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Old 07-20-2012, 08:20 AM
 
Location: ATL
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Tony must be black. Typical of a black man to use a woman's cooking skills as her inability attract a mate. I'm an excellent cook. I have cooked for the few men I've dated here. That didn't make them want to marry me.

I know plenty of women of all races who cook and clean for their men, only to be dumped. Cooking and cleaning is not why men choose a mate. That's a myth.
Yep I'm super Blk lol but it is what it is. Men generally want someone who will cook and generally women want a man that is bringing home the $$$ so that they can spend it. I will say this, most southern men want a woman that cooks. It's ok if some don't nut that only means that we will not view them as a potential wife. They will stay in the friend/sex partner group and not the potential wifey group
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Old 07-20-2012, 08:21 AM
 
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It's not hard. Just go out, dress nice and go hang out. Do not stand around with the people you came with. Women always have that one hating friend and more men will approach you if you are not with your girls. If you are standing by yourself at least 8 guys will Holla at you. Just smile and have a good attitude. It's not that hard to do. Join networking organizations, join a church, volunteer, travel, go to festivals,etc. What kind of vibe do you give off? If you give out a bad vibe guys will move to the next girl in a heartbeat.

I understand. Like I said, I'm not too pressed yet. I know I probably give off an awkward /standoffish vibe lol. Most of the time I dont like when guys holla at me. The way they approach is usually a turn off, but sometimes I just go with the flow just to see where it goes. I like the more natural approach rather than just trying to "holla". If atleast 8 guys holla atleast 6 are just trying to smash instantly.lol.

I'm the type that be on twitter/texting/instragram at the bar/club so I'm not complaining...I can do better.lol. Also, I've noticed that there arent many men in church these days, especially not single men.
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Old 07-20-2012, 08:39 AM
 
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Think of dating like "hunting". If the fish aren't biting where you're at (standing in the magazine aisle at Barnes and Noble, reading the paper at Caribou) try fishing a little further up/down stream.

As to the church comment - just go to a larger church - it widens your net. There are some megachurches in the area that have thousands of guys every Sunday (better than a church with 82 members). I'm not saying you have to settle there or change your beliefs - but you have to put yourself out there where the action is - find one that's tangently close to your beliefs.

Think of it from a guy's perspective - what do guys do on a Friday/Saturday/Sunday - maybe wake up late, hit up some place to eat, go to the gym, etc. Datable guys are not going to be walking around Lenox Mall, having brunch at Murphy's or visiting an art fair. That's what women and their friends do. You'll find them at the beer festivals, Comic Can, Soap Box Derby, LA Fitness etc. That's where you need to go.
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Old 07-20-2012, 08:41 AM
 
Location: ATL
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I understand. Like I said, I'm not too pressed yet. I know I probably give off an awkward /standoffish vibe lol. Most of the time I dont like when guys holla at me. The way they approach is usually a turn off, but sometimes I just go with the flow just to see where it goes. I like the more natural approach rather than just trying to "holla". If atleast 8 guys holla atleast 6 are just trying to smash instantly.lol.

I'm the type that be on twitter/texting/instragram at the bar/club so I'm not complaining...I can do better.lol. Also, I've noticed that there arent many men in church these days, especially not single men.
See you are proving my point lol. You complaining about dating but you do not like guys aporoaching you.


I don't know why guys do not go to church.
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Old 07-20-2012, 08:45 AM
 
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Atlanta is weird.

I visited Atlanta a few weeks ago, and I've never been approached by so many women in my life. I'm not a bad looking guy, but I'm not ALL THAT. I also have a very lucrative career, and kind of dress the part, but there are a lot "30k millionaires" in Atlanta, so that wouldn't be enough for me to stand out.

It must be pretty bad in Atlanta for no less than a dozen women to approach me in the course of one day. Lol. I have NEVER been THAT guy.

Maybe I SHOULD move to Atlanta after all. Heh.
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Old 07-20-2012, 08:55 AM
 
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See you are proving my point lol. You complaining about dating but you do not like guys aporoaching you.


I don't know why guys do not go to church.
LOL but I'm not complaining! I just stated that my dating experience havent been favorable and I'm not blaming anyone but myself.
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Old 07-20-2012, 08:56 AM
 
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Atlanta is weird.

I visited Atlanta a few weeks ago, and I've never been approached by so many women in my life. I'm not a bad looking guy, but I'm not ALL THAT. I also have a very lucrative career, and kind of dress the part, but there are a lot "30k millionaires" in Atlanta, so that wouldn't be enough for me to stand out.

It must be pretty bad in Atlanta for no less than a dozen women to approach me in the course of one day. Lol. I have NEVER been THAT guy.

Maybe I SHOULD move to Atlanta after all. Heh.

How did they approach you? How do men like to be approached? lol
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Old 07-20-2012, 09:15 AM
 
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How did they approach you? How do men like to be approached? lol
They were all overly friendly and kind of aggressive. It was flattering, but I'm not deluded enough to believe it's because I'm so handsome. The women that approached me looked to be career oriented, and considering I saw quite a few obviously gay men in Atlanta, AND a LARGE number of thug/thug-wannabe's...

....I think I'm understanding what the issue is. Not only are there more women, but the pool of available, desirable guys is pretty low. That means that the competition for the remaining "desirables" is going to be... well, competitive.

As for how men like to be approached? That depends on the guy, and I know that doesn't help you at all.
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Old 07-20-2012, 09:19 AM
 
Location: ATL
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All the Rappers rap about it being 30 women to 1 man which is BS
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Old 07-20-2012, 12:01 PM
 
Location: Sweet Home...CHICAGO
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The numbers just aren't stacked in the favor of single black women looking for serious relationships in this place.

If I was willing to settle for booty calls, I'd have men lined up. But because I'm seeking something serious they don't want to be bothered. And in response to Tony, I'm not cooking and cleaning for a man who isn't trying to marry me. Cooking and cleaning for a boyfriend does not mean he'll make you a wife. In most cases he doesn't.

Men go by chemistry and whether or not they are in the settling down phase of their lives. If a man isn't ready to commit, his girlfirend being a domestic goddess doesn't change that.
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