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Old 10-29-2017, 01:29 PM
 
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Old 10-29-2017, 03:10 PM
 
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They also have private investigators to check if a spouse is having an affair.
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Old 10-29-2017, 03:19 PM
 
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They also have private investigators to check if a spouse is having an affair.
America had a reality show on this too.
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Old 10-29-2017, 10:13 PM
 
Location: Taipei
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They also have private investigators to check if a spouse is having an affair.
That seems pretty common in many different places.
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Old 10-30-2017, 09:43 PM
 
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The courts in China are rather different then they are in say the U.S. Women in China are not favored in court during a divorce preceding and then there is the stereotype of a divorced woman trying to find another husband. Perhaps one of the reasons why many women do not feel the need to divorce if their husband cheats on them or has a girlfriend.


Happens very often in China, and much more in Asia in general then in the West for some reason.
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Old 11-01-2017, 09:50 PM
 
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I agree. It is more a loss of face issue. The wives are more concerned about the gossip than the act. Brothels offer discretion, and a lot of the customers are somewhat happily married.
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Old 11-07-2017, 01:29 PM
 
Location: When will Hell Freeze Phoenix, AZ
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I lived in Beijing in the mid 80’s and I remember hearing of prostitution (stories of brothers pushing their sisters in front of cars entering diplomatic compounds for prospective buyers) but never have I heard of actual houses of. I’m not naive enough to think that they don’t exist. What do they use for fronts?
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Old 11-07-2017, 08:16 PM
 
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Fake news from liberal propaganda New Yorker? lol
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Old 11-07-2017, 10:30 PM
 
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Barber shops were the most popular. They use to be everywhere in big cities in China, but are slowly dying out, which is a good thing. You'd have a bunch of really attractive young women in a barber shop with pink dim lights on inside, and not a comb or pair of scissors in the entire shop. Lots of sauna's in Asia and China, and you just have a number of men with girlfriends/mistresses on the side.


I've been friends with a couple locals as well as overseas Asia guys and it just seems like so much work to keep these girlfriends. A second or third cell phone is needed, lots of sneaking around and lying. Just seems like its totally not worth the hassle. lol
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Old 11-08-2017, 09:47 AM
 
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Barber shops were the most popular. They use to be everywhere in big cities in China, but are slowly dying out, which is a good thing. You'd have a bunch of really attractive young women in a barber shop with pink dim lights on inside, and not a comb or pair of scissors in the entire shop. Lots of sauna's in Asia and China, and you just have a number of men with girlfriends/mistresses on the side.


I've been friends with a couple locals as well as overseas Asia guys and it just seems like so much work to keep these girlfriends. A second or third cell phone is needed, lots of sneaking around and lying. Just seems like its totally not worth the hassle. lol
Suppose when marriages are made for reasons other than the couple actually WANTING to be with each other (think gay men in the US trying to hide their sexuality in a conventional heterosexual marriage, although this is probably happening less and less as gay marriage is more acceptable), couple that with the human need for biological diversity and a huge smattering of social stigma, it doesn't surprise me that men would go to such great lengths. And I'm sure women are doing the same thing. Although they probably aren't going to quite the same lengths.
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