Interracial dating for a black woman in ATL? (Atlanta, Gray: home, high school)

[arimor]

Originally Posted by xenourtv

However, if you are interested in dating women of other ethnicities, and to find one that have similar interests and to be compatible as yourself, it is going to be hard, but not impossible.

100% nonsense, so is it ethnicity or race that the person shouldlook for?

for the dumb and stupid you can be black and be of another ethnic background like my cousin is is an american(african american) and bajan(barbados) but is still black all the way around!

2.do you think its self hate for someone to want to date outside his/her race for various reasons. i see it that way people need to stop thinking that african americans all listen to the same type of hip hop, rnb etc etc.

2 people of the same natioinality(cultural wise) can be the same from head to toe be of different races, so interracial dating of individuals of the same national/cultural origins would not make it all that different unless you speaking in terms of AMERICANS which most of you are.

[arimor]

Originally Posted by Merin

I am an African American in an interracial marriage. The only issues we ever have are with other African Americans. Overall its not bad just annoying sometimes. If you have specific questions feel free to PM me.

most african americans have problems with it, when and if you said something about blacks and you think your interacial spouse is better than
your people.

i have no problem with people who interacially date but i have a probelm with

-those who want to interacially date and wed to
get them ahead.
-those who think/want their children will/to have str8 hair.
-those who want a light skinned child
-those who date outside there race for financial stability, <-that there is a red flag to anyone.

-if you dont love yourself your heritage, history,culture who the hell else will.
- i have a problem with people who want to date people because of their race if you like someone, you like someone! what does race have to do with it?

black-americans are the main perps when it comes to this.you dont like yourselves admit it!
many black-AMERICANS overall have a ****ed up mindset(crab in a barrel) already with uncle toms, and cooning behavior etc!!

I BARLEY IF EVER HERE NON BLACK MEN WANTING TO DATE BLACK-AMERICAN WOMEN EXCEPT FOR SEXUAL PURPOSESIF THAT THEY STICK TO THERE OWN AT A MUCH HIGHER RATE THAN BLACK AMERICAN MEN


AS I SAID I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH INTERACIAL DATING WHEN YOU DATE THE PERSON FOR THEM, AND NOT THEIR RACE

[Arish]

Originally Posted by arimor

most african americans have problems with it, when and if you said something about blacks and you think your interacial spouse is better than
your people.

i have no problem with people who interacially date but i have a probelm with

-those who want to interacially date and wed to
get them ahead.
-those who think/want their children will/to have str8 hair.
-those who want a light skinned child
-those who date outside there race for financial stability, <-that there is a red flag to anyone.

-if you dont love yourself your heritage, history,culture who the hell else will.
- i have a problem with people who want to date people because of their race if you like someone, you like someone! what does race have to do with it?

black-americans are the main perps when it comes to this.you dont like yourselves admit it!
many black-AMERICANS overall have a ****ed up mindset(crab in a barrel) already with uncle toms, and cooning behavior etc!!

I BARLEY IF EVER HERE NON BLACK MEN WANTING TO DATE BLACK-AMERICAN WOMEN EXCEPT FOR SEXUAL PURPOSESIF THAT THEY STICK TO THERE OWN AT A MUCH HIGHER RATE THAN BLACK AMERICAN MEN


AS I SAID I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH INTERACIAL DATING WHEN YOU DATE THE PERSON FOR THEM, AND NOT THEIR RACE

I understand and agree with alot of what you are saying. I am American and I am into alot of different things that most afro American people are not into. And when I do find one that is into things I am into I am just not attracted physically most of the time. I have dated many afro American women in my life time and it just didn't work for me. But I feel what you are saying in your message and for some people that may be true. I am sure in other countries blacks are alot more open minded about things especially in Europe and in the islands. But unfortunately I grew up in the south and I haven't had that luxury at all i wish i did. I am attracted to certain attributes and when I find those attributes in a black women they seem like they think too too much of themselves. It is not a white or black thing it is mostly attributes and what I have in common with that person mind and soul and I hate a closed mind. I hate to feel like I am in a box or I haven't advanced. I worked in an office with two afro American women and one of them was gorgeous to look at but I felt no connection. She use to complain about my music constantly and we clashed on everything. Also she played old school R&b over and over and she was only 28 years old? And I like to try new, daring and experimental things also my look isn't traditional or my style of music. But alot of things you have said in the last two messages makes alot of sense it really does.

[matrixguy]

Originally Posted by arimor

(crab in a barrel) a

I BARLEY IF EVER HERE NON BLACK MEN WANTING TO DATE BLACK-AMERICAN WOMEN EXCEPT FOR SEXUAL PURPOSESIF THAT THEY STICK TO THERE OWN AT A MUCH HIGHER RATE THAN BLACK AMERICAN MEN


AS I SAID I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH INTERACIAL DATING WHEN YOU DATE THE PERSON FOR THEM, AND NOT THEIR RACE

Not only barley but I never hear black women saying that want a non- black man. I doubt if even 5% of black women in america are willing to date outside their race. But i always hear white woman say they only date black males. So i guess those white woman don't like they're race either. Why do more white woman leave their race for black males than american white men do. Like you said white men stay with their race more. But how come white woman aren't doing the same? Why are white woman dating outside their race mainly black males than white men. And i never hear black men in general talking about white women. But yet these some of white women hunt them down like prey. How come they don't go after the asian, or hispanic man like the black male.

[Arish]

Originally Posted by matrixguy

Not only barley but I never hear black women saying that want a non- black man. I doubt if even 5% of black women in america are willing to date outside their race. But i always hear white woman say they only date black males. So i guess those white woman don't like they're race either. Why do more white woman leave their race for black males than american white men do. Like you said white men stay with their race more. But how come white woman aren't doing the same? Why are white woman dating outside their race mainly black males than white men. And i never hear black men in general talking about white women. But yet these some of white women hunt them down like prey. How come they don't go after the asian, or hispanic man like the black male.

You have a very interesting point on alot of things. I am not 100% sure on all of your answers but here is my perception. I am a black male and white women don't hunt me down maybe because I am lighter skin almost yellow. But I have noticed the darker black men they get over like a fat rat for some reason. So maybe it is because they are looking for what they call a true black experience or something I have no idea. I think alot of it is skin tone more so than the person or the race or what they have in common. I have notice the black men that look more like Seal, Tyson or Taye Diggs are the ones that the white women are all over. As far as Black women not leaving there race ? That isn't true I know several that date outside of there race because they feel black men do not treat them right. Now the ones that donot leave I have heard they hate a push over and for some sick reason they like the drama. Alot of Black women like a tough guy a Bad Boy or a man that treats them a certain way. And I have to be honest, SOME black women can be a full load I know I couldn't put up with it. So they have told me that white men just aren't challenging enough they will just about do anything they tell them too do. Asians they are not attracted to I have heard. Alot of them do date Hispanics I have seen it on occasion but it is mostly Puerto Ricans. Black men date outside of there race because alot of time other races are willing to give more of themselves. The theory that alot of afro American women have is that: The man is supposed to provide and do it all no matter what the cost is or sacrifice ! After a while it gets pretty old you just want someone to help you for a change or do something nice for you with out a price ! I mean with alot of them when the money runs out the love runs out. I am not saying this for all but in my experiences that is what I have been through and seen. And as far as white men sticking with there own kind ? Alot of the newer generation are not they are dating black women and I am seeing it more commonly. Now, the traditional old school Harvard white guy obviously not, he is more concerned about what people will think and the blood line being changed. The average white woman doesn't think about things like that when they fall hard they fall hard for someone. That is just my perception on what I have seen and heard I hope this helps !

[winter]

It's not the color of one's skin. It's all about the person. I'm not changing my stance on interracial dating and or marriage. To address the question why do white women find some black men attractive. It's because they are very attractive(not all). The ones that are and have a good education, and behave as gentlemen, carry on intelligent conversations. That's probably why. Go with the flow Arish, life is beautiful embrace it. You sound too heavy. Enjoy yourself and let go of issues; it's not worth it in the end.

[Larry Sockwell]

Originally Posted by Arish

Well, I don't approve of White Trash either so that makes two of us ! There are so many children that are bi racial and happy so I am guessing alot of people don't agree with you.

I don't approve of the wilfully ignorant, self effacing, nor the assumptions of pompous knotheads. I too know of many bi-racial people that have led healthy, happy lives thus far. That doesn't mean that I'm predisposed to thinking that encouraging, or promoting, the activity that brings about such people is the path to happiness and prosperity for my family. Doing so, to satisfy the backwards notion of progress that your society thrusts forward like a badge of honor, would be to lose my own identity and accept yours, just 'cause you said so.

Rubbish.


Larry

[Love Cobb]

[quote=Larry Sockwell;3514965]You take an active role in their upbringing and make sure that they do not associate themselves with people that you do not approve of.



Unless you plan on keeping your children locked in a cage, they will eventually come in contact with people that you may not feel they should "associate with". Parenting has to do with upbringing, guidance, values and beliefs. You could live in the same neighborhood with a family who has totally opposite values, this doesn't mean your children won't come into contact with them. As for the racial aspect, your children may in fact be drawn to a different race because they are curious about people who are different from you. It happens every day and will continue to happen whether you like it or not.

[Larry Sockwell]

Originally Posted by Love Cobb

Unless you plan on keeping your children locked in a cage, they will eventually come in contact with people that you may not feel they should "associate with". Parenting has to do with upbringing, guidance, values and beliefs. You could live in the same neighborhood with a family who has totally opposite values, this doesn't mean your children won't come into contact with them. As for the racial aspect, your children may in fact be drawn to a different race because they are curious about people who are different from you. It happens every day and will continue to happen whether you like it or not.

Knowing your neighbors and socializing with them are two completely different things. I had a complete butthole for a neighbor for three years and I never knew more about him than his name and ability to swear loudly. His kid was the same. I did not allow my son to play with the boy because of that.

I keep a close watch on what my son does and who he is with at all times. If you do not, you are not doing your children any favors.

As far as what he does when he is of age, and wisdom, to make decisions and form opinions for himself....those will be his choices. He will have my experience to call upon when he is faced with decisions that leave him wondering. He will also have my values, beliefs and morals within him to guide him in when he dos not feel the need to call me.

Notice, he is my son, not a son of society.




Larry

[arimor]

Originally Posted by Arish

I understand and agree with alot of what you are saying. I am American and I am into alot of different things that most afro American people are not into. And when I do find one that is into things I am into I am just not attracted physically most of the time. I have dated many afro American women in my life time and it just didn't work for me. But I feel what you are saying in your message and for some people that may be true. I am sure in other countries blacks are alot more open minded about things especially in Europe and in the islands. But unfortunately I grew up in the south and I haven't had that luxury at all i wish i did. I am attracted to certain attributes and when I find those attributes in a black women they seem like they think too too much of themselves. It is not a white or black thing it is mostly attributes and what I have in common with that person mind and soul and I hate a closed mind. I hate to feel like I am in a box or I haven't advanced. I worked in an office with two afro American women and one of them was gorgeous to look at but I felt no connection. She use to complain about my music constantly and we clashed on everything. Also she played old school R&b over and over and she was only 28 years old? And I like to try new, daring and experimental things also my look isn't traditional or my style of music. But alot of things you have said in the last two messages makes alot of sense it really does.

agreed it is kind of sad when we limit ouselves to certain things, tho i do know a few black american women who do damn near everything bcause life is short! i myself want to go mountain climbing lol at least a few times and travel alot more