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Old 04-06-2013, 09:35 AM
 
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That has been experience living here in the US also.

Most of my Filipina friends are married to other races.


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Filipinos are not ethnocentric... I must say that having been with Spanish people for over 4 centuries and 40 years with Americans, they are the ones who can easily adjust with other cultures especially Western .I am sure that it is more common for a Westerner to be married to Filipinos than with other Asians.

 
Old 04-06-2013, 10:49 AM
 
Location: Czech Republic
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I'm curious, for those who have dated a variety of Asian women or men, if you've noticed any generalities that apply to people from a certain nationality, notwithstanding the obvious disclaimer that people are people. For instance, how would dating a Japanese lady compare with a Thai? Chinese to Korean? Indian to Indonesian? I'm not talking picking up bar-girls or something, but a genuine relationship. Would you say some nationalities present more of a cultural-difference than others? What about Filipinos, is there still a major cultural rift?
I am also interested to know about Western men who are dating Chinese women from Mainland China because it seems like the culture is really very very different. Let's start with religion, the cutting in line, the sneezing without covering the mouth, not practicing Christmas etc. and even funny practice like EAting dessert with the main course ( I have seen a lot of this in Pizza Hut they would eat their cakes or ice cream before having a Pizza/ pasta or while having Pizza/ pasta. So it makes me wonder if western men do not feel uncomfortable with these things ?
 
Old 04-07-2013, 06:48 PM
 
Location: Guangzhou, China
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I am also interested to know about Western men who are dating Chinese women from Mainland China because it seems like the culture is really very very different. Let's start with religion,
I am a proud apostate with absolutely no love for Christ or any of the stupid parables that people attributed after his death. Growing up in a devoutly Christian household was awful, and I want nothing to do with it nor will I ever, ever again.

Living in a non-Christian society is actually extremely appealing to me, as is being with a woman who has either walked away from Christianity or was simply never raised in it.

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the cutting in line,
Assuming that you mean Western men who are with Chinese women in China: as long as you understand it's a cultural difference and take the "when in Rome" approach, it's fine.

Most Chinese people learn not to cut in line once they move to the US, especially the younger ones who find life in America appealing enough to date a laowai.

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the sneezing without covering the mouth,
See above.

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not practicing Christmas etc.
See above re: Christianity.

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and even funny practice like EAting dessert with the main course ( I have seen a lot of this in Pizza Hut they would eat their cakes or ice cream before having a Pizza/ pasta or while having Pizza/ pasta.
I ordered a peanut/coconut sweet pancake once as an appetizer along with my spicy tofu and ate the two together; it was fine.

I don't like breakfast food; I basically eat the same stuff for lunch and dinner, and usually my breakfast is just a protein/creatine/fresh fruit shake and a protein bar... so, I really don't care about convention when it comes to such things.

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So it makes me wonder if western men do not feel uncomfortable with these things ?
Not in my case, no.
 
Old 04-07-2013, 09:48 PM
 
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I am a proud apostate with absolutely no love for Christ or any of the stupid parables that people attributed after his death. Growing up in a devoutly Christian household was awful, and I want nothing to do with it nor will I ever, ever again.

Living in a non-Christian society is actually extremely appealing to me, as is being with a woman who has either walked away from Christianity or was simply never raised in it.


Assuming that you mean Western men who are with Chinese women in China: as long as you understand it's a cultural difference and take the "when in Rome" approach, it's fine.

Most Chinese people learn not to cut in line once they move to the US, especially the younger ones who find life in America appealing enough to date a laowai.


See above.


See above re: Christianity.


I ordered a peanut/coconut sweet pancake once as an appetizer along with my spicy tofu and ate the two together; it was fine.

I don't like breakfast food; I basically eat the same stuff for lunch and dinner, and usually my breakfast is just a protein/creatine/fresh fruit shake and a protein bar... so, I really don't care about convention when it comes to such things.


Not in my case, no.
I forgot to mention " Not wearing Deodorant " , as I have noticed in the lifts, in the hospitals, in the stores or even the women working in make up/ perfume stores.
 
Old 04-07-2013, 10:07 PM
 
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I am also interested to know about Western men who are dating Chinese women from Mainland China because it seems like the culture is really very very different. Let's start with religion, the cutting in line, the sneezing without covering the mouth, not practicing Christmas etc. and even funny practice like EAting dessert with the main course ( I have seen a lot of this in Pizza Hut they would eat their cakes or ice cream before having a Pizza/ pasta or while having Pizza/ pasta. So it makes me wonder if western men do not feel uncomfortable with these things ?
Most Chinese don't like dessert at all and seldom eat it.
Why don't you worry about how western men use chopsticks? Westerners don't know how to behave in front of parents in law etc.
 
Old 04-07-2013, 10:56 PM
 
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I forgot to mention " Not wearing Deodorant " , as I have noticed in the lifts, in the hospitals, in the stores or even the women working in make up/ perfume stores.
I didn't notice women being smelly in China. The guys definitely didn't have the habit, but they generally didn't get to smelling that terribly. Definitely had a lot worse in lots of other parts of Asia. Basically, the poorer the country then generally the less likely they'll be using deodorant.
 
Old 04-07-2013, 11:05 PM
 
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I didn't notice women being smelly in China. The guys definitely didn't have the habit, but they generally didn't get to smelling that terribly. Definitely had a lot worse in lots of other parts of Asia. Basically, the poorer the country then generally the less likely they'll be using deodorant.
I have noticed a lot. Even the younger women who dress up more still smell. Once I almost fainted in a make up store while the sales lady was giving me the basket. In the lifts when it's too crowded it is very noticeable. I have also noticed that it is hard to look for deodorants here even in big supermarkets and when you ask the sales ladies it's like they don't know anything. So far, there are only 2 stores that really sell deodorants ( watsons and mannings ) .

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Old 04-08-2013, 12:02 AM
 
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I have noticed a lot. Even the younger women who dress up more still smell. Once I almost fainted in a make up store while the sales lady was giving me the basket. In the lifts when it's too crowded it is very noticeable. I have also noticed that it is hard to look for deodorants here even in big supermarkets and when you ask the sales ladies it's like they don't know anything. So far, there are only 2 stores that really sell deodorants ( watsons and mannings ) .
Generally, I haven't found it to be overpowering. Pretty most of the developing countries in East and Southeast Asia have this same issue in their megacities. I did find it a bit stronger in south asian developing countries/populations though. However, if you're engaging with the more westernized or higher socioeconomic bracket, most of that disappears.

Also, I wouldn't say it's a deal breaker for a lot of people given other qualities and I'd say that general bathing practices seem fine and the people I've been around/with never tended to smell strongly even in the summer heat.

Also, shaved crotches all over East Asia. Am I right or what?
 
Old 04-08-2013, 01:52 AM
 
Location: Czech Republic
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Most Chinese don't like dessert at all and seldom eat it.
Why don't you worry about how western men use chopsticks? Westerners don't know how to behave in front of parents in law etc.
Well maybe the old ones do not like desserts but there are certainly many young ones who like having cakes and ice cream. Learning chopstick is not tHat important,you are not going to use it when you go to non chinese countries and definitely not as important as Fork and Knife , it is very important to learn table etiquette.
 
Old 04-08-2013, 09:45 AM
 
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Well maybe the old ones do not like desserts but there are certainly many young ones who like having cakes and ice cream. Learning chopstick is not tHat important,you are not going to use it when you go to non chinese countries and definitely not as important as Fork and Knife , it is very important to learn table etiquette.
About 1.3 billion Chinese will never live in any western country. Why should they learn western table etiquette? Chopsticks are used in China, Japan, Korea, Vietnam... The total population is already more than Europe and North America combined.

China is a big nation. You cannot use your small nation mindset to evaluate Chinese people's opinions and behaviors. Most Chinese do not care what westerners think at all.
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