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Old 06-21-2012, 05:31 AM
 
Location: The western periphery of Terra Australis
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Let me know if your experience is different from mine. Anyway, I've got a hunch about something...while in many Western nations people are outwardly quite polite and friendly, it's hard to make deep friendships/really get to know somebody (I guess a natural reserve). While in Asia, in contrast, while people often don't seem that friendly to start off with, once they get to know you and a friendship does develop they treat you like family. I.e. always inviting you round, saying how good friends you are.etc. Just an air of familiarity.

This might vary from country to country of course, but would you say there's some truth to this observation? I'd say this would be particularly the case in West Asia, South Asia and Southeast Asia, and least the case in Japan. Korea and Japan might be halfway, as Koreans seem very friendly. Singapore is probably one of the exceptions, both cold on first impression and hard to 'break the ice' or making lasting friendships.

Would anybody who has lived in Asia or has extensive experience in Asia care to comment/share?
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Old 06-21-2012, 07:05 AM
 
Location: Yucaipa, California
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I only have 1 life long friend & hes my cousin. Im 5 months older then him & we go back to our pre-teen yrs. We lost contact many yrs ago even though he lives nearby. We have nothing in common & are totally the opposite of each other. I have had friends over the yrs but none that i want to contact. Im a very private person.
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Old 06-21-2012, 11:05 AM
 
Location: Macao
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Let me know if your experience is different from mine. Anyway, I've got a hunch about something...while in many Western nations people are outwardly quite polite and friendly, it's hard to make deep friendships/really get to know somebody (I guess a natural reserve). While in Asia, in contrast, while people often don't seem that friendly to start off with, once they get to know you and a friendship does develop they treat you like family. I.e. always inviting you round, saying how good friends you are.etc. Just an air of familiarity.

This might vary from country to country of course, but would you say there's some truth to this observation? I'd say this would be particularly the case in West Asia, South Asia and Southeast Asia, and least the case in Japan. Korea and Japan might be halfway, as Koreans seem very friendly. Singapore is probably one of the exceptions, both cold on first impression and hard to 'break the ice' or making lasting friendships.

Would anybody who has lived in Asia or has extensive experience in Asia care to comment/share?
I know expats bond with other expats extremely quickly. Mostly because just so much in common - similar references to a place that you're no longer in, plus all the same shared experiences of adjusting to somewhere new.
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Old 06-22-2012, 08:20 AM
 
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Let me know if your experience is different from mine. Anyway, I've got a hunch about something...while in many Western nations people are outwardly quite polite and friendly, it's hard to make deep friendships/really get to know somebody (I guess a natural reserve). While in Asia, in contrast, while people often don't seem that friendly to start off with, once they get to know you and a friendship does develop they treat you like family. I.e. always inviting you round, saying how good friends you are.etc. Just an air of familiarity.

This might vary from country to country of course, but would you say there's some truth to this observation? I'd say this would be particularly the case in West Asia, South Asia and Southeast Asia, and least the case in Japan. Korea and Japan might be halfway, as Koreans seem very friendly. Singapore is probably one of the exceptions, both cold on first impression and hard to 'break the ice' or making lasting friendships.

Would anybody who has lived in Asia or has extensive experience in Asia care to comment/share?
I don't think you can generalise the Westerners and Asians in that sense as there are reserved and open-minded people everywhere you go.

Even within the Western world and subsequently the country itself, there are varying levels of reservation and friendliness. For instance, people in the northern part of the UK tend to be friendlier and warmer than those in the south and vice versa for the States.

But a clear distinction between the typical Asian and Westerner is that the former is more reserved than the latter when it comes to knowing them better and discussing controversial topics such as homosexuality, a concept that is largely tolerant in the West.
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Old 06-22-2012, 09:50 AM
 
Location: TX
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Speaking only for myself, the people I'm furthest from tend to be the most friendliest I've met. Universally true for me no matter where I've lived. When I moved to TX, I found it to be uber-true with uber-friendly Texans. Birds of a feather flock together. Since I'm not uber-friendly like a Texan, I don't connect with them like they connect with each other. With the exception of a few people in my recovery meetings whom I call on a regular basis, I have not found any friends among Texans.

Most of those that I call friends don't even live in my area. Such as long-lost cousins living back home that I've recently reacquainted with, and certain people in cyberspace that want to connect with me. A great deal of them Asians, and black women. As well white male friends from recovery meetings that I call regularly.
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Old 06-24-2012, 09:48 AM
 
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Americans tend to rush around and fit as much as possible into their day. So I feel that Americans in the USA don't seem to have extra time to develop those deep friendships. Whereas in other non-Western cultures I think old style hospitality and not trying to fit more than can really be done in 24 hours, lets people of those cultures establish deeper relationships as adults.
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