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Old 07-19-2012, 07:59 PM
 
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LOL. I'm already here..been here for 3 years now. I think I'll pass though, dont think that's my type.heh.

are you female? what has been your perspective having been living in atl for 3 years?
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Old 07-19-2012, 08:47 PM
 
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are you female? what has been your perspective having been living in atl for 3 years?
Yes... Personally, my dating experience havent been good. I cant complain too much, because it's mainly my fault .....bad work schedule, my interests, places I go, the fact that I feel like i dont particularly "fit in" anywhere, im kinda shy, etc. Also, I'm too picky, but at the same time, very flexible and open minded. I've "settled" and "talked to/dated" some guys just to do something, but nothing has come of it. I just havent met a man with the the type of balance I need. I'm 27, but I'm not TOO pressed about it... still just trying to chill and be patient. Even though most of my friends are married & and/or have kids , I wouldnt trade my situation for theirs!
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Old 07-19-2012, 09:31 PM
 
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LOL. I'm already here..been here for 3 years now. I think I'll pass though, dont think that's my type.heh.
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Yes... Personally, my dating experience havent been good. I cant complain too much, because it's mainly my fault .....bad work schedule, my interests, places I go, the fact that I feel like i dont particularly "fit in" anywhere, im kinda shy, etc. Also, I'm too picky, but at the same time, very flexible and open minded. I've "settled" and "talked to/dated" some guys just to do something, but nothing has come of it. I just havent met a man with the the type of balance I need. I'm 27, but I'm not TOO pressed about it... still just trying to chill and be patient. Even though most of my friends are married & and/or have kids , I wouldnt trade my situation for theirs!

Girl I love your thought process. Everything you said is like me standing in front a mirror saying it to my damn self.
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Old 07-20-2012, 05:11 AM
 
Location: Sweet Home...CHICAGO
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I'm a single female living in Atlanta for many years. I have no prospects for even as much as a dinner date, much less anything else. Men don't even want to take women on dates anymore. They just want to try to pull that lame "Let's watch a movie at my/your place " bs in an effort to get in your pants but not have to take you on a real date. These types I quickly tell to get lost.

I go out and I've had several ads up over the years and nothing. I date interacially and nothing. Men find me attractive but will not ask me out. When I ask them out I get turned down, or they say they want to go out but never follow through. But I mostly find men are not interested than anything more than sex.

It took me a long time--too long--to figure out that I need to leave Atlanta if I want to find a mate. So I have to work on getting out of here.
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Old 07-20-2012, 06:22 AM
 
Location: ATL
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I'm a single female living in Atlanta for many years. I have no prospects for even as much as a dinner date, much less anything else. Men don't even want to take women on dates anymore. They just want to try to pull that lame "Let's watch a movie at my/your place " bs in an effort to get in your pants but not have to take you on a real date. These types I quickly tell to get lost.

I go out and I've had several ads up over the years and nothing. I date interacially and nothing. Men find me attractive but will not ask me out. When I ask them out I get turned down, or they say they want to go out but never follow through. But I mostly find men are not interested than anything more than sex.

It took me a long time--too long--to figure out that I need to leave Atlanta if I want to find a mate. So I have to work on getting out of here.
I need for you to stop blaming Atlanta for your shortcoming. It is over 2.5 million men here and you can't find one. Don't blame Atlanta. If you are a catch men would not have no problem wifing you up. You need to look at yourself first. What do you bring to the table? Can you cook? Are you submissive? Do you have an attitude problem? Do you have baggage? Etc. The marriage rate is at an all time low nationwide not just here. Men are not pressured to get married today like it was back in the day. Remember you are competing against other women. If you or anyone else are not bringing anything to the table we have no reason to pay for a date. I advise women to keep their debt low, pay off their student loan, etc. It's the same way in other cities unless you live in a small city with a large military base. Not bashing you but too many people fill entitled to go out on dates and those are the same people that never go out, have bad attitudes, nag too much,etc

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Old 07-20-2012, 06:35 AM
 
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I need for you to stop blaming Atlanta for your shortcoming. It is over 2.5 million men here and you can't find one. Don't blame Atlanta. If you are a catch men would not have no problem wifing you up. You need to look at yourself first. What do you bring to the table? Can you cook? Are you submissive? Do you have an attitude problem? Do you have baggage? Etc

I agree with Tony. As you see I didnt blame Atlanta, nor the the men. I know there are things I could do to better my chances.I think I'm a decent catch, I work, have a degree, supportive,submissive, can cook, good atttitude/sense of humor, zero baggage,open minded, flexible, etc. etc.... However, what Atlanta_BD said is accurate. I probably see that scenario more often than not.
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Old 07-20-2012, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Sweet Home...CHICAGO
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Tony must be black. Typical of a black man to use a woman's cooking skills as her inability attract a mate. I'm an excellent cook. I have cooked for the few men I've dated here. That didn't make them want to marry me.

I know plenty of women of all races who cook and clean for their men, only to be dumped. Cooking and cleaning is not why men choose a mate. That's a myth.
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Old 07-20-2012, 06:50 AM
 
Location: ATL
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I agree with Tony. As you see I didnt blame Atlanta, nor the the men. I know there are things I could do to better my chances.I think I'm a decent catch, I work, have a degree, supportive,submissive, can cook, good atttitude/sense of humor, zero baggage,open minded, flexible, etc. etc.... However, what Atlanta_BD said is accurate. I probably see that scenario more often than not.
It's not hard. Just go out, dress nice and go hang out. Do not stand around with the people you came with. Women always have that one hating friend and more men will approach you if you are not with your girls. If you are standing by yourself at least 8 guys will Holla at you. Just smile and have a good attitude. It's not that hard to do. Join networking organizations, join a church, volunteer, travel, go to festivals,etc. What kind of vibe do you give off? If you give out a bad vibe guys will move to the next girl in a heartbeat.
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Old 07-20-2012, 06:51 AM
 
Location: Sweet Home...CHICAGO
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Why can't men accept that every woman who can't find anyone doesn't always have to have something wrong with her?

There are plenty of good people who simply just can't find anyone.
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Old 07-20-2012, 07:16 AM
 
Location: ATL
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Why can't men accept that every woman who can't find anyone doesn't always have to have something wrong with her?

There are plenty of good people who simply just can't find anyone.
Generally something is wrong with her or she is too picky or something she is doing is wrong. Someone may be a good person but that does not mean they are dating material. Just because someone has a good job and a 836 credit score doea not mean they are a good catch
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