Whats with the women in Arizona !!!! (Scottsdale, Yuma: work, moving to, dating)

[londonbarcelona]

Originally Posted by katie45

I hear ya! I find that the majority of men who are in their 50-60's living in the Central Plains region want women who are in their 30's - 40's! Unless these guys are filthy rich or look like they are in their 30's to 40's, Why would the younger women want them? I've seen these guys' photos and most of them look like they are in their 70's and definitely are not head-turners!

I'm having a good laugh at this stuff. People can "blame" Scottsdale, but I think it's today's mentality. I think living in an area like this where it's nice and warm all the time is more difficult for older folks. Can't hide all the physical faults anymore. <snicker>
Yeah, pretty much the really good looking (read: have had major work done>) older women are looking for a much younger man and the rich guys are looking for their trophy girlfriend. Everyone else is screwed... LOL

[diecastcarguy]

Very interesting comments and whats funny is when I lived back in Chicago I had no problem finding women to date and NOT on dating sites. Also for the 18 months I lived in OR I really had no problems again dating women. Not one night stand crap either.

Whats even more interesting is I have always dated 10-15 years younger being I look somewhat younger and act it. But I move here...... for ME and only me and decide to date my age and its a dating desert, LOL. Maybe I should have seen that one coming, LOL.

As far as following your path thing. I do what I love and love what I do except its not likey I find someone when I work from home and 98% of my customers are men and no its not porn or sex related, LOL. My business doesnt allow me to associate with many females.

To the poster who put C. G. ? Yeah whats wrong with CG ? Booming area, lots of new retail opening, beautiful open spaces, no hustle and bustle of the city. I love it and wouldnt change it for anything at this point. Heck I love the weather and its summer here it can only get better come winter.

So basically what im reading is........... what will be will be and it will happen when and if it happens. Whoohooo I got that going for me at least, LOL.

[topjimmy]

You're not showing off your die cast cars on the first date are you?

[Stumblina]

I don't think it matters where you live. I'm a widow in Michigan. It's been 16 years since my husband passed away and I'm STILL single! There are plenty of decent, kind, honest, etc. men in Michigan - the problem is they're all taken! What's left is not exactly desirable. I'm hoping that when I move to AZ there will be a better selection of men for a very attractive 50 year old, young-looking and young at heart, 5'5", brown-eyed blonde to meet! (Geeze, almost sounds like a personal ad, doesn't it!)

[diecastcarguy]

Originally Posted by topjimmy

You're not showing off your die cast cars on the first date are you?

Jimmy , maybe I shouldn't tell them I play with toy cars all day and get paid for it either huh ?


Stumblina....... apprently there are men here, LOL. Search Craigslist.org to see what the male market holds so you have an idea going in. I know finding someone to enjoy AZ with was on my list but wasnt near the top so as stated before, whatever happens , happens.

[Ozark Nana]

When everyone grows up they will seek out someone based on a relationship of respect, love and passion for the same things in life. Be they spiritual, service to community or common goals, hobbies and interests. Someone that is ready to build a relationship for life.

Before you keep talking about what's NOT out there, maybe it's time to take a look in the mirror and ask yourself honestly what others see in YOU? Do they see someone shallow, self centered, egotistical, phoney, etc. Sometimes it's easier to blame someone else than to be honest with yourself and work on changing YOU. JMHO....

O.Nana

[Magnum Mike]

Originally Posted by Power Surge

As a single woman age 50, I too, have heard a lot about those dating sites where men seem to be only interested in bed partners. But it seems though, that in my experiences, theyre either looking for that, or they turn out 'too' clingy, (maybe desperate?), which in time, turns to controlling and/or obsessiveness. Not gonna happen here.
Though Im single, am not looking probably because I dont want either of those and would rather stay single than live with one extreme or the other. Heck, I dont know which is worse, the over-clingy-obcessed guy or the player! Again, this is from my own experiences, everyone elses will probably vary.
In your case, you might do better in Southern Calif, believe me, there are ALL types there. Craigslist are full of sleezes and is worse than a dating site for partners. But if you want a good laugh, there are plenty of jokers in there, lol.

The one thing I know for sure, it seems like women that have had relationships/marriages in the past, and ended up disappointed or getting hurt, build a barrier around them to make sure the same thing doesn't happen again. But sometimes, that barrier can also keep decent men out of their lives.

This is just like everything else in life, and it's with both genders, a few bad apples ruin it for the rest of us decent folks.

[jms007]

I am a 50 yr woman, and I find it really hard to meet a man my age, who is nice, has a job, doesn't want Barbie, and wants a good relationship, friendship, fun times, and good sex included.

[desertpine1]

so what ARE you doing? Ranting, or what? Saw your letter and felt sorry for you. I have never been to an online dating site, or talked w/someone over the internet like yourself. So you see there ARE nice girls out there. Just wrote to reassure this. I too, am recently widowed, and am also 50. 51 actually. My husband was 40 when he passed away, sadly, an untimely death.I was NOT looking for a younger man. I refused to date him for the longest time because he was younger. My first husband was 7 yrs. OLDER than me, and he too, passed away, so I can say I've seen both sides. I am not writing to obtain a date, by the way. I think it takes women longer to recover than men, where men are ready and looking for companionship sooner after the death of a spouse, when women are still trying to pick themselves up. I personally dont think I will get married again.I would be willing to speak with you over the internet though, if you'd like someone to talk to. I'm sorry about your loss. Noone knows how devastating it is to loose a spouse until they've been there. Desertpine1

[sheena]

My sister is a single 53 year old and cannot meet anyone good in Phoenix. She was married for a very short time to a guy that became a meth addict. That's all the action she's gotten in 19 years. Single and no kids.