Whenever you drink, do you get drunk? (vodka, Scotch, top)
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I always worry when a person very close to me goes out to drink, because I worry she will get drunk. I would estimate that 50-80% of the times she drinks, she gets drunk. Not "good feeling" drunk. I'm talking about stumbling, needing to be carried, almost incomprehensible (speech) drunk, at the worst.
She is in her early 50's and has experienced several terrible things in her life in the last 10 years, including the passing of her husband. She doesn't go drink very often, but when she does, it's the whole bottle of wine, the whole box of beer, etc.
Most people that drink exhibit alcoholic behavior. Go open an alcoholism pamphlet (or website) and go down the checklist to determine if you are an alcoholic or not (according to them). I guarantee you that anyone who has ever drank before could check off at least three of the behaviors.
I drink to get inebriated, but also note that I'm a young 20-something so that's likely to change as I get older.
I love wine and savor the taste, but I still have to have at least two glasses so I can get a buzz going. Liquor, of course, is my go to alcohol of choice for getting completely wasted.
Eating well is a big priority of mine, though, so drinking doesn't fit into my diet too often.
I always worry when a person very close to me goes out to drink, because I worry she will get drunk. I would estimate that 50-80% of the times she drinks, she gets drunk. Not "good feeling" drunk. I'm talking about stumbling, needing to be carried, almost incomprehensible (speech) drunk, at the worst.
She is in her early 50's and has experienced several terrible things in her life in the last 10 years, including the passing of her husband. She doesn't go drink very often, but when she does, it's the whole bottle of wine, the whole box of beer, etc.
Do you engage in this practice very often?
I know this thread is a few months old, but the OP really didn't explain himself, thoroughly, in terms of his lady friend. She doesn't drink very often, but when she does, 50 - 80% of the time she gets plastered. Well, I don't know how often is "not very often". For some people, not very often means once a month or once every three months. For others, it might be once or twice a year. And 50 - 80% of the time, she gets drunk....well that can be a difference between maybe a couple times a year or at most - 8 times a year. Let's say it's on the high end of my assumption - 8 times a year. Well, that's 8 times she gets plastered per year. So, 8 nights out of 365 nights a year, she's getting plastered. We all can probably give drinkers a pass for a couple times a year (New Year's, maybe even Christmas Eve for some folks...) so that would knock us down to 6 times a year. Are these special events she goes to or is this just simply going out to the bar or staying home? The OP doesn't tell us. My assumption is, the OP has a think for his lady friend and he's more worried about her getting taken advantage of by some guy than her drinking. Rightfully understandable.
I'm not condoning getting plastered. But, if one is only drinking (really) drinking a handful of times a year, and half of those times, she's getting drunk - that's pretty benign. I know people who get plastered at least every weekend if not two or three times a week just as the OP has described. THEY have a problem for sure!
I would say the majority of people who are in their earlier 20's probably engage in this "practice" as much as possible - some every weekend! The older you get, the more you realized your body can't take that type of abuse. For me, I have certain special events where I might be quite liberal with the alcohol, but for the most part, I'm usually drinking just enough to have a slight buzz and that's about it. I HATE hangovers, and I am always worried that I have that potential to become an alcoholic if I allowed it to happen, and I just don't plan on allowing myself to get into that sort of shape.
I like to drink on occasion if there's something in the house, but getting hammered anymore is reserved for a few special holidays including New Years, St. Patty's day, and my birthday. Other than that, I might have a couple beers or glasses of wine and I'm done. I have alcoholism history in my family so I make sure I watch how often I drink, I'd like to be able to continue to enjoy it without becoming dependent on it. No way do I want to turn into the uncle that ALWAYS smelled of beer.
To the OP I think your friend has a drinking problem. It is not cool to drink until you stagger around or need to be carried out of a place. How does she feel the next day? Embarrassed, sick, hungover?
I once dated a woman that could take it or leave drink but when she drank watch out she would wind up on the floor or thrown out of a place for causing trouble. She eventually went to AA and got it under control.
Do your friends know you look down on them like that?
Like what?
Don't take yourself so seriously, dude. I don't mind being the DD and I don't mind that my friends like to drink sometimes. Are you hung up on my use of the word smashed, or the word lush?
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