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Old 01-31-2017, 11:15 AM
 
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This is not to say that all of them are this way.

But it seems a lot of the older generation Chinese parents seem to be arrogant sometimes and jump to conclusions about things without listening or examining the situation.

And also, many of them seem to want to standardize everything and assume they know everything like they are a king.

Sometimes it causes conflict between the younger generations and older generations within the Chinese culture.

Can anyone answer why many of the older generation Chinese parents are like that? Does it have something to do with the fact they think because they are at a certain status they are suppose to get everything their way?

Errr...... reminds you of a certain someone sitting in the White House?

Maybe being old and arrogant is not a Chinese thing?
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Old 01-31-2017, 01:24 PM
 
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Errr...... reminds you of a certain someone sitting in the White House?

Maybe being old and arrogant is not a Chinese thing?
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Old 02-01-2017, 03:19 AM
 
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It's because of the Confucian culture of "filial piety". The oldest person is pretty much the "king" of the house. When they were young, their grandparents most likely acted that way as well.
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Old 02-04-2017, 08:20 PM
 
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I think that more than anything else, it's a result of the tradition of filial piety and ancestor worship clashing with the 21st century. It's just the way the culture works, and has worked for some time. There's a right and a wrong way to do everything, and a parent's job is to make sure that their kids do the "right" thing.

The 80's-90's generation in China knows more individual wealth, opportunity, and, in many respects, freedom than China has ever seen before, and have also grown up with more privilege than ever before. Older generations are still stuck in older ways of thinking; they expect that their kids who they spoiled, or at the very least, indulged their whole lives will suddenly do an about-face, stop living life for themselves, and start living for the family when they hit their 20's.

So, I don't really think it's "arrogance" per se. It's just a clash of generational cultures.
Absolutely.

My FIL is 95, and we often remark that he has Ching Dynasty culture, which essentially is Chinese culture since Confucianism took hold.
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Old 02-07-2017, 02:28 PM
 
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Good explanation.

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It's because of the Confucian culture of "filial piety". The oldest person is pretty much the "king" of the house. When they were young, their grandparents most likely acted that way as well.
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Old 02-07-2017, 06:16 PM
 
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It is a culture that is hands on. When you have seniority you have a right to be that way.
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Old 02-08-2017, 01:01 AM
 
Location: Macao
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This is not to say that all of them are this way.

But it seems a lot of the older generation Chinese parents seem to be arrogant sometimes and jump to conclusions about things without listening or examining the situation.

And also, many of them seem to want to standardize everything and assume they know everything like they are a king.

Sometimes it causes conflict between the younger generations and older generations within the Chinese culture.

Can anyone answer why many of the older generation Chinese parents are like that? Does it have something to do with the fact they think because they are at a certain status they are suppose to get everything their way?
Confucianism, and I particularly saw this very strongly in Korea, which is probably the most confucianist-oriented place on the planet. But, of course, China is very much so too.

But, you always respect your elders. What they say, goes.

It was VERY common in Korea, that younger Korean people would just be lectured about pretty much everything (don't smoke, don't do this, don't do that), and the younger people just had to sit and listen, everytime.

I found it to basically be 'Lip Service' though. They'll take their lecturing, and just do what they want. It also made the older Korean male, in particular, very 'King of the World' and very unaware of the reality of anything. Everyone basically just LIED to him all the time. If they started talking to someone, everyone around them just nodded their heads yes, until the person wandered off somewhere else.

I don't think China is AS bad, but I think that confucianist 'respect your parents' and 'don't talk back to your parents' and 'you will honor and respect your parents' at all times, probably still rings true. It seems to anyways.
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Old 02-08-2017, 11:31 AM
 
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because of love!
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Old 02-09-2017, 02:32 PM
 
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I think you are confusing being short and stooped over for arrogance
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Old 02-12-2017, 12:37 AM
 
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Your Asian parents are your superiors and you have to obey their orders.
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