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Old 10-04-2012, 09:11 PM
 
Location: Guangzhou, China
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It's funny, because here in CA at least, I hear more talk about how white men obsess over Asian women than I hear anyone talk about Asian women obsessing over white guys. My ex who was Chinese-American was extremely into Scandinavian mythology, culture, design, and history. She was drawn to me, physically, because I look Scandinavian and was thrilled to discover that I was, in fact, (mostly) ethnically Swedish... on the flip side, I am certainly interested in and respectful of Chinese culture, but my degree of interest in her ancestral culture was dwarfed by her interest in mine. I thought she was extremely attractive and we listened to similar music, liked similar artists, had similar lifestyles, etc.

It's a two-way street, totally. Generally speaking (there are always exceptions of course), a white guy who goes after an Asian gal could have gone after a gal of any other race or ethnicity; same with [insert race/gender]. It's one of the things I never understood when it comes to anyone's gripes about interracial dating... I mean, really, it's no one else's business but the two people involved in the relationship. I generally prefer to assume that people are in relationships because they love eachother and are happy than because it's a fetish or trend or self-loathing, and think it's pointlessly negative to assume otherwise.

 
Old 10-04-2012, 09:19 PM
 
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I agree attraction should be based on the person first regardless of the race. If it's the other way around then it's just a fetish.

Asians do have the highest rate of intermarriage in the us among ethnicities but that could be down to numbers and a more openness to date outside of their culture/race.

 
Old 10-04-2012, 09:23 PM
 
Location: The Land of Reason
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I've never heard that before, so you learn something new every day, I guess.

I heard the same thing when I was in the military, Italian men love black women German and English women also leaned towards American blackmen.
 
Old 10-04-2012, 09:25 PM
 
Location: San Francisco Bay Area
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Here in the Bay Area and in Southern California, it is likely true. Not true everywhere though.
 
Old 10-04-2012, 09:58 PM
 
Location: Guangzhou, China
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My personal theory is that white men idolize petite and thin.

Very very very few western caucasian woman are like that in this day and age. However, Asian women are naturally like that.

That being said, Russia is filled with thin, model-like women, which would make 'white guys' turn their heads in a mini-second.

I don't think white men look for 'loving' or 'respectful' or whatever else. Plenty of white women are equally loving and respectful. I think it purely comes down to physical appearance. Also, on that note, Asian women still highly value fashion, make-up, dressing up, etc. When you see western caucasian women, they just don't do those types of things.
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I'd say some white guys like that. A lot of the white blokes who go there are from Europe, and I think Europeans are used to slimmer women/have more of that ideal. You can judge just by looking at the Euro-based erotica, which favours slim, almost pre-pubescent females in erotica. In mainstream US porn the women are still a bit more curvy and busty. Australians I think also tend to go for busty women.

But definitely, there are quite a few white men who like that, some don't. Not all Asian women are slim and petite. Thais and Koreans, for instance, are often quite curvaceous and well-rounded with generous breasts. I noticed that in Vietnam there were very very few overweight people. In Thailand actually quite a few.
I think that most white guys I've known over the course of my life are more into T&A than petiteness. FWIW, most of the Asian women I've had relationships with were either fairly busty or had hips.

When it comes down to interracial dating: yes, I think that appearance as well as cultural affinity generally are the two biggest draws.

As far as the whole "good wife" thing, most of the guys whom I've heard say that are somehow deficient in their personal lives - like, they're jerks, they're socially inept, they're losers - basically, they've got some sort of problem that makes it so that most of the quality women from their home country know they're bad news and stay away from them. Rather than look at what THEY'RE doing wrong, it's easier to blame all [insert broad descriptor] women. A woman from another country may not realize what his social ills are immediately, and may indeed be from a culture where you stick by your man no matter what, even if he totally sucks. That doesn't necessarily make them a "better wife."
 
Old 10-04-2012, 09:58 PM
 
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It's funny, because here in CA at least, I hear more talk about how white men obsess over Asian women than I hear anyone talk about Asian women obsessing over white guys.
That was my experience having had a lot of Asian-American friends when I lived in California.

A white guy trying to meet asian females, was always labeled as an 'asia-phile'...yet another white guy with an abnormally huge asian fetish. It wasn't used as a compliment either.
 
Old 10-04-2012, 10:04 PM
 
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Yes it's true because I had a friend married a caucasian Men, maybe they like it. Love at first sight maybe..
 
Old 10-04-2012, 10:26 PM
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Old 10-04-2012, 10:30 PM
 
Location: Guangzhou, China
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That was my experience having had a lot of Asian-American friends when I lived in California.

A white guy trying to meet asian females, was always labeled as an 'asia-phile'...yet another white guy with an abnormally huge asian fetish. It wasn't used as a compliment either.
Definitely. One of my very close friends who's an Chinese-American woman went on a brief stint during college of ranting about white guys who were Asiaphiles. She'd only ever been attracted to and dated white guys, and instead dated a few Asian-American men, all of whom were great guys, but none of whom she was attracted to. Then, she started dating a guy she met on campus who was from Oklahoma, who'd never dated an Asian girl before and had no knowledge of Asian culture. She started off by gushing about how he was into her and not her Asianness or culture, but after a couple months, he'd insulted her repeatedly (asking, jokingly, if it was "dog" when they went to a Chinese restaurant, making no effort to learn about any cultural mores, openly stating that he really didn't care to learn about Chinese culture because it was "weird" to him, etc). After all this ended, she amended her okcupid profile to specifically state that she's looking for a white guy who has some degree of interest in or is at least open to learning about Chinese culture.
 
Old 10-17-2012, 07:50 AM
 
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I only ever see white men dating Asian women in SF Bay Area. To each their own. As an attractive white woman told if I "lived anywhere else I'd meet guys who would want to date me" it understandably bothers me. Now I just do my own thing and have totally talked myself out of wanting to meet someone.
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