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Old 11-17-2013, 11:02 AM
 
Location: Somewhere out there.
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If you guys were young and still dating, do you think you could date somebody who believes in some religious deity? What about eventually marrying them at a religious ceremony?
Like they were perfect, and you liked everything about them, but they were super religious.
I don't think I could if they were SUPER religious, but if it was one of those girls who kinda believes in a god, but they don't really follow a religion, then I think I could. As long as she was okay with my atheism.
I think as you say if I were young and still dating...possibly. You are more naive obviously when you are younger. But when I think back about the boys I dated back then and who I actually ended up with...probably not. One of the things that attracted me to my husband was his intellect. He's an exceptionally bright person and I deeply admire that. Not saying people who believe in god aren't bright, because I don't believe that to be the case, but a partners intellect is very important to me so I'd have to admire them for their mind. So a belief in god... possibly, if it were just a vague agnostic belief. Religious? I'd agree with you, I'd probably think no. I couldn't see myself having enough in common with someone like that. All the people I admire most in the world just happen to be atheists - I think there is a lot to be said for 'a meeting of the minds'.
Happy Atheists Day everyone.


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Old 11-17-2013, 11:08 AM
 
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So long as she was good in bed and didn't bang on about religion then I would have no problem.
And a couple of hours to myself on a Sunday would be welcome too.


I had a GF who was very catholic. She was a bit mystified that I wasn't religious. She also informed me that we were committing a mortal sin by sleping together before we were married. But it never stopped her

You sound like a real catch!




LOL. I'm joking. Your post gave me a good giggle.


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Old 11-17-2013, 11:11 AM
 
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When I got married my spouse was atheist and I am religious Christian. I told her the kids would be baptized and she must come to church on Christmas and Easter, and be quiet about her atheism. We would also have crucifix and bibles in the house, along with Christmas decorations and prayers on holiday dinners with family. Since she loved me she was accepting all of that, and we got married in a cathedral.

Few years later, she converted and is now more religious than what I am. She felt guilty and wish she became Christian long time ago, and is mad at her parents for not raising her with a religion. She now attend church every Sunday and teach Sunday school at a mega church. She converted after watching Passion of the Christ and started after reading the gospels.
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Old 11-17-2013, 11:25 AM
 
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You sound like a real catch!




LOL. I'm joking. Your post gave me a good giggle.


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It was intended to be light-hearted. But I am a live and let live guy. So long as a GF kept her religion to herself and didn't try to impose it upon me then I would be fine.
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Old 11-17-2013, 02:56 PM
 
Location: Windham County, VT
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Nah. Then you'd be stuck in the position of having to spend your time pretending to respect religion.
This^

I couldn't be with a religious person-there's no way that the person could be "perfect" for me except for that "one thing"-
because religiosity encompasses a broad world view in terms of causation, consequences, and interpretations/judgments that I wouldn't agree with.
"Worship" as a behavior makes zero sense to me, I couldn't pretend otherwise.
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Old 11-17-2013, 03:08 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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If you guys were young and still dating, do you think you could date somebody who believes in some religious deity?
You make it sound like old people can't date.

I think the question would be better posed to the religious because they would naturally be the ones who would have a problem with the "unequally yoked" partner, not the other way around.
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Old 11-17-2013, 03:10 PM
 
Location: Rational World Park
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Because not all religious people are that extreme in their beliefs.

Also, do you not have friends with people who are religious? How could you be friends with someone who "believes you're going to be roasting for eternity" etc? How? You probably just don't discuss it. You don't have to pretend. Same goes for other things in life: politics for example. It is impossible for a hard core dem to be friends/married with someone who is a hard core GOPer? No.

A good relationship is an aggregate of many things. Just because one out of 69 aspects are totally opposite, doesn't mean the relationship is doomed.

It happens all the time.
I'm friends with plenty of religious people but I don't share my life with them. There's a HUGE difference. I'm friends with all kinds of people that I'd never share my life with. You're treating a way of life as someone would treat a singular political opinion. Religion effects how one thinks which effects what they do. If the woman I live with is unwilling to do certain things because she fears being punished by an invisible man, that's a problem. If she thinks that this life carries less meaning because the party starts when you die, that is not reconcilable for me.
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Old 11-17-2013, 03:13 PM
 
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Deal breaker.

Been there, chased this gal, got serious, then realize no way I could deal with that.

Fast forward 40+ years and she came back to town to visit friends........... WOW, made me want to break out in song, specifically Garth Brooks Unanswered Prayers. What a train wreck.
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Old 11-17-2013, 03:23 PM
 
Location: In a little house on the prairie - literally
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I have two answers to this.

In my expirence, the religious girls are often much more inclined to be sexually adventuresome, at least they are when they are over 40.

But don't marry one. They eventually revert to their beliefs. I made that mistake. It didn't last 2 years.

If you want to have fun, great. Date them until it doesn't work any longer. You'll know... It usually will be when they ask you to go to church.
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Old 11-17-2013, 03:52 PM
 
Location: NJ
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When I got married my spouse was atheist and I am religious Christian. I told her the kids would be baptized and she must come to church on Christmas and Easter, and be quiet about her atheism. We would also have crucifix and bibles in the house, along with Christmas decorations and prayers on holiday dinners with family. Since she loved me she was accepting all of that, and we got married in a cathedral.

Few years later, she converted and is now more religious than what I am. She felt guilty and wish she became Christian long time ago, and is mad at her parents for not raising her with a religion. She now attend church every Sunday and teach Sunday school at a mega church. She converted after watching Passion of the Christ and started after reading the gospels.
I'm pretty sure she wasn't an atheist when you married her.
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