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Old 01-14-2013, 09:10 PM
 
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So Ive been on city data talking about my life and ask for advice about living as a gay youth with my jehovahs witness parents and its

I know it depends on a matter of personal preference but my goal which is actually going to happened this year because of moving in with my sister because I need to grow up and be independent on my own. Anyways I plan on officially quitting being a jehovahs witness by submitting a letter for closure.

What things what you do if you were a jehovahs witness or was in a religion that is SOO strict and now that you are free what would you do?

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I would feel so free I wouldnt know what to do i dont want to do anything life threatning though
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Old 01-15-2013, 06:14 AM
 
Location: Boone, NC
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DRINK. (assuming you're over 21 :P) Don't go overboard, but just do it.
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Old 01-15-2013, 06:34 AM
 
Location: Northeastern US
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There's nothing magic about drinking (and it's expensive) so I think the point is, "loosen up". And you can't do it all at once, so don't try. Baby steps first. It will be enough at first to enjoy the utter freedom of doing what you want, when you want to, which you will have to practice not feeling guilty about. You will be astounded how much of your thinking has been programmed by the cult. I wasn't a JW but I was a fundamentalist Christian and it takes time just to appreciate a beautiful day for its own sake without thinking programmed stuff to yourself like "thank you god for this beautiful day".

Your path is to figure out who you are and what you want in life. You've been conditioned to think that's selfish because self-awareness is a threat to mind control. Be patient and kind with yourself, it will not all come to you at once. It will probably take a few years. Experiment with new hobbies and interests and friendships. That sort of thing. Read about philosophy and science ... figure out what you (don't) believe and why. For me that last task was the biggest help, but everyone is different. I'd been told what to believe by fiat for so long that I had a lot of catching up to do in order to have intelligent and informed ideas about the world and about life.
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Old 01-15-2013, 06:43 AM
 
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So Ive been on city data talking about my life and ask for advice about living as a gay youth with my jehovahs witness parents and its

I know it depends on a matter of personal preference but my goal which is actually going to happened this year because of moving in with my sister because I need to grow up and be independent on my own. Anyways I plan on officially quitting being a jehovahs witness by submitting a letter for closure.

What things what you do if you were a jehovahs witness or was in a religion that is SOO strict and now that you are free what would you do?

List them

I would feel so free I wouldnt know what to do i dont want to do anything life threatning though

Be Careful not to go to any extreme that might be dangerous.
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Old 01-15-2013, 10:24 AM
 
Location: Somewhere out there.
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Just live life normally.

Do what everybody does. Enjoy and make the most of life. Get an education, set yourself some goals, get a job, socialise, watch TV, find a hobby, fall in love (hopefully). Live within your means, save a little, but enjoy yourself a lot especially while you are young. Cherish the life you have and the freedom you have to live it.

Do whatever you want to do, just remember to have respect for others and and be kind to people. It's very simple - just treat others as you expect to be treated, then you can't go far wrong.
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Old 01-15-2013, 10:29 AM
 
Location: Parts Unknown, Northern California
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You have finally escaped from an organization which dominated your life with severe rules and others always telling you what you need to do.

Now you are free but here you are asking others what to do.

So item one on your agenda should be...stop that. Start the habit of self reliance.
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Old 01-15-2013, 11:03 AM
 
Location: WV and Eastport, ME
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So Ive been on city data talking about my life and ask for advice about living as a gay youth with my jehovahs witness parents and its

I know it depends on a matter of personal preference but my goal which is actually going to happened this year because of moving in with my sister because I need to grow up and be independent on my own. Anyways I plan on officially quitting being a jehovahs witness by submitting a letter for closure.

What things what you do if you were a jehovahs witness or was in a religion that is SOO strict and now that you are free what would you do?

List them

I would feel so free I wouldnt know what to do i dont want to do anything life threatning though
Why do you need to stir up trouble by writing a letter? Just quit going. Live your own life. Make your own decisions. (and, my personal recommendation is, "Have a beer!")
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Old 01-15-2013, 01:23 PM
 
Location: Northeastern US
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Why do you need to stir up trouble by writing a letter? Just quit going. Live your own life. Make your own decisions. (and, my personal recommendation is, "Have a beer!")
Yes ... the letter is just a mechanism for them to try to get you to change your mind. It's none of their business. Just disappear in the sunset. You owe them nothing.
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Old 01-15-2013, 01:27 PM
 
Location: Fort Worth, TX
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So Ive been on city data talking about my life and ask for advice about living as a gay youth with my jehovahs witness parents and its

I know it depends on a matter of personal preference but my goal which is actually going to happened this year because of moving in with my sister because I need to grow up and be independent on my own. Anyways I plan on officially quitting being a jehovahs witness by submitting a letter for closure.

What things what you do if you were a jehovahs witness or was in a religion that is SOO strict and now that you are free what would you do?

List them

I would feel so free I wouldnt know what to do i dont want to do anything life threatning though

Party, drink, get laid. Do everything they told me not to do and said was a sing lol! But all jokes aside, I would just inhale deeply, exhale, and.......



Party, drink, get laid
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Old 01-15-2013, 10:33 PM
 
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Go swimming in a really skimpy bathing suit, sip a cocktail, and flirt with a stranger.
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