Interracial dating for a black woman in ATL? (Atlanta, Washington: college, move to)

[RoslynHolcomb]

I'm a black woman married to a white man. We just moved here a few weeks ago and live in North Dekalb county. We haven't gotten any flack or grief from anyone. Granted, we've only been here for a short time, but we've certainly patronized stores and restaurants without any problems. No one's even asked if we wanted separate checks! (That's a biggee with my husband. He absolutely won't tip if they ask that, no matter how much I protest.)

He's been here since early March and he stayed in Marietta with relatives. So we were out and about in that area quite a bit as well. Didn't seem to cause any problems.

We moved here from Huntsville, AL and we didn't have any problems there either. Actually, we've been married nearly ten years and have traveled all over the southeastern US with no problems at all. (Other than dumb wait staff, but what can you say?)

[Windu]

It is patently absurd that a sane adult in America in 2008 would feel offense, anger, sadness, rejection or any other negative emotion over the choice that another free willed human, a stranger no less, makes regarding whom to date. The number of interracial relationships remains miniscule, and any person's belief that they don't have a mate because those few people dated a different race is just too stupid to comprehend. I can't imagine a more self-centered worldview -- "if that guy hadn't chosen the white/black/asian girl, he would've chosen me."

On January 1, 2000, I made a vow not to tolerate intolerance anymore. Zero tolerance. No excuses for those who are old and set in their ways, or any of the other lame reasons people of various cultures use for being biased.

That means challenging family members, friends, coworkers or complete strangers that spout prejudice and think you're going to agree, laugh along, nod in agreement, smile politely, or otherwise confirm their beliefs. I'm calling them out. No one gets a pass (not even Jill Scott).

I challenge everyone reading this to do the same.

[plessthanpointohfive]

I've been at THAT bus stop for a couple of years now.

Who is Jill Scott?

[sharon1967]

Originally Posted by LeeH

I am a white male from LA,I have considerd moving to ATL,I feel most black women in ATL are under alot of pressure to not date outside their race.I go to ATL alot and go only to black clubs as I like to dance,love Rand B etc,and have found it extremely hard to meet someone.If you move there your best bet is to post your dating preference on craigslist.

Lee H,
The next time your in the ATL. look me up and if were attracted to each other and have common interest then who knows. There are alot of black women in the ATL. who date out side of their race, maybe your just going to the wrong clubs.

[sharon1967]

Hello Members,
I'm new here and having lived in NY for so long I'm not use to not dating people from all races if were attracted to one another without any drama. Can someone tell me the best places to go to meet single men who date black women and please don't tell me there only in buckhead clubs on the weekends. Thanks

[Atlantasfinest]

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[RainyRainyDay]

Originally Posted by plessthanpointohfive

I've been at THAT bus stop for a couple of years now.

Who is Jill Scott?

I suppose this is the Jill Scott that's being referenced: Jill Scott - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

I don't know enough about Ms. Scott to know why she was referenced in regard to interracial dating. I actually just know her name because I'd read she played the central character in the TV series based on the "No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency" novels. Those are very charming stories and I'm interested to see how they were translated to video.

[RoslynHolcomb]

Aren't those great stories? Make me want to move to Botswana. Jill Scott is fabulous. She made some anti-interracial comments at one of her concerts. Of course, that's just rumor. I wasn't actually at the concert in question.

[1tee]

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I think it's interesting that New Orleans LA is listed as one of the worst places for IR relationships. I am from NO and rarely are any of us here a single race. I am creole and my husband is white we have never had any problems here.

[RoslynHolcomb]

IMO, if you're black dating IR, so-called 'chocolate cities' are a no-no for interracial dating. At least, that's been my experience. The negative experiences go way up. I doubt that's the case in NOLA which seems more laid back, but I've never lived there, only visited. I know it to be the case in Birmingham and Washington, D.C.