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Old 05-19-2009, 09:05 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Hey everyone. This is my first post and figured I would tell a little bit about myself and why I have registered. I'm 23 years old working full-time for a trucking/warehousing company here in North Carolina. I work in accounting and also manage a warehouse. I have some college, 54 credit hours to be exact in computer programming. But I quit due to personal issues and haven't returned. School has never really been my thing. I love hands on experience. I have been unhappy the last 3 months or so. I'm just tired of everything in my life. I'm just so sick of society and the drama that follows non-stop. Tired of having the same routine everyday. Although in todays economy, I am fortunate to have a decent paying job but I'm just unhappy. I want more out of life. The last two weeks it has been hitting me pretty hard. I have had days I thought about just getting in my truck and just hitting the road. Where am I going? I'm not sure. I want to experience new things and meet new people. All my friends are either married, engaged or have a girlfriend. I eventually want to find someone someday and have a couple kids but why now? I'm only 23 and have no stories to tell. If I stay here i'll end up just like everyone here. Get married, live a boring life and have a few beers on the weekend.

I have been thinking about Alaska for a couple days now. Haven't really started my research and I know there is a lot to be learned on this forum. But I have never lived anywhere besides here and If I did move. I would be moving alone of course. My main issue is jobs. I guess I'm scared of risking what I have here even though I'm unhappy with it. But anything worth doing, there is a risk. I just don't won't to turn out being a bum.

Does anyone have any helpful advice? I'm going to be honest. My head is really cloudy right now.
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Old 05-19-2009, 09:13 PM
 
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Does anyone have any helpful advice? I'm going to be honest. My head is really cloudy right now.
Running away from things or moving just to "start over" wont change anything. I have moved about thirty times and just recently realized that I am the problem, not where I live. If you arent happy with yourself you wont be happy no matter where you live or who you're with. Happiness starts with yourself then moves outwards, and is better shared, but you shouldnt seek out a partner (or in this case a move) thinking it will change things...because it wont. You may temporarily feel different but then will eventually revert to the state you're in now. Unfortunately most people never realize this and just spend their entire lives being miserable, always chasing that magical thing over the hill that they just cant quite put their finger on.
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Old 05-19-2009, 09:25 PM
 
Location: Too far from Alaska
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Yeah, I was kinda thinking you need someone to spank your azz. You were in a good field and good career education situation. Sit back and see if you can pick up the pieces and finish the school. A degree in your pocket might mean income that will enable you to do the things you like in life. Maybe move to Alaska too in near future. "Hands on" pioneer ways to make living are shrinking fast and newcomers will suffer the most. Work, finish school, save some money and enjoy your dreams than.
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Old 05-19-2009, 09:25 PM
 
Location: North Carolina
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Running away from things or moving just to "start over" wont change anything. I have moved about thirty times and just recently realized that I am the problem, not where I live. If you arent happy with yourself you wont be happy no matter where you live or who you're with. Happiness starts with yourself then moves outwards, and is better shared, but you shouldnt seek out a partner (or in this case a move) thinking it will change things...because it wont. You may temporarily feel different but then will eventually revert to the state you're in now. Unfortunately most people never realize this and just spend their entire lives being miserable, always chasing that magical thing over the hill that they just cant quite put their finger on.
I think I'm unhappy about myself because of this lifestyle I'm living. Seems like there is nothing here for me and I'm just tired of it. I mean is wanting more out of life a bad reason to move?
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Old 05-19-2009, 09:32 PM
 
Location: Too far from Alaska
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No, it is not. But you could get your basics pinned down in couple of years and than do the things you want, always having something to fall back on- ea the degree, the paper...
There is nothing cool about struggling between the jobs and always trying to make ends meet. Little dicomfort now, lots of ease later. That's how I see it.
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Old 05-19-2009, 09:39 PM
 
Location: Naptowne, Alaska
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Take a well deserved vacation to Alaska. Poke around and see what you come up with.
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Old 05-19-2009, 09:44 PM
 
Location: Bliss Township, Michigan
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Both of what John and Jason have said are right and true, but...
At your age, 23, you are still young enough to explore and have some fun for a couple years, then if needed, get back in school. Do some true soul searching, see/feel what you want to do. All the money in the world wont make you happy if you aren't happy in your heart.

Do what truely feels best for you. Remember, you are number one!
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Old 05-19-2009, 10:38 PM
 
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I think I'm unhappy about myself because of this lifestyle I'm living. Seems like there is nothing here for me and I'm just tired of it. I mean is wanting more out of life a bad reason to move?

Dont move up to Alaska without a good job already waiting for you. If you have a ton of money saved up and are bored, by all means, but otherwise dont move thinking all your questions will be answered...because that wont happen. Most people up here work a normal job, just like in the lower 48, and are a smaller part of the system. Just because there are some mountains and wild animals up here doesnt force life to be more fulfilling. You need to do a self inventory and try to find on your own terms what you're seeking. Its different for everyone and in most cases will continue your whole life.

Its probably a good thing that you're questioning your life style and looking for changes...but there is a limit on what you should and should not do. I would start small if I were you and work your way up from there. Start by finding some new friends/hobbies and quit the moping around on weekends looking for answers at the bottom of a bottle.
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