Help Me Convince My Fiance to Move to Atlanta... (Brunswick: crime, motel)

[jeffreda30238]

Have you considered Raleigh? It is a very nice city, and from you tell about your situation, I wouldn't advise you move here if she is not comfortable. I can't really speak on interracial dating (because I've never done it), but sometimes people can be cruel. Atlanta is a prodominently black city, and although it is somewhat culturally forward, it still has its hang ups like any other city. The Raleigh, Cary, Durham areas of NC are reasonable, and appropriately cater to your situation (I think). So why not do your research on those cities.

[RainyRainyDay]

Originally Posted by StPaulEastSider

So, I do think there is a struggle to find an affordable [under 250-300k] middle-class, intregated neighborhood, with good schools, and with a significant AA middle-class presence.

I think the real blocker in this wish list is the price. "Middle class" neighborhoods ITP have much more expensive housing than that.

[afonega1]

Originally Posted by StPaulEastSider

I am wondering how old you are, my husband is 43, I'm thinking he may have experienced more problems w/being a black guy w/white friends when he was growing up because he was in school back in the 70s / early 80s.

I guess I am basing a lot of my opinions regarding the difficulties of finding an integrated INTOWN neighborhood on this thread. The stated goal of the OP in that thread is to find a craftsman-style home, 300k max, in an Intown neighborhood with good schools, which is also racially diverse... this is what she had to say about what she was finding:

I understand her struggle, as a parent of AA/bi kids, I don't want all their examples of AA's to be low income AAs - this sends the wrong message.

So, I do think there is a struggle to find an affordable [under 250-300k] middle-class, intregated neighborhood, with good schools, and with a significant AA middle-class presence.

Yeah, I know I'm putting a lot of qualifiers on the neighborhood/socio-economic/diversity requirements - but that's what parents tend to do when they are seeking out the ideal environment for raising their family. If you don't have kids, you probably are not as picky about where you live.

I think some of the very newest "urban renewal" or "gentrification" neighborhoods hold the most promise for truely intregated neighborhoods within Intown ATL.

I really don't know about suburban neighborhoods in and around ATL, that hasn't been the focus of my research since we have no plans to move to the suburbs of ATL.

I do agree that inter-racial couples are pretty much left alone in ATL, but when we have received flak, it's usually been from the black community. For example, black women who get all 'tuddie once they realize I'm married to a black man - when they were just fine prior to the revelation. My aforementioned BIL... but the tension is very minimal.

Well I just turned 40 so i'm right there.Even before we moved in the suburbs of Atlanta in the eighties from Warner Robins ,Georgia we have always lived in mostly white neighborhoods,but its not like there were not enough of other blacks in the same neighborhood.Yes price is a big factor when you consider the options the OP mentioned when looking inside the perimeter.However there are so many places in many of the suburbs that are very racially intergrated with good schools ,low crime and resonable housing.Areas like in parts of Cobb,Fayette,Gwinnet,and Henry counties..Inside the perimeter the variables change.In Atlanta there are many neighbords that are also predominately A.A. and are upper income with decent schools.Like the Cascade area.

I know there black people who are more vocal nowadays.And if you are a white woman with ablack husband,you will get the attitude from black women.Thats everywhere!LOL!It reminds me of the new Wayans Brother movie called Dance Flick where the black guy turns away just before he kisses his white girlfriend after he spots two black girls walking by and says out loud "I don't know you" to the white girl.LOL.It so true its sad.

I have 2 good friends who are an interacialcouple in their 20's.She is also from guess where?..Minnesota!He is from Ghana.They got married and moved here after medical school last year.They now live in the Grant Park area.They love it.They are both new Doctors,so they have more options on the places they want to live.

You are correct in your assertion about the new gentrified neiborhoods that hold promise.You are also correct about if you have kids you are more picky about the area.As you should be.I dont have kids but I have many friends from different backgrounds that live in the city and around the city.
In the downtown area of Decatur, East Lake,and East Atanta area are great diverse areas with nice homes from $200-$300 thousands.

[StPaulEastSider]

Originally Posted by afonega1

I know there black people who are more vocal nowadays.And if you are a white woman with ablack husband,you will get the attitude from black women.Thats everywhere!LOL!It reminds me of the new Wayans Brother movie called Dance Flick where the black guy turns away just before he kisses his white girlfriend after he spots two black girls walking by and says out loud "I don't know you" to the white girl.LOL.It so true its sad.

LOL! We just saw a promo of that movie, w/that scene, last night. I cringed, my husband LOLd.

[chicago_60611]

Originally Posted by brookdaleresident

No one should have to convince someone to move someplace. Come for a few days and see for yourselves. She may be pleasantly surprised.

I agree. However, you guys need to get those degrees if you plan on getting a real job. Also how stong is your relationship--you might like Atlanta a liitle too much. (One has a chance to get in a lot of trouble, if not careful, lots of women throwing themselves at you). But over all a nice place to live. In my opnion stay away from all the apt complexs in Stone Mountain off Juliette Dr. its extra ghetto over there. If your price range warrants it, try to get a place on N.Druid in Decatur, there are plenty of apts from Lawrencville Highway to say Buford Highway, splintering off this road.

[atlantagreg30127]

And again folks - the OP posted this two years ago. They're probably not seeing your answers. LOL

I mean, hey, I'll leave the thread up just for entertainment value, but if you all are hoping the OP is reading the replies after two years of inactivity in the thread, my guess is "no".

[AUTigers19]

Originally Posted by atlantagreg30127

And again folks - the OP posted this two years ago. They're probably not seeing your answers. LOL

I mean, hey, I'll leave the thread up just for entertainment value, but if you all are hoping the OP is reading the replies after two years of inactivity in the thread, my guess is "no".

Poor STPaulEastsider wrote a novel to the OP too.

[vsmoove]

Originally Posted by autigers19

poor stpauleastsider wrote a novel to the op too.

lol!

[plessthanpointohfive]

you never know...CD sends an email to you when someone responds to your post....if their email address is still active they might get a notice and come check it...

But, yeah, usually posts this old aren't worth the bothering with.

At the same time I always wonder...what happened? What's the rest of the story?

[rcsteiner]

Originally Posted by plessthanpointohfive

you never know...CD sends an email to you when someone responds to your post....if their email address is still active they might get a notice and come check it...

It only does that if you choose to configure it that way when you subscribe to a forum on CD.