I'm going to go live in Japan should I hide my finiacial situation from the girls I date? (life, places)
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HI, I'm going to be moving to Japan this year and I will probably be there for 2 years or more. I was going to try my hand at the dating game while I'm there. I've seen similar Posts to this but they never get as high as my case and people act a lot different when they see 8 digits compared to 6 digits.
Now I've never had to hard of a time with women here in the states I'm fairly confident with women so dating them isn't a issue. But there's always the point in the relationship where I can no longer hide just how much money I have and it makes my relationships go sour to a point where I can tell the woman clearly is only thinking about how to stay with me for the money.
I started a business a few years ago and it boomed into a large world wide company. Now I make 5m-10m a year just from it not including my other financial investments. So the main thing I'd like some advise on is if I should should hide my true wealth and go there as a upper middle class man like I was planning then she'd figure it out when things get serious/she comes with me to the states or should i be upfront with my wealth and hope to god that at some point i meet someone who isnt thinking about my money. Any help would be great. Thanks.
I'm gonna go out on a limb and say that there is no one on C-D that has the experience to answer this properly. Mod cut.
Giving you the benefit of the doubt, you have undoubtedly made acquaintances and hopefully mentors on your path. Those would be the people to ask if they've had the experience.
My personal gut feeling is that obscurity is a wise decision. Don't "hide" it as in going out of your way to be someone other than you are/want to be, but deflect inquires. No reason not to enjoy your success, but don't go overboard/flaunt it. Date like you would if you were a $500k/year income (as an example). This is if you're looking for a life partner. If you're just looking to date for fun, swing for the fence!
Last edited by PJSaturn; 03-16-2018 at 10:23 AM..
Reason: Personal attack.
I'll ask some of my frinds and mentors I've met but most of them are 20+ years older than me and have already settled down. I've had a talk with my financial advisors a few months ago and they all say I'm in a fine position if I ever got married and my wife tried to run with money. Since it's locked away in trusts and holding companies. I mainly wanted to ask this forum because I don't know anyone personally with experience in Japan. I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression. I'm not trying to use my money to get the girl. I trying to figure out how to make the money not a problem. As it seems to always become. Thank you for all the quick replies.
I'll ask some of my frinds and mentors I've met but most of them are 20+ years older than me and have already settled down. I've had a talk with my financial advisors a few months and they all say I'm in a fine position if I ever got married and my wife tried to run with money. Since it's locked away in trusts and holding companies. I mainly wanted to ask this forum because I don't know anyone personally with experience in Japan. I don't want to give anyone the wrong impression. I'm not trying to use my money to get the girl. I trying to figure out how to make the money noto a problem. As it seems to always become. Thank you for all the quick replies.
Unless you typically travel with hundred-dollar bills falling from your pockets, you should be able to make your way through Japan without blowing your cover.
Do you always go full high roller or something? What do you do when you travel other places?
HI, I'm going to be moving to Japan this year and I will probably be there for 2 years or more. I was going to try my hand at the dating game while I'm there. I've seen similar Posts to this but they never get as high as my case and people act a lot different when they see 8 digits compared to 6 digits.
Now I've never had to hard of a time with women here in the states I'm fairly confident with women so dating them isn't a issue. But there's always the point in the relationship where I can no longer hide just how much money I have and it makes my relationships go sour to a point where I can tell the woman clearly is only thinking about how to stay with me for the money.
I started a business a few years ago and it boomed into a large world wide company. Now I make 5m-10m a year just from it not including my other financial investments. So the main thing I'd like some advise on is if I should should hide my true wealth and go there as a upper middle class man like I was planning then she'd figure it out when things get serious/she comes with me to the states or should i be upfront with my wealth and hope to god that at some point i meet someone who isnt thinking about my money. Any help would be great. Thanks.
Whom were you planning on dating over there? If you're going for businesswomen and the like, I wouldn't think there would be much of a problem. Also, you wouldn't invite just anyone to visit you or join you in the States, would you? I really don't see how it's going to be an issue. By the time you get to inviting someone to the US (IF you ever get there; you may not meet anyone compatible enough), you should know them well enough, and have bonded strongly enough, that the scenario you outlined wouldn't be a factor.
Mod cut.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 03-16-2018 at 10:26 AM..
Reason: Rude.
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