Interracial dating for a black woman in ATL? (Atlanta, Vinings: good credit, hotel)

[babylove]

I am African Amer. female who is married to a male who is of the same ethnicity. Although I briefly dated men of another race, I feel did not care for your question due to it seemingly state you are going to "look" for a caucasion male. Focus on other factors besides race. I also would like to add I think it is awesome to expand, just do so with the right intentions.

[Merin]

Originally Posted by babylove

I am African Amer. female who is married to a male who is of the same ethnicity. Although I briefly dated men of another race, I feel did not care for your question due to it seemingly state you are going to "look" for a caucasion male. Focus on other factors besides race. I also would like to add I think it is awesome to expand, just do so with the right intentions.

I understand why you made this statement, but do you go around saying this to people who will only date within their own race? As long as the original poster is not committing any crimes, why are the dating intentions of this adult your concern??

[cbreeze22]

As a surfing, snowboarding, Depeche Mode listening black female, I've always been surrounded by (and consequently dated) white men. No one ever even glanced twice. That was back home in West L.A. though...
Here in Atlanta, particularly in the South Metro (Henry), I've noticed that black men have been fervently trying to convince me that I am somehow wrong for dating anyone but them. They often point to my non-native status as the reason I don't "know better". The groans and cursing that come after I mention how hot Tom Brady is are downright hilarious.
I really couldn't care less what race a guy is, but there just aren't a lot of men of color that I meet at the events/activities I enjoy, and the few that are there usually exclusively date white women. The white men who usually date black women don't seem to really like me, I guess because I don't give them a nice contrast of color (I'm fairly light) and I don't give them whatever it is about the stereotypical black woman that attracts them.
Or maybe because I say "Dude" constantly.
What happened to compatibility being the most important thing? If you're serious about spending 50+ years with someone, do you really care what color card genetics dealt them?

[Betsey Lane]

Originally Posted by Merin

I understand why you made this statement, but do you go around saying this to people who will only date within their own race? As long as the original poster is not committing any crimes, why are the dating intentions of this adult your concern??

I'll answer that for her in a language that maybe "You'll" understand! Duh!!!! We're on a forum?

[Arish]

Originally Posted by cbreeze22

As a surfing, snowboarding, Depeche Mode listening black female, I've always been surrounded by (and consequently dated) white men. No one ever even glanced twice. That was back home in West L.A. though...
Here in Atlanta, particularly in the South Metro (Henry), I've noticed that black men have been fervently trying to convince me that I am somehow wrong for dating anyone but them. They often point to my non-native status as the reason I don't "know better". The groans and cursing that come after I mention how hot Tom Brady is are downright hilarious.
I really couldn't care less what race a guy is, but there just aren't a lot of men of color that I meet at the events/activities I enjoy, and the few that are there usually exclusively date white women. The white men who usually date black women don't seem to really like me, I guess because I don't give them a nice contrast of color (I'm fairly light) and I don't give them whatever it is about the stereotypical black woman that attracts them.
Or maybe because I say "Dude" constantly.
What happened to compatibility being the most important thing? If you're serious about spending 50+ years with someone, do you really care what color card genetics dealt them?

Well, I feel what you are saying I lived in Atlanta 7 years and I am excited I am no longer there. If you look at some of my other post you will see what I went through it was horrible. I am also a Depeche Mode, IAMX , Portishead listening Black male... that is also light complected. And I to went through the same identical thing you experienced there probably alot worse. Also alot of the white women thought I wasn't black enough (the few that did date outside there race). And the Black women I felt I didn't have much in common with because they were Hip Hop and Escalades mostly. So I feel you, you may want to hurry back to the west asap and live again. I am out here now, and I love it i really do I feel like I can date or talk to whom ever I want Black white, Hispanic or purple ! I went to a She wants Revenge and Kenna show in Atlanta Nov last year. And saw maybe 4 black girls at the whole show and the rest were white and they weren't interested. And the 4 black girls that were there, only one was cute and she had no interest either. So I suppose she dated white guys exclusively as you specified in your post. Atlanta really has a serious race problem, I didn't think so in the late 90's early 2000's. But I can tell you now things has drastically changed over there get out while you can ! I dated someone of a different race 2 years down there and the black women attacked us everywhere we went it really sucked.

[bpatel27]

Originally Posted by Arish

I dated someone of a different race 2 years down there and the black women attacked us everywhere we went it really sucked.

I'm neither black or white, but I have friends from both races - and yes, you will get looks and attacked. You won't have a problem with people asking you out, as I find all races here to be pretty open. It's more about that personal connection.

One thing to note though, isn't getting someone to ask you out, but you should be very aware that Atlanta has a lot more females vs. males, and a huge gay population. So, the real question is how many single/straight males are available to date?

[brentyoung12]

I'm a black guy.

There is absolutely 100% nothing wrong with interracial dating, but sometimes when people make it seem like they ONLY want to date outside of their race, thats when people act out against you.

I dont care what color a woman is as long as she is decent inside and out, but for someone to say they are interested ONLY in dating outside of their race. That's weird, because thats generalizing.

If I simply see an interracial couple walking in public, I cant get mad because I don't know either of the people or why they are together.

However, if there is some black chick at school who constantly generalizes all black dudes, then yes I would talk about her and give her strange looks when i see her with a white dude.

Things are completely situational, and with that being said, SOME (not all) interracial daters deserve the negative treatment.

For a black woman to date a white man, or for a white woman to date a black man is perfectly fine, BUT when those people say they can ONLY date people of other races, it's disrespectful and generalizing of everybody in their particular race.

I know this for a fact, there are PLENTY of black girls out there who say they cant date black guys because of blah blah.......and white girls who say the same about white guys......Thats just wrong, and since so many interracial daters have this attitude, when they are in public, people ASSUME they are haters of their own race. Both are very very very wrong. I'm only posting this to point out that half of the time interracial daters bring the negativity on themselves.

[DoveDiva]

Originally Posted by Arish

Well, I use to date a white girl in Atlanta and I have to honestly say we got some pretty ugly stares. Also I can honestly say that alot of her friends didn't like it. And as far as Black women were concerned they were pretty ****ing brutal about it. We vowed we would never go in Cumberland mall again after that ridiculous scene. They were calling her names and even said her breast weren't real. So I guess it all depends on how good you look as a couple, I see alot of brothers with some tore down over weight white women. I just happened to have a really attractive mate at the time and I guess that makes a hell of a difference she actually looked like a model.

I think anyone moving to Atlanta that has a mate of another race should really think about it. I know longer live there thank goodness, but I can tell you it can effect you. There are alot of afro American women and Men in very high places there. So don't think that this will not effect you getting ahead or getting promoted? It certainly did me, once they found out that I preferred to date outside of my race I was never treated or looked at the same. Plus it didn't help that I was lighter skinned so that made me a even bigger sell out in there opinion. I have interracial dated not because I am not attracted to my own it is because of there myopic point a views about things. I am a very well rounded individual and I like everything not just one type of music or atmosphere. So trust me it can effect you in a big way there if you are not your own boss or already stable in some form or fashion. Because they take that in as a huge offense especially with the fact that 70% of the area is afro American. Its almost like you are making a special effort to do it in there opinion or something. But the one thing I can tell you racism is stronger than EVER in that area. And you don't see as much interracial dating as you use too in the early periods of Olympic era. The white women are just not 100% comfortable with the idea due to there associates and what they would have to endure from the black women. Before I left it was always the same thing over and over, they would talk to you while you were in there face at a club or bar. But once you left the scene and called them back you got no play at all just run around. I think white people are just dealing with the situation now because there just isn't too many places they can go with out seeing us there. And when I did see brothers with them, like I said they were not up to par or they were exotic dancers. And the new thing down there, the white women want a thug just for the hell of it I guess because hip hip is in. So I got up out of there quick, fast and in a hurry ...just wasn't the place for me I am out on the west coast now. Race relations are a hell of alot better !

Just from reading a few of your posts in this thread...sounds like you have more of an issue with being black vs. having an issue with interracial dating. *shrug*

[cbreeze22]

OK, I have heard this a lot, and I still don't get it. Whenever people ask why I'm dating someone (of course they only ask this when that someone isn't black), I offer my usual, honest explanation (he's hot, great hair, he likes the beach, same musical tastes, no known psycho ex-girlfriends/ex-wives, etc.). Suddenly I'm accused of not wanting to be black.

This isn't an attack but a genuine request for insight. Can you or anyone please explain to me how one relates to the other? What choices or actions signify "not wanting to be black" or having an "issue" with being black?

[jadybug]

Different races were not in God's original plan. Thank you Tower of B! (NOT!) Divisions ,are a result of sin. Culture, is manmade. Jesus spoke of all of this.

My husband and I are caucasians, but we adopted two African-Americans (ages 7+11 now, but babes upon adoption).

Here is what I've learned: people/children are like empty chalkboards when they are born. Apart from their outer appearance. Parents, are at least 80% responsible for how they turn out/what is written on their lives. Thus, 'Teach your children well!'

It is statements and ideas like one lady made that help keep myths, etc. going ( and divisions). Heaven, will not have seperate neighborhoods or social events. Please think about it. And if Heaven is God's perfect abode/dwelling place, what does this say about how we are to interact with all people of all races here ("No difference between the Jew or Greek...")??????????????????????

I've discovered that when you truly love someone, you see only and love their heart!!

I feel as if I birthed my babies. They are a part of me. We are adopted into God's family when we put our faith and trust in Him. Great example of how we are loved by Him and how we are to love others!!!!!

My advice is to date someone who loves the Lord.