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Old 02-11-2014, 11:33 AM
 
Location: South Carolina
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I experienced my first funeral since becoming an agnostic atheist yesterday, it was sort of surreal but I got through it. I felt a little bit singled out in a small way because it was highly religious and they prayed a lot and I just kind of sat there and looked around and I think the Pastors saw me doing that and it seemed they were looking at me when they were preaching about how one needs to be saved or go to hell. I think I understand what the OP was saying about the Priest singling him out too, it's just a feeling you get and it's very uncomfortable.

Man it's really hard to deal with an event like that when every single person except yourself is uber religious and really believes that stuff. I used to say "bless you" and the standard "I'm praying for you" when I was Christian, now I don't know what the heck to say except "I'm so sorry". What do you say to the religious at a time like that? Anyone got any ideas?
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Old 02-11-2014, 10:29 PM
 
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As I've said numerous times. Before I figured out what was going on, I was standing in front of the priest. I'm not Catholic. Never was. And maybe only attended a Catholic church once or twice in my entire life when I was really young. All of the little rituals, cadences, and otherwise had my head spinning in confusion. But, I was also at my grandmother's funeral and my grandfather was taking it very hard. So, what was I going to do? Realize at the last second that I was standing in the wrong line and then duck out?

If I was at some other public venue and that same priest wanted to do some sort of hocus pocus with me, then we could have a real discussion about a lot of things. But, at my grandmother's funeral the last thing I was ever going to do was make a big scene in front of everyone because I was ignorant of what went on inside one of those churches. I was confused. So I ate the darned cracker. It's not like it had any special meaning to me. It didn't even taste that good. Had I known what I know now, I wouldn't have gotten up from my seat. But, I wasn't aware of all that stuff. I truly thought we were being prepared to be escorted out and we were lining up to make our way to the door in some sort of ritualistic fashion.
You acted properly under the circumstances, Troop . . . you have nothing to explain. Your loving consideration commends you. It confirms the decency I have always attributed to you, my friend. It is those who have no consideration for others and elevate their personal concerns above others . . . who I find lacking in common human decency. Masquerading it as a concern for "principles" is just that . . . a self-centered masquerade.
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Old 02-13-2014, 02:37 PM
 
Location: Greenbelt, MD
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As I've said numerous times. Before I figured out what was going on, I was standing in front of the priest. I'm not Catholic. Never was. And maybe only attended a Catholic church once or twice in my entire life when I was really young. All of the little rituals, cadences, and otherwise had my head spinning in confusion. But, I was also at my grandmother's funeral and my grandfather was taking it very hard. So, what was I going to do? Realize at the last second that I was standing in the wrong line and then duck out?

If I was at some other public venue and that same priest wanted to do some sort of hocus pocus with me, then we could have a real discussion about a lot of things. But, at my grandmother's funeral the last thing I was ever going to do was make a big scene in front of everyone because I was ignorant of what went on inside one of those churches. I was confused. So I ate the darned cracker. It's not like it had any special meaning to me. It didn't even taste that good. Had I known what I know now, I wouldn't have gotten up from my seat. But, I wasn't aware of all that stuff. I truly thought we were being prepared to be escorted out and we were lining up to make our way to the door in some sort of ritualistic fashion.
Fair enough.

Thanks for the post and response. I grew up on that foolishness and can imagine your confusion.
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