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Old 03-15-2018, 03:45 PM
 
Location: Nescopeck, Penna. (birthplace)
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Anyone considering relocating to Japan for any length of time needs to begin by learning a little about the closed, insular nature of Japanese society. From the wording of his posts, the OP seems clueless.
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Old 03-15-2018, 04:00 PM
 
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I don't have a specific "whom" it was more so If I meet someone I click with. And no I wouldn't take just anyone to the US I would have to be pretry serious about them to bring them here. I don't have to much experience dating and it just got more complicated to find someone special when I got money. I'm only 22. I'm sorry if I do sound a little helpless my life just has changed so quickly that I've lost most of my friends and a lot of my family feel entitled to my success and I just really don't like talking to shrinks. So I'm trying to get some 2nd opinions. Since most of my piers are twice my age or older.

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Old 03-15-2018, 04:58 PM
 
Location: The Ozone Layer, apparently...
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Could I just have an example of a situation where you would need to explain to someone else exactly how rich you are?

Aside from that, you should pretend to be as poor as you can. Rich people are targets for robbery and even abduction.
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Old 03-15-2018, 05:28 PM
 
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I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that there is no one on C-D that has the experience to answer this properly. [snip]
Giving you the benefit of the doubt, you have undoubtedly made acquaintances and hopefully mentors on your path. Those would be the people to ask if they've had the experience.

My personal gut feeling is that obscurity is a wise decision. Don't "hide" it as in going out of your way to be someone other than you are/want to be, but deflect inquires. No reason not to enjoy your success, but don't go overboard/flaunt it. Date like you would if you were a $500k/year income (as an example). This is if you're looking for a life partner. If you're just looking to date for fun, swing for the fence!
To be one the safe side he should date like he makes 15K a year, if she is a good woman it would not matter. and if it turns women off they are shallow anyway.

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Old 03-15-2018, 05:36 PM
 
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To be one the safe side he should date like he makes 15K a year, if she is a good woman it would not matter. and if it turns women off they are shallow anyway.
If she is a good woman she will be furious later on at having been lied to, will be horrified at the thought of being with someone who can lie with a straight face for weeks or months and will intelligently realize if he can lie about this he can lie about anything, without so much as thinking twice, so...bye.

No "good" woman will willingly stay with a liar.
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Old 03-15-2018, 05:53 PM
 
Location: North Idaho
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Wealthy men, those with serious wealth, date the daughters of other wealthy men. If those wealthy men are young, they look for their dates at the high end, most expensive universities.

Those women know how to behave in public and how to manage wealth. Wealthy men want their date to be intelligent, educated, to know how to dress and which fork to use at dinner
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Old 03-15-2018, 06:15 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Wealthy men, those with serious wealth, date the daughters of other wealthy men. If those wealthy men are young, they look for their dates at the high end, most expensive universities.

Those women know how to behave in public and how to manage wealth. Wealthy men want their date to be intelligent, educated, to know how to dress and which fork to use at dinner
Woodsmoke is on the right track, OP. Thanks for providing a little more info. I see you're too young to be dating businesswomen, but you're the perfect age to date the daughters of successful businessmen, who are fresh out of university, and getting trained at their dad's company, to rise through the ranks over time. That would be the best way to avoid the airheaded type.

We had a member here before, who said that Japanese women sometimes make the first move, ask for a date, and pay for it. I don't know if that's true, or if he was trolling. He claimed to have a lot of experience dating in Asia.
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Old 03-15-2018, 07:49 PM
 
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Speaking as a female, one of the first things I would do when starting to go out with a new man is to google him. IMHO, your wealth would not be a secret for very long, that is unless you use a fake name, which would create other red flags.

There will always be women who will only see $$$ once they find out who you are, no matter how the relationship began. I wish you the best of luck.
Unless he's famous or has his name everywhere, you're not going to find out his wealth simply by googling him.

I own companies under a trust. This is what is on the public record (along with my lawyer's address). You would not know that I own the trust unless you actually saw my documents, which are not online.
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Old 03-15-2018, 10:05 PM
 
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Money is easy come easy go to some people. I would suggest not letting it define who you are and you’ll be ok. Live well but modestly in Tokyo and you’ll be fine. If you want to be all “new money” and be flashy you’ll attract sharks quickly.
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Old 03-15-2018, 10:31 PM
 
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I don't have to much experience dating and it just got more complicated to find someone special when I got money. I'm only 22. I'm sorry if I do sound a little helpless my life just has changed so quickly that I've lost most of my friends and a lot of my family feel entitled to my success and I just really don't like talking to shrinks.
Who were you/what were you before the money started rolling in? You *are* very young.

I'm curious about the loss of friends and problems you say have cropped up with your family.
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