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Everyday, I see women that are single, cool, and approachable. Gorgeous women too. I will say this though. Sisters: Smile. Do you know why Terrific & Successful Tyrone is walking down the street with Becky or Mitzy? She smiles. She says (and this is crazy) "Hello" when she passes him in the hallway or going down the street. And good googly boogly....she even bought Terrific Tyrone a drink when they went out (Gasp!). She laughed, she flirted, she had a good time with Terrific Tyrone and told him that she had a good time as well. And wonder of wonders..he had a great time too and he even told her that he enjoyed himself as well. Be friendly.
Agitated Anesha: "Just because I'm not all smiling and cheezin' in your face doesn't mean that I'm not nice!!!!" LOL.
There are a lot of incredible sisters out there, though. Sometimes it just takes time....
I NEVER reply to posts, but I gotta say you are 100000000000% CORRECT
I can't tell you how many times I have personally had a date with "Agiatated Anesha", the experienced ALWAYS SUCKED!!! There are way too many "Agitated Aneshas" and not enough "Pleasant Qa'Neshas" .
Erm . .. I'm a guy wondering about where these women are.
They're out there bro. We just have to be patient. There is a lot of "noise" we have to filter through. *sprays on cologne, rolls up cuffs and heads to lounge*
I can't wait to meet my spiritual, musical, eclectic, down-to-earth, curvy, kind, smart, sassy, shorty doo wop da ILL!!! I wonder what she is doing right now. lol
If you are black woman looking for a black man here in Atlanta...forget it! Take it from me...I've lived here all my life and I'm preparing to graduate from grad school. The higher your education the more difficult time you'll have finding a black man. Many of the women here date married men...I assume it's because that's how bad things are but I'm not down with that cause that's not how I was raised. When you do meet an educated black man, chances are he's a cocky player cause he knows he's in demand and has power and can act anyway he wants cause lets face, he can find any woman he wants cause many will put up with it cause they want and need male attention and they have a hard time finding one that is dateable. The interracial scene is pathetic.....Asian men won't date or marry black women. White men will date black women but not likely to marry one. Many of the hispanics here are Mexican and cannot speak good english and lack education but are open to dating black women. Please believe me on this. Black women here are pitiful. I've heard other black women who move here from other states say "Wow, I've never seen so many women date married men".
If you are black woman looking for a black man here in Atlanta...forget it! Take it from me...I've lived here all my life and I'm preparing to graduate from grad school. The higher your education the more difficult time you'll have finding a black man. Many of the women here date married men...I assume it's because that's how bad things are but I'm not down with that cause that's not how I was raised. When you do meet an educated black man, chances are he's a cocky player cause he knows he's in demand and has power and can act anyway he wants cause lets face, he can find any woman he wants cause many will put up with it cause they want and need male attention and they have a hard time finding one that is dateable. The interracial scene is pathetic.....Asian men won't date or marry black women. White men will date black women but not likely to marry one. Many of the hispanics here are Mexican and cannot speak good english and lack education but are open to dating black women. Please believe me on this. Black women here are pitiful. I've heard other black women who move here from other states say "Wow, I've never seen so many women date married men".
You are exactly right. I've met soooo many married men who find it strange I will not talk to them. They don't have an issue getting women to deal with them even when they let them know plainly that they're married. And you're right about the educated ones...they know they're in demand. It's a lost cause. They will let you know they have options!!
I haven't commented on this thread but I've had enough of this black women don't smile nonsense. For one thing, if you're with Becky it's because you want to be with Becky. Becky is free to smile and flirt, because it's highly unlikely that Becky will find herself on the receiving end of a bullet (or in one case a machete) if she dares reject a man's overtures on the street. Just walking down the street is enough to have foul and debasing language of the worst sort directed towards you. Why on earth would we SMILE?
I have to say, as a MIDDLE-AGED white woman, I still get lots of flack on the street from men, all races. It's because I am about 2 years away from looking my age....I keep myself very physically fit nowadays and my skin hasn't yet started to crease a lot.
Anyway, my main reaction is to pretend I didn't hear it. I don't flinch, look, etc, in any way to show that I heard what the guy said.
If he's persistent I will tell him I am married and flash my wedding band. To date that has largely been successful. However, there are always a few men who will persist even with that knowledge. These men are often not violent types, though, so you can feel free to give them a piece of your mind.
So, my first piece of advice to all women, black and white and any color, is to (1) play dumb, and then (2) play married. Carry yourself a fake wedding band if need be.
But otherwise, I'm outta words.
But sisters, know this, in me you have at least one sister, no matter that I am middle aged and white, who will come stand next to you if I see some guy giving you flack. I will edge over and try to meet your eyes. If you meet mine I will come stand next to you and start talking to you like you're my best friend. And if he doesn't go away then, I will confront him, holding your hand.
To me it seems like a majority of educated black men in Atlanta are intimidated by a educated, successful woman. It seems as if the only men that approach me are "gangsta" "hood" men, which I am not at all attracted to, and yes I am a black woman. I would say I am a rather good catch, no kids, down to earth, educated, attractive, and approachable(so i thought) etc., yet I have not met a decent single man since i moved to metro atlanta from New York in 2004. So I dont know what the problem is there are men who are claiming to be single eligible bachelors but when it comes down to it they are no where to be found. Where are you all hiding if you say you exist???, which i know you must! Yes I do have standards because I REFUSE to be just another baby mother! I hope to one day share the experience of starting a family with a man whom does not have previous children of his own. I guess I'm just not mature enough to accept being 2nd best. What is sad is, I heard from another young sister that a black man with no kids in this day & age is just impossible..If that is the case I guess its a house full of cats for me! I am hoping to at least find a decent man once I transfer & continue my education @ GSU this Fall, but I'm sure not holding my breath on it. I just can't waist the energy on this topic any longer...seems like a never ending battle!
I have to say, as a MIDDLE-AGED white woman, I still get lots of flack on the street from men, all races. It's because I am about 2 years away from looking my age....I keep myself very physically fit nowadays and my skin hasn't yet started to crease a lot.
Anyway, my main reaction is to pretend I didn't hear it. I don't flinch, look, etc, in any way to show that I heard what the guy said.
If he's persistent I will tell him I am married and flash my wedding band. To date that has largely been successful. However, there are always a few men who will persist even with that knowledge. These men are often not violent types, though, so you can feel free to give them a piece of your mind.
So, my first piece of advice to all women, black and white and any color, is to (1) play dumb, and then (2) play married. Carry yourself a fake wedding band if need be.
But otherwise, I'm outta words.
But sisters, know this, in me you have at least one sister, no matter that I am middle aged and white, who will come stand next to you if I see some guy giving you flack. I will edge over and try to meet your eyes. If you meet mine I will come stand next to you and start talking to you like you're my best friend. And if he doesn't go away then, I will confront him, holding your hand.
I've done it before.
Often not violent types??? You obviously haven't been hit on by the cocky abnoxious New York males. "Disrespect" them and find a glass bottle being thrown at your head!!! It's just sad!!!
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