Dating in Alaska (Dillingham, Sunrise: school district, pros and cons, to move)

[mal_flisk]

Cobolt, what's wrong with us Harry Potter types? We're cute (sort of). We're not needy (most of the time). And hey, weedy thin guys live longer! LOL

[Barkingowl]

Originally Posted by Alaskagrl

I mentored a young man here in AK who had a real romantic side; he went all-out for his girlfriend with stunning bouquets of red roses and even picked her a wildflower bouquet or two--she, poor soul, did not really appreciate the gesture. What an idiot!

Maybe he should've bought her a few boxes of ammo & an ATV...

[Alaskagrl]

Originally Posted by Barkingowl

Maybe he should've bought her a few boxes of ammo & an ATV...

Heheheh...that would do it for me, too!! maybe a set of studded tires...nothing shows you care like wilderness equipment!!

[Barkingowl]

Well sometimes people have different love languages & if he's trying to be romantic when she wants to go snow machining then there can be problems. Has this young man tried talking to her & finding out what she likes?

[aurorawatcher]

Originally Posted by Barkingowl

Maybe he should've bought her a few boxes of ammo & an ATV...

Originally Posted by Alaskagrl

Heheheh...that would do it for me, too!! maybe a set of studded tires...nothing shows you care like wilderness equipment!!

Well that makes X-mas shopping easier.

[Alaskagrl]

Originally Posted by Barkingowl

Well sometimes people have different love languages & if he's trying to be romantic when she wants to go snow machining then there can be problems. Has this young man tried talking to her & finding out what she likes?

I think it was more a matter of immaturity...of course, they're both under 21, so you know...

Guess since I care about him and know him well, I figured she should automatically know what a mental effort it took for a "tough guy" his age (in this environment) to show a soft side like that--he really laid himself open. She wasn't mean or anything--just didn't quite appreciate it in the way I thought she should, considering his efforts. But that's just my opinion, which has nothing to do with their relationship; I know he felt a bit stung, though. She was a real "girly girl" too--not too much into hunting, etc. so he was doing what he felt was most appropriate.

[aurorawatcher]

Well maybe he is better off then as he probably would have had to turn his life around for her. And not enjoy the things he likes to do.


So should I send your flowers to work? It might be difficult sending studded tires

[Alaskagrl]

Hehehe... oh gosh, I dunno what to say. I'll PM ya!

*speechless in Alaska*

[ComputerUser000]

Originally Posted by cobolt

I don't know...I think a healthy respect for private possessions isn't a bad thing, and sometimes after being alone for a while, it takes time to kick into the "us" mode. I remember with my last bf, one morning he took my blue coffee cup from the cabinet and drank from it. It's funny now but Ithought I was going to come unglued, because, afterall, that was MY coffee cup. I got over that, but there were other issues that more justified my territorial behavior. I had special chocolates and would have one every morning with coffee. He would eat these things up like they were cheetos or something. He knew damned well that these were a luxury for me, and he'd do it anyway, and continued to, even when I expressed my displeasure. There were other infractions against my personal property and disregard for my things, so I tend to look at the coffee cup incident now as justified. I hated coming home to things that were gone, eaten, broken, or misplaced. I play and share well with others, but there is a certain comfort in knowing that when you come home from work, your apartment is just as you left it and if you can't find something, it's your own darned fault.

Very well said.... and I agree with alot of what you said.

I was in a relationship where the other person was somewhat controlling and kinda decided how things would be or what we do.

Im single... and I love it and hate it. I wish i had someone other then my 8 year old Beagle dog to share my life with as I feel I have alot to share and give another person.............. but at the same time, I like being able to eat what I please, go wherever I want whenever I want, etc.

I agree with something else several other posters on here have said.. it happens when you least expect it, that's how it worked for me.. be only lasted 6 or 7 months, and its been 4 years since the day we broke up.....

I think the other thing that's hard for me is that, while it doesn't apepar so, I work in a specialized industry.

Yes, I'm one of those guys you refer to as an on air personality, on the radio that talks between records. However, my job is so much more. .and I am interested in finite stuff like technical/radio frequency and equipment issues... which can be very complicated.

I mean no disrespect to anyone, but it is very hard to find someone who understands what I do, has an interest in it or even grasps some basic stuff. It is very hard to be so passionate, involved and knowledgeable about the field you work in.. want to talk about it all the time and have someone who has no clue.

As involved in my career as I am, whoever I date has to be part of that....

[cobolt]

Originally Posted by mal_flisk

Cobolt, what's wrong with us Harry Potter types? We're cute (sort of). We're not needy (most of the time). And hey, weedy thin guys live longer! LOL

Nothing personal. They're just not my type!! I've gone a lifetime with being "open-minded" and dating outside my "type." No more. Now I'm being superficial and looking for my "type," since the other strategy has gotten me a big bridge to nowhere.