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Old 07-31-2013, 06:10 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Minervah, I am so sorry for your loss.

As a prior theist, it is comforting and less stressful that I don't have to ask the "why" questions anymore. I don't believe there is a god who is either causing or preventing the things that happen to me in my life. If I make a dumb or a smart decision, it is on me. If it is something out of my control that happens to me, well then, it happened because things just happen in life. Some good, some bad. The pressure is off to try and be a good enough dooby, or believe enough or pray enough or what have you.

But again, Minervah, we are sending our cyber hugs out to you and your family during your time of loss and grief.

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Thank you for the cyber hugs and thanks to everyone who has shown such care. I really didn't expect that. I actually just came here to talk about my thoughts regarding death and belief amongst those I thought would understand. I did this at the suggestion of a friend who posts here from time to time when I told her how I was feeling during a phone conversation. It was good advice. It's good to share with those who do get it.
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Old 08-05-2013, 10:58 AM
 
Location: Hyrule
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Like an ant on the way back to the mound gets stepped on we occasionally get the foot of life. No reason, just in the same path as a disease or illness. It sucks!!

I think you did the right thing by sharing with us, we understand. Most of us have dealt with the religious around us in times like this. I usually bite my tongue and try to understand that in times like these people have to grab a bit of comfort from where ever they can. Their blankie is none of my business. They grab theirs, I grab mine and we all hold on and try to get through it.

My condolences, that's a rough situation.

I always tell people I don't ask why, but how. I don't ask why was the earth created, the universe, or disease. I ask how. That puts it in perspective for me.

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Old 08-05-2013, 04:57 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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I watched a video of the funeral services online Saturday. It was supposed to be real-time on Friday but there was something wrong on their end so I had to be content with watching the video the next day. It was still pretty nice to be able to see it from 2000 miles away. Of course, the religious stuff was there but all in all it was a pretty nice ceremony.

My cousin's daughter read from a book written by my cousin but was not published. She was a wonderful writer. It was a book of poems and short essays. That was the nicest part of the ceremony for me.
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Old 08-06-2013, 01:39 PM
 
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Thinking about you today, Minervah.
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Old 08-06-2013, 03:09 PM
 
Location: Lakewood OH
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Thinking about you today, Minervah.
Thanks. I am going to call my cousin, her brother, tonight and see how he is doing. He had been sharing a home with her for the past ten years. I don't know if I mentioned that due to an illness from which I am recovering, I couldn't be there for the funeral but I am thinking about flying back to Chicago when the doctors say it's okay to fly and staying with him for a bit.
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Old 08-07-2013, 02:30 PM
 
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I'm sure your cousin would appreciate your call. And hopefully you'll be able to make that trip soon if you wish. Take gentle care of yourself.
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Old 08-12-2013, 09:26 PM
 
Location: US
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In all of the above scenarios I see odd beliefs in what God is or does
or in what all think "He" is in control
of or whatever.
It is common to blame God for many things and think 'He' is something He is not.
Look at the whole Judeo- Christian religion...it was based on made up stories
from primitive, savage, immature, fearful minds.

I am the one creating all the scenarios of my life...
no one but me. ..not God.

Heh-heh...
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