rather be asked out to dinner because a man wanted to simply have dinner with me, rather than because I was the only single female within two hundred miles with all her teeth and without a meth problem and a couple of deliquent kids.

When I lived here in my twenties, AKgirl, there was an okay sized crowd of people my age of similar backgrounds and interests, but they've pretty much all moved on because there was nothing here for them, ultimately, when the time came to get serious about employment and families, et al. There were also quite a few people actually able to make a living hand or power trolling back then. There seemed to be more money in the community--I think that POW's resrouces are stretched extremely thin. I don't know what it's like now socially as far as the younger people go.

[Alaskagrl]

Rainy,

Yeah, that makes a lot of sense to me; it is not an easy task to make a steady, decent living here, and there ain't much variety in jobs in rural AK.

POW now...for the ages 20-30, its pretty thin. U got the rastafarian trust-funders who come looking for something that they don't understand, and they usually don't stick around long. Or u get the ex-cons (or wanted felons!).

U R right about the other thing, too...it's a little bit hard to know if a guy likes you for who you are or if you are just the only clean, decent-living gal he's seen for a while. On the other side; guys probably would have something to say about this...
oh well, it's nice to get some perspective from different folks on this issue. I have been thinking about it more than usual lately so it's nice to be able to express some thoughts. Now I'll try to ignore it for awhile. Come on, spring!

[freeedom]

rainy,

thanks for the response, I thought it might be along those lines, I echo, your opening statment 100%.

[Rainy]

Thanks for understand, freeedom. It might have been an interesting discussion to have had. But personally I'd be more than glad to leave the men in AK to the simpering twits down south who saw a tv show and think it has any bearing in reality.

[sun queen]

Hey Midnitebreeze an HockeyGirl u guys are funny I laughed myself silly about the pickins and the picks. I can't wait to find out for myself.

[Mother Nature]

You guys (people) are wonderful.

Love the women more than the car and you will be smiling for a long time....lol

I personally am looking for a "blind man" who can see the beauty that I truly am....Some of us independant women scare you all off way to easy....

Life is soooooooooooooo short, lets just enjoy each others companionship